Anonymous
04/16/2018 14:45
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
NP here. None of my relationships (including one marriage) with guys who had less education or earned less were successful. They all felt insufficient and resentful.
Anonymous
04/16/2018 14:09
Subject: Re:Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
I don't know anyone - extended family, high school and college friends, coworker buddies - anyone at all who married outside of the class of their family of origin. All the couples I know also have similar levels of education and income, but some are SAHMs or mommy-tracked by choice.
I can't think of, for example, the son of a blue collar father and a retail worker mother married to the daughter of a parent or parents with advanced degrees or high-earning white collar professions. In fact, DH and I both have fathers with four-year degrees and middle incomes and mothers with high school diplomas who went back to work when the kids were in school in bookkeeping/secretarial work.
The only woman I know who significantly outearns her husband is a CPA. Her DH is underemployed due to an impractical grad degree and general bad luck in launching a career.
I can't think of, for example, the son of a blue collar father and a retail worker mother married to the daughter of a parent or parents with advanced degrees or high-earning white collar professions. In fact, DH and I both have fathers with four-year degrees and middle incomes and mothers with high school diplomas who went back to work when the kids were in school in bookkeeping/secretarial work.
The only woman I know who significantly outearns her husband is a CPA. Her DH is underemployed due to an impractical grad degree and general bad luck in launching a career.
Anonymous
04/16/2018 13:39
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I married down and am having a hard time. Neither of us makes very much money, but I make more than he, and pay most of the living expenses. I have a master's degree. He has an associate's degree. He is not particularly intellectual. He's a jock. He mispronounces words and uses incorrect words in sentences. I had to teach him how to dress. I wish I hadn't settled.
You married a semi-literate jock and are embarrassed by him. Got it.
What the hell does your masters degree have to do with anything? It didn’t get you a job to support your desired lifestyle. Did you expect men with degrees to be attracted to women with masters degrees?
I question whether she really "settled." How did a supposedly "intellectual" woman, with a masters degree, end up with a broke dumb jock (going by her description)? There much be another factor that balances this equation, one that she hasn't mentioned.
Look, a masters degree is two years of college, and actually working hard at it. It doesn’t make you attractive to a whole new class of accomplished, or intellectual, men. It might get you a better job.
Bill Gates married a woman at work who was willing to date him. Maybe she’s a real brain, but her significant characteristic was, other than, you know, being right in front of him was that she was willing to put up with his shit.
Lol. Also do you realize that aside from all his success, Bill Gates is also from a very wealthy family. His father was a very successful lawyer (founded the predecessor firm to K& L Gates).
Anonymous
04/16/2018 12:24
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:All women marry down.
+1
All the stars to this
Anonymous
04/15/2018 22:02
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
He had to like Monty Python, be intellectually curious, support my intellectual pursuits, be loving, fun, great with me under the sheets. Money was never part of my equation.
I met many guys along the way assuming I’d be so into them based on social climbing and because I was hot as shit at 25.
Different strokes, different folks. I married an equal partner. I wasn’t looking for a Daddy Warbucks who asked me to eventually quit my job, cheat on me and fund my future plastic surgery in some absuvive country club culture of mysoginy and queen bees reliving high school.
I met many guys along the way assuming I’d be so into them based on social climbing and because I was hot as shit at 25.
Different strokes, different folks. I married an equal partner. I wasn’t looking for a Daddy Warbucks who asked me to eventually quit my job, cheat on me and fund my future plastic surgery in some absuvive country club culture of mysoginy and queen bees reliving high school.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 19:07
Subject: Re:Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:This could be an interesting thread but people keep missing the point. It’s not about how much money you make.
You obviously haven’t read much written by women on this site.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 18:49
Subject: Re:Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
This could be an interesting thread but people keep missing the point. It’s not about how much money you make.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 17:32
Subject: Re:Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
it depends on many factors.
I attended one of the ACC Universities on a tennis scholarship and majored in accounting. I am 30 years old now and I only make 95k/year. I know a lot of wealthy people and lot of them want to date me because I consider myself a good looking and interesting person. One lady that I date spent has an allowance of 200k/month. She wanted to marry me and is willing to support me to pursuit my golf career if I choose to.
My wife is a lawyer and she works for big law. Her income is >1M/year and she is perfectly happy with what I do. She often mentions that she is lucky that she married an athlete with a brain. She is already making lot of money, she does not need more money to support her life style.
I attended one of the ACC Universities on a tennis scholarship and majored in accounting. I am 30 years old now and I only make 95k/year. I know a lot of wealthy people and lot of them want to date me because I consider myself a good looking and interesting person. One lady that I date spent has an allowance of 200k/month. She wanted to marry me and is willing to support me to pursuit my golf career if I choose to.
