Anonymous wrote:Because the terms, emotional abuse and the more recent, gaslighting are so overused by women. Do men ever suffer emotional abuse? Or gaslighting? Probably just as much as women, right? How often to you hear men claim it?

But every woman in a bad relationship claims, at very least, to have been emotionally abused. Really, it gets a bit old. There is your answer, like it or not.

Well it can not be the woman’s fault.

Husband not trying hard enough to get Precious Snowflake into TJ: that's child abuse.

Anonymous wrote:Because nowadays everything is “abuse” and it’s en vogue to be a victim.

Once again, from this thread - http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/30/705807.page

Haven't you heard? These days, anything a man does that a woman doesn't like gets labeled as some kind of abuse.

You get angry and raise your voice? That's verbal abuse
Try to ignore it and not say anything? That's emotional abuse
Spend your money in a way she doesn't agree? That's financial abuse
Ask her for sex more often than she wants it? That's sexual abuse
Try to get physical anyway? Of course, that's physical abuse. Also sexual abuse.
Likewise, don't give it to her as often as she wants. That's sexual deprivation...abuse
Call her out on her crazy? That's mental abuse..oh and, Gaslighting, but that's another thread
Tracking her social media because you don't trust her? That's...wait for it...I swear this is real... Technological abuse
Sending her text messages, expecting a response but getting nothing? That's Cyber abuse
Harassing her about an actual affair when you catch her? That's Psychological abuse
Telling her you wish she would eat healthy and maybe lose a few? Fat shaming, emotional abuse
Belittling her academic focus or worthless degree? That's academic abuse
Not being nice to her in public if, for example, she is drunk and flirting with other men? That's Social abuse
Driving too fast with her in the car? That's Environmental abuse, or maybe, Vehicular abuse if it's her car.

Feel free to add to the list if you like. Remember, every interaction with a man that a woman finds unpleasant these days is surely some kind of abuse.

Because the terms, emotional abuse and the more recent, gaslighting are so overused by women. Do men ever suffer emotional abuse? Or gaslighting? Probably just as much as women, right? How often to you hear men claim it?

But every woman in a bad relationship claims, at very least, to have been emotionally abused. Really, it gets a bit old. There is your answer, like it or not.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse isn't taken seriously because it's usually women engaging in it.

+100 I use to sell services that required meeting both the husband and wife. Many of the wives were emotional abuse to the husband right in front of me. Call the guy stupid, saying he has a small penis, mocking him, rolling their eyes anytime he said anything, telling him to shut up, saying he was a failure because he did not make enough money, etc, etc. It was shocking. This type of behavior is always laughed off.

What the hell kind of job did you have??!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse isn't taken seriously because it's usually women engaging in it.

gas-lighting example here folks!

You mean your post right? You are gaslighting another poster because...you think only men are emotional abusers? Wake up. What do think “mean girls” like yourself are?

hahahahhahaha. I love the triple pun. Wowzers.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse isn't taken seriously because it's usually women engaging in it.

gas-lighting example here folks!

You mean your post right? You are gaslighting another poster because...you think only men are emotional abusers? Wake up. What do think “mean girls” like yourself are?

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse isn't taken seriously because it's usually women engaging in it.

+100 I use to sell services that required meeting both the husband and wife. Many of the wives were emotional abuse to the husband right in front of me. Call the guy stupid, saying he has a small penis, mocking him, rolling their eyes anytime he said anything, telling him to shut up, saying he was a failure because he did not make enough money, etc, etc. It was shocking. This type of behavior is always laughed off.

Anonymous wrote:Some therapists get it and some don't. I've written pretty extensively on this board over the years about sessions where therapists - especially marriage therapists - didn't "get it". OP, here is another resource for you the website outofthefog.net.

I got out and I am glad you did, too.

this is so true about marriage therapists - they are invested in saving the marriage, and they are conflicted because they actually have 2 clients and as such often cannot meet what would normally be considered their professional obligation to each individual client, instead they compromise interests, sometimes perpetuating very unhealthy relationships.

Also look at loveisrespect.org

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse isn't taken seriously because it's usually women engaging in it.

It goes both ways. Belittling, minimizing someone else is a horrible thing as a victim. Cuts to your identity.

Anonymous wrote:Emotional abuse isn't taken seriously because it's usually women engaging in it.

gas-lighting example here folks!

Emotional abuse isn't taken seriously because it's usually women engaging in it.

Anonymous wrote:I am a prosecutor and while emotional abuse is indeed real, I have seen way too many people (women in particular) crying wolf just to stick it to their exes. It takes more than just a bald, one sided allegation to convince me.

Our gender studies department would like to contact you, would you and your firm be amenable to that? Pls post.