Anonymous wrote:JFC. All the cops? Risk this bot being
Labeled a sexual predator. Your fucking nuts.

Teach your daughter that boys do stupid things and to erase and block. Then contact the parents privately and let them know they need to teach their son proper internet behavior.

This country is going down the crapper with stupidity.

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You mean for her right? She is the one that told a child "sure" send me pictures of your genitals.
Amazing how people let girls slide without consequences

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Anonymous wrote:You need to immediately call the police. A detective in Special Victims will come to your home (or ask you to come to the precinct) to meet with you and your daughter. The detective will get a warrant to retrieve the photo from SnapChat. Do not wait. Call the police right now.

This is utter madness. The boys life will be ruined for one silly mistake.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to immediately call the police. A detective in Special Victims will come to your home (or ask you to come to the precinct) to meet with you and your daughter. The detective will get a warrant to retrieve the photo from SnapChat. Do not wait. Call the police right now.

This is utter madness. The boys life will be ruined for one silly mistake.

+1
I’m wondering how this poster and others who agree with him/her would feel about parents reporting girls who send nudes to the police. My son has received several unsolicited nudes from girls who have crushes on him. He simply deletes them and moves on with his life. But perhaps we should have reported these girls to the police so their lives could be ruined over their own stupid mistakes.

Somehow, it’s only when boys pull this crap that parents threaten contacting the police. Ridiculous.

Anonymous wrote:I have older kids and have been through both the inappropriate photos and the threats of never telling me anything again if I tell someone. Here is how I handled it. I told my kids that this was a very serious situation that can result in serious permanent consequences for the other kid. I am not a professional in dealing with such things so I am turning it over to those that are - the school counselor and principal. It would be wrong of us to know that someone is engaging in actions that are likely to bring harm to them and do nothing about it so we are not going to be part of the problem.

FWIW, my kids always continued to tell me everything and the school always intervened.

In case you are unclear about talking to your daughter, she needs to understand that once a photo is on social media the poster loses control and consequences can be serious. And this photo is a crime which can lead to the lifelong consequence of being placed on a sexual offender registry - means jobs, housing, etc are permanently affected. This is no small thing.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I would call his parents if I knew their contact information. At this point, I only know his first name and that they attend the same after-school club. Since DD doesn't want me to contact anybody, she'll not willingly tell me his last name. To find out his parents' contact information, I would need to reach out to the Quiz bowl coach, explain the situation to the coach, and ask for the last name of a child - and what if there are more than one boy with the same first name in the club?

If I contact the school in general, will they attempt to interview my daughter about the situation? She would be very upset that I contacted the school.

I don't think she wants to go out with him: I told her that if she does, the next thing he is going to do is take her picture and send it to his friends - hopefully that scared her enough. At least after she received his picture, she also told him that she is not interested in what he is trying to offer until she gets married.

Anonymous wrote:Ok, I have to weigh in. I’m a school counselor and deal with this crap all the time. Some points:
1.) It’s not necessarily a parental failing. We can do a “scared straight” presentation at school, complete with stories of criminal charges for sexting, and some idiot 8th grader will send a dick pic the next day.
2.) If you don’t want to tell his parents (I personally think you should) at least make a call to his school and ask for anonymity. Someone should address the issue with him as part of a group, at minimum. They don’t need to directly call him out to educate him.
3.) These are 8th grade boys. They have the maturity of 6th grade girls. They are still 12 years away from having a fully functional brain. They’re going to make mistakes and need to be taught now how to behave. That’s why someone should know. It’s better to learn this lesson now than senior year of high school or as an adult.
4.) Tell your daughter’s school; ask for anonymity. She needs to be taught how to handle these situations too, as do her peers.
5.) A part of me views this is less aggressive than him demanding she send him a topless shot, which is a more typical scenario. Another part of me marvels at the fact that he thought this might build his case and get her to like him.
6.) The fact that she still wants to be friends with him makes me think she actually does want to go out with him. I didn’t see that twist coming.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe I’m going to sound like an angry feminist, but seriously? Maybe he didn’t know this was wrong? That’s a parental and cultural failing. This little girl now has a #metoo story and she’s in 8th grade.

OP, I’m not saying call the cops, but I do think your daughter should see you make a big deal of standing up for her so that she knows she is never expected to tolerate inappropriate sexual behavior from men. I’d make a big deal about calling his parents and make sure she knows she never has to accept this kind of aggression.

Are you f%$cking crazy? The girl said "sure" send me a nude photo. What are you missing? A #metoo story? He ask she said sure send it, that's called CONSENT. You don't sound like an angry feminist, you sound delusional. "she is never expected to tolerate inappropriate sexual behavior from men." No if you had it your way she would learn that saying yes means she is a victim. Nice message, "well Suzy, you are just too stupid and weak to be held accountable for your decisions or action." Aggression? He ask, she is just as culpable as he is.
Equal until its inconvient then perpetual victim.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe I’m going to sound like an angry feminist, but seriously? Maybe he didn’t know this was wrong? That’s a parental and cultural failing. This little girl now has a #metoo story and she’s in 8th grade.

OP, I’m not saying call the cops, but I do think your daughter should see you make a big deal of standing up for her so that she knows she is never expected to tolerate inappropriate sexual behavior from men. I’d make a big deal about calling his parents and make sure she knows she never has to accept this kind of aggression.

Are you fucking kidding me? A #metoo moment?!?!?! You seriously considered this sexual assault? You are putting this in same category as molestation and rape? This is why there is backlash for this movement.
Tell me, if this same girl was shown a playgirl (yeah I know they no longer exist) by her friends unwittingly, would that be assault?

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Anonymous wrote:Prosecutor here - not every nude image of a child is child pornography.

Well, the intent is sexting.

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Anonymous wrote:I think if you had taken a screenshot his parents could have made problems for you for having child p0rn.

Without proof who knows if they’ll believe you but you’ve got to try to talk to them. If they don’t believe now they will eventually.

I don't know how a parent can accuse you of having child porn that the child himself sent to your child. The child who sent the photo is distributing child porn.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe I’m going to sound like an angry feminist, but seriously? Maybe he didn’t know this was wrong? That’s a parental and cultural failing. This little girl now has a #metoo story and she’s in 8th grade.

OP, I’m not saying call the cops, but I do think your daughter should see you make a big deal of standing up for her so that she knows she is never expected to tolerate inappropriate sexual behavior from men. I’d make a big deal about calling his parents and make sure she knows she never has to accept this kind of aggression.

Anonymous wrote:I would sent him a text and tell him next time he wants to send your daughter porn, make sure he works out enough to have a good body to look at.