Anonymous
Post 01/23/2018 09:23     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Sneaky people sometimes end up making a lot of money.

But of course a lot of people end up being “mediocre.” That’s what the word means = right around average or slightly below.


I was a mediocre student but I knew my strengths and played to those. I make $300K a year. That's not to say anyone who is mediocre can make good money. I would consider my DS mediocre but he also has a learning disability. But, I am trying to help him discover his strengths. DS has a sister who is a stellar student but I never compare the two. I love my children equally. It is not easy but you have to parent and support the child you have.


What do you do where you make $300,000?
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2018 08:19     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:maybe you shouldn't have become a single mom?

i know single mom's love to hold barack obama has an example, but he's an exception.

or screened for a better quality dude to knock you up?




Barack Obama was raised by his grandparents, not his single mom.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2018 04:23     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:OP a PP said that living up to the metrics of this area is hard. And it’s true. I sighed and thought if my HS sophomore when I sat the title. It is looking like he will pull yet another C+ this semester in math and he seems very middle of the pack. But he is at TJ. And I frequently have to remind myself that middle of the pack at TJ is pretty impressive. This isn’t a humblebrag. I legitimately think of a kid who is plowing through the toughest high school in the US by choice as mediocre, because by TJ standards he is, in fact, mediocre.

Mediocre by DMV standards— the most highly educated, most affluent counties in the country— can still be very impressive. If you live here, you might think that being accepted into a top 10 college with merit aid while starting a foundation to help homeless elephants and being on the US Nation synchronized swimming team is normal. I grew up in flyover America. It is not.

It also sounds like your kid might benefit from a gap year where he works or interns and gets some sense of direction.


Op here, this is a very interesting perspective and honestly one I had not considered. I am a native Washingtonian so competitveness is all I know without even realizing it. It’s obviously all my son knows too, but maybe he just isn’t built for it. When I think of his personality it does seem to be suited for a small town vs. big city. I really do think I just had a moment of clarity.
Anonymous
Post 01/23/2018 02:02     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
OP a PP said that living up to the metrics of this area is hard. And it’s true. I sighed and thought if my HS sophomore when I sat the title. It is looking like he will pull yet another C+ this semester in math and he seems very middle of the pack. But he is at TJ. And I frequently have to remind myself that middle of the pack at TJ is pretty impressive. This isn’t a humblebrag. I legitimately think of a kid who is plowing through the toughest high school in the US by choice as mediocre, because by TJ standards he is, in fact, mediocre.

Mediocre by DMV standards— the most highly educated, most affluent counties in the country— can still be very impressive. If you live here, you might think that being accepted into a top 10 college with merit aid while starting a foundation to help homeless elephants and being on the US Nation synchronized swimming team is normal. I grew up in flyover America. It is not.

It also sounds like your kid might benefit from a gap year where he works or interns and gets some sense of direction.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 23:49     Subject: Re:Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
OP, it's just your child's personality. I say this because I am nothing like my birth mother who deliberately flunked out of school at age 12. I grew up being told I was shit and I hated the family I was born into. It's a hard thing to accept that just because people share genes, that they would have the same traits. There's no truth to that.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 23:35     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not cool to say this but look - not everyone is going to be a dr, lawyer, or banker. There are people who end up as teachers or managers at your local retail bank, or insurance agents and have perfectly respectable families and lives. Went to high school with many such guys and there’s nothing wrong with their lives. It’s just that they aren’t worrying about their promotion to equity partner or jetting off to London for a few days. More like a week at the jersey shore in the summer and a hope for a raise. Maybe start accepting that he’ll have a “regular” life.


You're comparing teachers to bank managers and insurance agents? Most of the teachers I know have Master's degrees.



A Master's in Education is not that impressive unless it is at a top school like Columbia or Stanford.
GMU has a M.Ed. program and it is barely taught about the high school level.
Seriously, the program sucks.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 21:14     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:maybe you shouldn't have become a single mom?

i know single mom's love to hold barack obama has an example, but he's an exception.

or screened for a better quality dude to knock you up?


While I think Obama did great, nothing in his life points out to him being that great bcs being raised by a single mom. His mom and his grandparents raised him in clearly a household that supported academic excellence. He traveled with his mom too and lived in Indonesia. She tutored him non stop! But, my point is that no matter what people might say, people who seek political career tend to do it for attention purposes, and Obama loves attention. Just like any kid of parents who have to work, aren't there all the time, etc.. OP clearly left her DS with Dad, who didn't care much. If OP cared so much, where is the talk of tutoring, lessons, helping with school and homework? Kids need help, need to know that you care. If they don't know that, why should they care? You can't expect 17 year old to say, my mom doesn't care about me, dad is a loser, but I know better, I will do good in school, get great grades and show her I am not a loser and mediocre. If they were that mature, they wouldn't be teenagers!
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 21:12     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:maybe you shouldn't have become a single mom?

i know single mom's love to hold barack obama has an example, but he's an exception.

or screened for a better quality dude to knock you up?


Did you read the thread? She was married.


and she got divorced.

so she became a single mom.

she admits she picked poorly in her choice of dude to knock her up.


Christ almighty. You are a big, fat douche.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 19:03     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:maybe you shouldn't have become a single mom?

i know single mom's love to hold barack obama has an example, but he's an exception.

or screened for a better quality dude to knock you up?


Did you read the thread? She was married.


and she got divorced.

so she became a single mom.

she admits she picked poorly in her choice of dude to knock her up.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 18:39     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:maybe you shouldn't have become a single mom?

i know single mom's love to hold barack obama has an example, but he's an exception.

or screened for a better quality dude to knock you up?


Did you read the thread? She was married.
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 18:23     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
maybe you shouldn't have become a single mom?

i know single mom's love to hold barack obama has an example, but he's an exception.

or screened for a better quality dude to knock you up?
Anonymous
Post 01/22/2018 18:18     Subject: Do you/did you have a child that you viewed as being mediocre?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Not cool to say this but look - not everyone is going to be a dr, lawyer, or banker. There are people who end up as teachers or managers at your local retail bank, or insurance agents and have perfectly respectable families and lives. Went to high school with many such guys and there’s nothing wrong with their lives. It’s just that they aren’t worrying about their promotion to equity partner or jetting off to London for a few days. More like a week at the jersey shore in the summer and a hope for a raise. Maybe start accepting that he’ll have a “regular” life.


You're comparing teachers to bank managers and insurance agents? Most of the teachers I know have Master's degrees.



Having a masters degree does not preclude you from being Mediocre. There are TON of below average teachers and some downright awful ones. To get a great teacher is the exception, not the rule.



And there are a TON of mediocre bank mgrs, insurance agents, lawyers, and doctors.