It is sarcastic, that much is very clear. Smart people recognize and appreciate sarcasm, you clearly don't. I would be more bothered that your family and friends are such incredibly entitled jerks who are asking for kids' party room! BTW, sarcasm is one of the first markers of recognizing smart people, there is truth to the fact that they can't fully reign it in. Learn to laugh a little. I'd be more worried about those same clueless guests ruining the party.

It was 100% none of your business. Inserting yourself into someone else's business is as every bit as rude as he was.

Runs in the family.

Sounds like an all around Klassy family.

Hosts sound like jerks, I would not attend and I would tell them why.

LOL. It is a party for "21" years old. Hello...it is a" legal age to drink" party. I think the host is my hero too. Keep your monsters at home and better still ...OP, you stay home too.

Those asking ot change plans or provide a babysitter are way out of line. You don't dictate the rules of someone else's party!! WTF? And why would you WANT to bring a kid to that type of party? What is wrong with you?

But, your cousin is a raging dick. I probably would not go on principle b/c of that. There is a way to act and convey information that is both firm in its boundary and still polite. He was a dick. I don't deal with dicks, family or not.

I just can't get over having a family birthday party for a 21 year old. The last people I would have wanted to spend my 21st with would be my family, that's a party for friends only.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. So against the advice of everyone I messaged both hosts and told them I felt the post was causing unnecessary drama. The author of said post told me to mind my own god damn business. He said I had no say in the matter because I was not paying for anything. The second host told me she understood my concerns and would have worded it differently but she supports his decision. She said some of the family was getting really pushy and needed to be put in check. I said my peace and will leave it at that.

OBVIOUSLY she supports his decision. Otherwise she would have taken it down immediately when she saw it.

It's so funny that you tried to create drama under the guise of reducing drama. How did you seriously think it would have turned out if one host had taken that down when the other clearly felt that strongly about it? And it wouldn't have solved anything anyway since the entire guest list presumably already saw the message and knows how they really feel about it.

At least you were put in your place now. Hopefully you learned something.

Completely agree.

+1 Just couldn't help yourself, could you? Should have listened to DCUM. When there's consensus like this, we're always right.

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It's so funny that you tried to create drama under the guise of reducing drama. How did you seriously think it would have turned out if one host had taken that down when the other clearly felt that strongly about it? And it wouldn't have solved anything anyway since the entire guest list presumably already saw the message and knows how they really feel about it.

At least you were put in your place now. Hopefully you learned something.

The fact that the OP just couldn't resist butting in speaks volumes about who/what the 21 year old is dealing with. The OP didn't even get her itchiness to get involved out by starting this thread. No wonder he couldn't sugar coat the message!

I thought it was a funny message. Tongue in cheek yet strongly worded enough to be perfectly clear about what the host wants. Seems like the type of 21 year old guy who would write an animated message like this is the same vibrant type to throw an elaborate birthday party with a special DJ. Sounds like it will be a fun party.

People really need some perspective in life. Time for some real problems.

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. So against the advice of everyone I messaged both hosts and told them I felt the post was causing unnecessary drama. The author of said post told me to mind my own god damn business. He said I had no say in the matter because I was not paying for anything. The second host told me she understood my concerns and would have worded it differently but she supports his decision. She said some of the family was getting really pushy and needed to be put in check. I said my peace and will leave it at that.

I mean this in the nicest possible way: Who the heck cares what you think? What made you think your perspective was valid or your input welcome?

I can't believe you thought it was OK to message him and ask you to change it. If you are the not-pushy part of your family, I can only imagine the horrible behavior that led to him sending the original message!

GO ASSHOLE COUSIN!!!! I wish I had the nerve to be that blunt with my own family. He's kind of my hero right now

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it's appallingly rude and entitled behavior, but you shouldn't get involved with asking him to remove it. You can decide whether you want to go or not, but that's the extent of what you can do.

I think what's appallingly rude are all these people thinking they could bring their kids along or that babysitting would be provided. Hire your own damn babysitter. Why is this hard?

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like the cousin has no tact and poor public relations skills.

Whatever. It happens. Some people lack social graces. He happens to be one of them.

Although, I can understand his frustration...

* turning 21.

* plan an adult party.

* entitled people think their children are welcome.

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Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. So against the advice of everyone I messaged both hosts and told them I felt the post was causing unnecessary drama. The author of said post told me to mind my own god damn business. He said I had no say in the matter because I was not paying for anything. The second host told me she understood my concerns and would have worded it differently but she supports his decision. She said some of the family was getting really pushy and needed to be put in check. I said my peace and will leave it at that.

Seriously? Your cousin is an idiot and an asshole, but it turns out that you are too! Runs in the family.

+1 WHY are you involving yourself?? You sound nuts.

Anonymous wrote:I am the OP. So against the advice of everyone I messaged both hosts and told them I felt the post was causing unnecessary drama. The author of said post told me to mind my own god damn business. He said I had no say in the matter because I was not paying for anything. The second host told me she understood my concerns and would have worded it differently but she supports his decision. She said some of the family was getting really pushy and needed to be put in check. I said my peace and will leave it at that.

Seriously? Your cousin is an idiot and an asshole, but it turns out that you are too! Runs in the family.