My wife is a lawyer and she works for big law. Her income is >1M/year and she is perfectly happy with what I do. She often mentions that she is lucky that she married an athlete with a brain. She is already making lot of money, she does not need more money to support her life style.
Anonymous
04/15/2018 12:48
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Bill Gates married a woman at work who was willing to date him. Maybe she’s a real brain, but her significant characteristic was, other than, you know, being right in front of him was that she was willing to put up with his shit.
She had to "put up with his shit"? Like being the richest man in the world?
It's a cross to bear. Thank God some woman was willing to do it.
/s
He had to promise to buy her Norway.
Anonymous
04/14/2018 11:32
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
Bill Gates married a woman at work who was willing to date him. Maybe she’s a real brain, but her significant characteristic was, other than, you know, being right in front of him was that she was willing to put up with his shit.
She had to "put up with his shit"? Like being the richest man in the world?
It's a cross to bear. Thank God some woman was willing to do it.
/s
Anonymous
04/14/2018 10:43
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I married down and am having a hard time. Neither of us makes very much money, but I make more than he, and pay most of the living expenses. I have a master's degree. He has an associate's degree. He is not particularly intellectual. He's a jock. He mispronounces words and uses incorrect words in sentences. I had to teach him how to dress. I wish I hadn't settled.
You married a semi-literate jock and are embarrassed by him. Got it.
What the hell does your masters degree have to do with anything? It didn’t get you a job to support your desired lifestyle. Did you expect men with degrees to be attracted to women with masters degrees?
I question whether she really "settled." How did a supposedly "intellectual" woman, with a masters degree, end up with a broke dumb jock (going by her description)? There much be another factor that balances this equation, one that she hasn't mentioned.
Look, a masters degree is two years of college, and actually working hard at it. It doesn’t make you attractive to a whole new class of accomplished, or intellectual, men. It might get you a better job.
Bill Gates married a woman at work who was willing to date him. Maybe she’s a real brain, but her significant characteristic was, other than, you know, being right in front of him was that she was willing to put up with his shit.
She had to "put up with his shit"? Like being the richest man in the world?
Anonymous
04/14/2018 10:35
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I married down and am having a hard time. Neither of us makes very much money, but I make more than he, and pay most of the living expenses. I have a master's degree. He has an associate's degree. He is not particularly intellectual. He's a jock. He mispronounces words and uses incorrect words in sentences. I had to teach him how to dress. I wish I hadn't settled.
You married a semi-literate jock and are embarrassed by him. Got it.
What the hell does your masters degree have to do with anything? It didn’t get you a job to support your desired lifestyle. Did you expect men with degrees to be attracted to women with masters degrees?
I question whether she really "settled." How did a supposedly "intellectual" woman, with a masters degree, end up with a broke dumb jock (going by her description)? There much be another factor that balances this equation, one that she hasn't mentioned.
Look, a masters degree is two years of college, and actually working hard at it. It doesn’t make you attractive to a whole new class of accomplished, or intellectual, men. It might get you a better job.
Bill Gates married a woman at work who was willing to date him. Maybe she’s a real brain, but her significant characteristic was, other than, you know, being right in front of him was that she was willing to put up with his shit.
Anonymous
04/14/2018 10:12
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I married down and am having a hard time. Neither of us makes very much money, but I make more than he, and pay most of the living expenses. I have a master's degree. He has an associate's degree. He is not particularly intellectual. He's a jock. He mispronounces words and uses incorrect words in sentences. I had to teach him how to dress. I wish I hadn't settled.
You married a semi-literate jock and are embarrassed by him. Got it.
What the hell does your masters degree have to do with anything? It didn’t get you a job to support your desired lifestyle. Did you expect men with degrees to be attracted to women with masters degrees?
I question whether she really "settled." How did a supposedly "intellectual" woman, with a masters degree, end up with a broke dumb jock (going by her description)? There much be another factor that balances this equation, one that she hasn't mentioned.
Anonymous
04/14/2018 10:08
Subject: Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Oh come on people. It's TOTALLY about the money.
Any of you bitches would have married a hundred millionaire or billionaire even if he hadn't graduated from college.
+1
Agree entirely.
Specifically, it's about status. In our society, a rich guy is high-status by default.
Anonymous
04/14/2018 09:21
Subject: Re:Do women have a hard time when they marry down?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:it is easier to find a smart rich person than a smart poor person... this I am sure of[/quote]
You’re surrounded by pretty smart people who didn’t get to go to a nice college with Mummy and Daddy’s money. Stop sneering.
-1
Don't be so sure.