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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those damn older whites women...lol.

I can tell you I, for one, would need to be medicated if I didn't work out regularly. Hard workouts are my antidepressant!

Mine too!
47 WW

Why are white wonen so anxious and depressed.

*whites women, you mean

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Those damn older whites women...lol.

I can tell you I, for one, would need to be medicated if I didn't work out regularly. Hard workouts are my antidepressant!

Mine too!
47 WW

Why are white wonen so anxious and depressed.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Because thin is more attractive. Sorry, but it’s true.

but exercise doesn't make you thin. if you want to be thin, eat less.

Maybe it doesn't make YOU thin. But when I work out, I can eat pretty much whatever I want, and still maintain a slender toned figure.

but why would you want to eat so much? do your really take so much pleasure in stuffing yourself with food?

Not PP, but you’re being ridiculous. You’re probably so miserable because all you eat is boneless chicken breasts and cauliflower forever. “Eating whatever she wants” doesn’t equate to being an obese fatty, like you’re insinuating. Like PP, when I work out regularly, I can eat about 1800 calories a day and not gain weight. I know from reading DCUM that’s a lot more calories than most you can eat because you refuse to get off your lazy a**es. I’m not “stuffing myself with food,” but I don’t have to deny myself pizza or ice cream if I want a treat. I can have an extra helping of mashed potatoes. I’m sorry your intermittent fasting and lack of carbs has made you completely miserable in life.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because thin is more attractive. Sorry, but it’s true.

but exercise doesn't make you thin. if you want to be thin, eat less.

Maybe it doesn't make YOU thin. But when I work out, I can eat pretty much whatever I want, and still maintain a slender toned figure.

but why would you want to eat so much? do your really take so much pleasure in stuffing yourself with food?

I feel there are two people having a bickering match here in the middle of our conversation lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Because white men are conditioned to value skinny, big boobs, blonde, young. Men of color seem to like some meat on the bones.

It's so funny that the women on this thread don't even know they were socialized to be "fitness obsessed"... I just love it, it's just in my spirit, I was always this way.

I have to exercise to put meat on my bones and some curves in all the right places. Otherwise I look like a little boy. It's nice if you are genetically gifted to look exactly how you like to look.

You have a very unhealthy view of your body. This is due to women hating on women so much in this society. Some women are small and thin and other women say they "look like a little boy".

It's great that you can get the body you want by hitting the gym, but you shouldn't play into the "little boy'' crap that women try to throw at other women.

I've never heard anyone call me a little boy, nor have I ever called anyone that. My boobs / shoulders / butt used to be small. Now my shoulders and butt are curvy due to lifting heavy weights and eating properly and I have an hourglass figure that I think looks good and is more proportional. Nothing unhealthy about that.

Not to mention I'm genetically predisposed to osteoporosis and depression and anxiety run in my family. Lifting weights and regularly exercising counteracts that. Not sure why anyone cares if others spend their free time exercising. Insecurity, perhaps?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because white men are conditioned to value skinny, big boobs, blonde, young. Men of color seem to like some meat on the bones.

It's so funny that the women on this thread don't even know they were socialized to be "fitness obsessed"... I just love it, it's just in my spirit, I was always this way.

I have to exercise to put meat on my bones and some curves in all the right places. Otherwise I look like a little boy. It's nice if you are genetically gifted to look exactly how you like to look.

You have a very unhealthy view of your body. This is due to women hating on women so much in this society. Some women are small and thin and other women say they "look like a little boy".

It's great that you can get the body you want by hitting the gym, but you shouldn't play into the "little boy'' crap that women try to throw at other women.

I've never heard anyone call me a little boy, nor have I ever called anyone that. My boobs / shoulders / butt used to be small. Now my shoulders and butt are curvy due to lifting heavy weights and eating properly and I have an hourglass figure that I think looks good and is more proportional. Nothing unhealthy about that.

Anonymous wrote:Pakistani American here.

White American women generally are expected to look "sexy" well into their older years. There is no other alternative for them in society as they age. Obviously their bodies age and the only thing they can think of to stop the hands of time is to work out so much so that they retain their 00 figures from their twenties. This doesn' make them look young but its better in their POV than the alternative.

In other cultures women also have the pressure to look young but it usually stops after marriage and kids. Once middle age sets in, women happily embrace the role of the matriarch of the family and don't go out of their way to compete with their 22 year old daughters.

In America a woman must perpetually look nubile and 22.

Or else theyre invisible.

50 yo white woman here. ITA. While I have no desire to compete with 20 year olds, it is so true that in the US, women are invisible once they hit middle age. Our culture dosn't have an honored matriarchal role, we are expected to maintain our careers (and the workplace is rife with ageism) and our looks. No one wants to feel invisible or irrelevant when they are healthy, active, vibrant and beautiful. It stinks. So yes, I stay thin, I look great, and I don't resent the effort it takes, but I wish women had more options.

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Anonymous wrote:Because thin is more attractive. Sorry, but it’s true.

but exercise doesn't make you thin. if you want to be thin, eat less.

Maybe it doesn't make YOU thin. But when I work out, I can eat pretty much whatever I want, and still maintain a slender toned figure.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because white men are conditioned to value skinny, big boobs, blonde, young. Men of color seem to like some meat on the bones.

It's so funny that the women on this thread don't even know they were socialized to be "fitness obsessed"... I just love it, it's just in my spirit, I was always this way.

I have to exercise to put meat on my bones and some curves in all the right places. Otherwise I look like a little boy. It's nice if you are genetically gifted to look exactly how you like to look.

You have a very unhealthy view of your body. This is due to women hating on women so much in this society. Some women are small and thin and other women say they "look like a little boy".

It's great that you can get the body you want by hitting the gym, but you shouldn't play into the "little boy'' crap that women try to throw at other women.

Didn't read this whole thread, but as somebody who basically fits the description OP gave (except I'm 35 not 30), fitness for me is what I WISH I'd been striving for in my 20s instead of caring about hair/makeup/clothes. It makes me feel good; it's healthy; it helps me be active with my kids; I feel strong; the list goes on. The icing on the cake is that I stay thin from doing it - it is DEFINITELY not the reason I do it. If I wanted to look hot, I'd be doing something different, because I know I look muscular and a little gaunt. But you know what? I'm super strong and athletic, and I love it.

Agree with PP...if there is truth in this being a white woman thing, I bet it is related to hormones and staving off depression and anxiety.

Anonymous wrote:Those damn older whites women...lol.

I can tell you I, for one, would need to be medicated if I didn't work out regularly. Hard workouts are my antidepressant!

Mine too!
47 WW

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because white men are conditioned to value skinny, big boobs, blonde, young. Men of color seem to like some meat on the bones.

It's so funny that the women on this thread don't even know they were socialized to be "fitness obsessed"... I just love it, it's just in my spirit, I was always this way.

I do love it. I also do exercise that has made me more muscular than most men like. I’m definitely not skinny, and many men have told me I’m too muscular and that it’s a turn off. I’m not working out to look like what men want (believe me, if I wanted that, I’d just get a boob job), I just really like lifting things up and putting them down.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do you generalize about white(s) women?

Because it's true.

I must not have gotten the memo.