Anonymous
03/28/2018 13:34
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:Yes go to Grandma's and don't come back until he's found a solution.
Do you scorched earth people handle every situation this way? Yes, it was a jerky thing to say, but maybe just turn it into a conversation? If my husband said something like that I'd tell him he should have said it nicer and then he would apologize and then we could discuss what to have for dinner. Your solution is to burn the house down every time you get a scuff on the wall. That's not how life works.
Anonymous
03/28/2018 13:05
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
let someone judge me but those sides from Trader Joe's are my besties. Sweet potato gnocchi and asparagus risotti have come through on more than one occassion. I work outside the home though.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 16:31
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:Is what DH told me today and DH travels for work 3-4 nights a week!!
We have a 6 week old and a 2 year old. Toddler has been sick for two weeks and thankfully has only passed a cold into the baby. . The easiest thing right now for me is to reorder my FreshDirect Cart and just make sure everyone is fed. I was livid and lost it. Told him he could do the shopping this week. He came back with berries. Thinking of going with kids to grandmas for some support and sanity.
Buy him a variety pack of top ramen.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 16:10
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
OP, lol at him eating cereal for dinner last night. He did that out of spite instead of putting on his big boy undies and cooking a meal for you both. Blue Apron and countless other services make it easy. Or he could have come home with take out. What an ass.
I would let his ungrateful ass chow down on fruit loops every night until he wakes up from 1954 and joins the rest of us in the present day.
I would let his ungrateful ass chow down on fruit loops every night until he wakes up from 1954 and joins the rest of us in the present day.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 14:46
Subject: Re:“I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
had never spent much time in coffee shops prior to that and I noticed that in the morning the coffee shop was full of moms that just dropped of their kids at school sitting around complaining about everything they needed to do that day. Then late morning the crowed changed to SAHM coming into the coffee shops after their workouts and sitting around complaining about how much stuff they needed to do before the kids got out of school. Then mid-afternoon the crowed changed to SAHM sitting around waiting for kid pickup time complaining about how busy their evening was going to be with homework and cooking and how their husbands never helped them.
After I caught onto the scam I no longer buy into the 50/50 narrative.
This is SAHM to children in school. We are talking about someone who is caring for a 6 week old and a 2 year old--worlds of difference.
If I were a SAHM with kids in school, you bet I'd cook every night, and run the household. But that's a different thing.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 12:14
Subject: Re:“I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I understand that having two kids at home requires work but (1) she chose to have two kids and (2) people have been taking care of kids and cooking meals throughout history. My mother had 5 kids at home and did the cooking and cleaning. House was damn clean also.
I don't think the level of work has increased either. When I was a kid there was no meal delivery services, mircorwaves, etc. Things took a lot more work and yet somehow the moms of that era got a lot more done. These days the SAHM want the husband to work then come home and start doing housework and taking care of the kids so they can get a break.
That's what the husband/partner SHOULD do. How is this not obvious? It should be 50/50 when the WOHP gets home. Why does one parent get a break in the evenings and the other parent is working all day?[/quote]
In reality SAHM do not work all day. I never really understood this until I took a sales job and the lead account manager who was a woman wanted to conduct pre-client meetings at coffee shops just prior to the client meetings. I had never spent much time in coffee shops prior to that and I noticed that in the morning the coffee shop was full of moms that just dropped of their kids at school sitting around complaining about everything they needed to do that day. Then late morning the crowed changed to SAHM coming into the coffee shops after their workouts and sitting around complaining about how much stuff they needed to do before the kids got out of school. Then mid-afternoon the crowed changed to SAHM sitting around waiting for kid pickup time complaining about how busy their evening was going to be with homework and cooking and how their husbands never helped them.
After I caught onto the scam I no longer buy into the 50/50 narrative.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 10:49
Subject: Re:“I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:These days the SAHM want the husband to work then come home and start doing housework and taking care of the kids so they can get a break.
Yes, that's right. Because why does he only get a break? I have both worked and taken care of little kids. Taking care of a newborn and toddler is a hell of a lot more exhausting than working in my office/traveling. No breaks, little adult conversation, drudgery and boredom. This is why we have to PAY PEOPLE for child care--because it is labor. Thus, they should split the labor at home. She labors at home and does her best to maximize her efficiency but when he comes out, they should split the labor.
after all, he chose to have two kids as well.
The way it worked in my family was that I worked at the office all day while my wife took care of the kids at home, then I worked at home all night taking care of the kids at home while she'd often go out to get some adult time with her friends. So, my adult time was in the context of work. Her adult time was in the context of leisure. Now that the kids are older, I don't really have any friends or a great idea of what to do with leisure time.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 10:38
Subject: Re:“I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread took off! I do work outside the home, I’m a teacher but have generous leave so done for the year. But I don’t really see how that matters, in this situation.
