Anonymous wrote:Anyone who speaks in those terms, OP, is really, truly not someone you want to date. Just keep doing you and dating.

That's not OP's problem. OP's problem is she speaks in those terms about herself! Honestly, I must me getting old, because I can't fathom where that way of estimating her worth comes from. She must be judging men in equally strange terms as well; her whole paradigm revolves about market value of relationships.

I'd say there are cats in OP's future. Not because she's at school or will have debt. Because of her outlook on life and relationships. It's freaking sad coming from a 29 year old.

Anonymous wrote:Anyone who speaks in those terms, OP, is really, truly not someone you want to date. Just keep doing you and dating.

Exactly.

His wording makes him sound like a total douchebag. What he should have said was, "I think we are in different places in our lives. I'm looking for someone who is out of school and in the working world and looking to settle down and have children in the next couple of years."

there's nothing wrong with what you are doing - I think it's a good thing - but you are in a different phase of life than people who are done with school and settled in their careers. That stuff will be your priority over the next few years, not marriage + kids, and it's probably best if you own it and look for someone who is cool with it.

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Anonymous wrote:Weird comment from him

Thought he was talking about being more attractive at first


Focus on being attractive, fun to be around and not crazy

Those attributes are way more important to a man than your career status if you are just talking about dating

By the time things get serious, your career will be on a better track

+1 Most guys couldn't care less about your academic credentials and earning potential. It's probably only an issue to guys who live beyond their means or are obsessed with status. And for guys with money, all of that stuff is even less relevant. If you are feminine, non-militant, and try to complement your man, you will be just fine.

How old are you people posting stuff like this? Mid 40’s at least I’m guessing? Nowadays, a woman’s a catch if she has her life together, which means higher education in a marketable field, no student loans, and family wealth. The days of the cute, dumb secretary having her pick of guys are over unless her family is wealthy.

Some young guys do want what you are describing, but its because young guys rarely have any money and most haven't lived outside the US, so they have different priorities. I think you are looking at this from the perspective of an educated young woman. And what you think a guy cares about and what a guy REALLY cares about are two very different things.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow what a terrible person. I'm a nanny and single guys probably think that way about me but the divorced DILFs loooooove me. I'm cute and great with kids. There's a lid for every pot!

I like your attitude! What is a DILF , by the way?

I'm a DILF and while I can pull women in their 20s, and nannys, I tend to go for women with high-powered careers.

It’s kind of weird to call yourself that, though t will certainly save people like the PP the trouble of telling you to go f yourself, since by your own statement, you’ve got that covered.

He's such a d-bag that he's probably turned on by your insult and is whacking off to it.

Nowadays, a woman’s a catch if she has her life together, which means higher education in a marketable field, no student loans, and family wealth. The days of the cute, dumb secretary having her pick of guys are over unless her family is wealthy.

You’re certainly hung up on wealth. Most of us care about looks, personality, and libido. Her bank account is hardly a priority. And why the contempt for secretaries?

Anonymous wrote:That statement is just the worst derogatory thing any person can say to another.
The problem here is HIM, not YOU.

Thank your luck stars that this idiot is no longer a part of your life.

He sounds like an insecure snob.

This. He makes it sound like he wants an arranged marriage. Ignore what he said! But be glad that at least you found out early that he's a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:You dodged a bullet OP.

Exactly!!

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Anonymous wrote:Wow what a terrible person. I'm a nanny and single guys probably think that way about me but the divorced DILFs loooooove me. I'm cute and great with kids. There's a lid for every pot!

I like your attitude! What is a DILF , by the way?

I'm a DILF and while I can pull women in their 20s, and nannys, I tend to go for women with high-powered careers.

It’s kind of weird to call yourself that, though t will certainly save people like the PP the trouble of telling you to go f yourself, since by your own statement, you’ve got that covered.

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Anonymous wrote:Weird comment from him

Thought he was talking about being more attractive at first


Focus on being attractive, fun to be around and not crazy

Those attributes are way more important to a man than your career status if you are just talking about dating

By the time things get serious, your career will be on a better track

+1 Most guys couldn't care less about your academic credentials and earning potential. It's probably only an issue to guys who live beyond their means or are obsessed with status. And for guys with money, all of that stuff is even less relevant. If you are feminine, non-militant, and try to complement your man, you will be just fine.

How old are you people posting stuff like this? Mid 40’s at least I’m guessing? Nowadays, a woman’s a catch if she has her life together, which means higher education in a marketable field, no student loans, and family wealth. The days of the cute, dumb secretary having her pick of guys are over unless her family is wealthy.

"Not in my league" doesn't ever just refer to a woman's career prospects -- not to a guy. It's about total attractiveness.

He wasn't right for you. Someone else will be.

guy knows what he wants, he's at a certain status in his life and you don't measure up. It's that simple. Instead of being butthurt about it move on. We've been telling women they don't have to accept anything less than what they want, why should guys be any different?

Don’t listen to this idiot or assume it because you’re focused on your education. This man is only trying to boost his low self esteem. You will meet someone you values your goals and ambition. After leaving a high paying career in DC at 29, I pursued a PhD in anthropology. I met someone right after leaving and have been married to him for 11 years. He knew I wouldn’t have any real income for a few years and wouldn’t have a very lucrative career path after. He just cared about my interest.

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Anonymous wrote:I might be the minortity, but I agree with him. You’re 29 and just now getting your life together? You don’t seem like a suitable match for anyone who wants to get married and start a family. You will always be busy, and you’re unlikely to be financially stable. I picked a woman who had her sh*t together, because I didn’t want to support anyone.

Thank God you're not in the dating pool anymore!

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Not every woman wants to marry a tightwad cheapskate like the pp. If he doesn't want to support anyone will his wife lose her worth to him if she is laid off or loses her job?

Yeah, but not everyone (man or woman) wants to date a 29 year old who doesn't have a college degree.

What a douche.