I told DH he was in charge of meals for himself this week. I didn’t do a grocery order or cook. He had cereal last night.
I do agree with the pp’s that said coming up with meals is the hardest, if anyone has suggestions. My go-to’s have been slow cooker enchiladas, tacos with beans and rice, simple fish and roast veg, pesto pasta and spaghetti and meatballs, chef salad.
Soups night: Black bean soup. Pumpkin soup. Tortilla Soup, chicken noodle soup, tomato soup, cream of vegetable soup, leek & Potato soup, french onion soup, chili, white bean soup, minestrone
Eggs night: Frittatas, quiches, omlettes, scrambled eggs and toast
Salads: Tons of different salads out there: https://www.dinneratthezoo.com/healthy-salad-recipes/
Baked potato night (sweet or white) with toppings: Tuna, corn, cheese, broccoli, etc.
Traditional night: Meat (chicken breast, pork chop, or steak) + potato (baked, hash browns, mashed) + salad or vegetable (roasted cauliflower, brussles sprouts, asparagus, green beans, broccoli)
Stir fry: Rice, onions, peppers, mushrooms, tofu, chicken. Mix up the veggies.
Breakfast for dinner night: Pancakes (corn, zucchini, potato, or fruit). Waffles. Eggs. Oatmeal.
Mini pizzas with salad.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 10:34
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:I make a version of this beef bourguinon in a slow cooker. I don’t add pork and just sear the beef before putting it in the crockpot. I also add carrots and potatoes and serve it over noodles.
Thank you! This looks good and simple. I’ll try it!
Anonymous
03/27/2018 10:34
Subject: Re:“I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread took off! I do work outside the home, I’m a teacher but have generous leave so done for the year. But I don’t really see how that matters, in this situation.
I told DH he was in charge of meals for himself this week. I didn’t do a grocery order or cook. He had cereal last night.
I do agree with the pp’s that said coming up with meals is the hardest, if anyone has suggestions. My go-to’s have been slow cooker enchiladas, tacos with beans and rice, simple fish and roast veg, pesto pasta and spaghetti and meatballs, chef salad.
What’s your toddler eating? I hope he’s not eating cereal for dinner as well!
OP here: of course I’m feeding my toddler. I have plenty of staples that we can be fine with out a major grocery order for a few days.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 10:24
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous
03/27/2018 10:23
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
I make a version of this beef bourguinon in a slow cooker. I don’t add pork and just sear the beef before putting it in the crockpot. I also add carrots and potatoes and serve it over noodles.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 10:15
Subject: Re:“I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:OP here. This thread took off! I do work outside the home, I’m a teacher but have generous leave so done for the year. But I don’t really see how that matters, in this situation.
I told DH he was in charge of meals for himself this week. I didn’t do a grocery order or cook. He had cereal last night.
I do agree with the pp’s that said coming up with meals is the hardest, if anyone has suggestions. My go-to’s have been slow cooker enchiladas, tacos with beans and rice, simple fish and roast veg, pesto pasta and spaghetti and meatballs, chef salad.
What’s your toddler eating? I hope he’s not eating cereal for dinner as well!
Anonymous
03/27/2018 08:56
Subject: Re:“I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
OP here. This thread took off! I do work outside the home, I’m a teacher but have generous leave so done for the year. But I don’t really see how that matters, in this situation.
I told DH he was in charge of meals for himself this week. I didn’t do a grocery order or cook. He had cereal last night.
I do agree with the pp’s that said coming up with meals is the hardest, if anyone has suggestions. My go-to’s have been slow cooker enchiladas, tacos with beans and rice, simple fish and roast veg, pesto pasta and spaghetti and meatballs, chef salad.
I told DH he was in charge of meals for himself this week. I didn’t do a grocery order or cook. He had cereal last night.
I do agree with the pp’s that said coming up with meals is the hardest, if anyone has suggestions. My go-to’s have been slow cooker enchiladas, tacos with beans and rice, simple fish and roast veg, pesto pasta and spaghetti and meatballs, chef salad.
Anonymous
03/27/2018 08:47
Subject: “I’m bored with what we eat for dinner”
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:"Are you eating dinner you didn't cook yourself? Consider yourself lucky. Do you see these babies?"
+1
He travels and you have a two year old and a six week old? He should be glad there is something to eat when he gets home.
Tell him that in no uncertain terms, and leave him with the kids for a couple hours one evening and/or a weekend morning just to remind him what you're dealing with.
Damn.
This. I would have lost it too, OP.
To the people who are saying that OP overreacted, did you birth children? Do you remember what it was like at 6 weeks pp? He’s lucky she’s cooking at all.