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TBH, most people in DC could live a life of luxury if they were willing to move to flyover country but very few want too.

It sounds like you have issues with your own life choices.

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There’s a reason painkillers are abused by people living that kind of life. But you keep daydreaming and living vicariously through your 20-something niece if that helps you cope with the realities of your life, whatever that may entail.

Yeah, because no career women and SAHMs around DC are abusing anxiety, antidepressant and pain medications! lol

Seriously! The grinding lawyer and fed women I meet in DC are some of the most neurotic, unhappy, and anti-depressant people I've met anywhere...

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Person I never in a million years would be envious of:
Woman who left NYC at 27 to marry into a midwest car dealer family and live in a giant lake house and drive a new SUV.

+ high community status
+ best private schools
+ travel anywhere
+ in-laws' winter home in Naples, FL
+ in-laws' ski house in Vail, CO

Not a bad come up for a cute ditz who studied communications at a crummy college.

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Person I never in a million years would be envious of:
Woman who left NYC at 27 to marry into a midwest car dealer family and live in a giant lake house and drive a new SUV.

Anonymous wrote:And what happens to her when the rich guy (who is rich because of his parents, not his own skills) gets bored and moves on to a younger model? Do they have a prenup that protects his assets?

Anonymous wrote:People I am envious of:
My friend who just got tenure at an R1 university
My friend who has a killer design sense and just bought her 3rd investment property
My friend who literally built her own house by hand, travels the world, and is now getting a nursing degree
My friend who quit a sucky job and went out on her own as a consultant making more money working less time, spends her time on a multitude of creative hobbies and lives abroad part of the year
My other friend who quit HER sucky job after saving up mucho dinero and now sails around the world
All of these friends are 40+ and unmarried.

Person I never in a million years would be envious of:
Woman who left NYC at 27 to marry into a midwest car dealer family and live in a giant lake house and drive a new SUV.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.

If you are not smart, marrying a smart person won't fool the other smart people you will meet through your spouse. But it might fool the stupid ones.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.

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Anonymous wrote:Not sure why everyone is bagging on the OP -- I agree it's something that I'd want. And I say this as someone who has all the marks of accomplishment important on the east coast -- Wharton undergrad; top law school; NYC biglaw; then we moved to DC for a better family life; DC biglaw; MoCo; top school district; investments etc. And I honestly dream about moving back to my non competitive rural NJ (not north jersey which is NYC competitive) suburb and starting a business -- not a law practice but like opening a Dunkin -- and living off that income + supplementing with our investments which we wouldn't need to bc it's just not that costly.

The difference is YOU want to start a business, either by yourself, your partner, or whomever. OP is talking about her niece like she actually accomplished something by marrying a man who happens to have rich parents.

Anonymous wrote:I knew a lot of girls in college who thought they landed rich sweet Jewish guys from NY/NJ, but were dumped at age 25 and the guys quickly married Jewish girls they grew up with. Same for girls who thought they landed some old money wasp New England boys. Dumped. Targeting a flyover rich kid seems savvy.

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There’s a reason painkillers are abused by people living that kind of life. But you keep daydreaming and living vicariously through your 20-something niece if that helps you cope with the realities of your life, whatever that may entail.

Yeah, because no career women and SAHMs around DC are abusing anxiety, antidepressant and pain medications! lol

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sorry for you, OP. Truly I do. Your mind and world are so small and circumscribed.

She's cute but not the prettiest. She's not bright. She had fun in college, fun after college, married a schmuck rich kid who "manages" car dealers and is pampered. She's doing better than 99 out of 100 women her age that I know. Her template is one to follow.

I'm pretty sure you are a troll...or an idiot. Even if this is the right thing for her, surely you understand why her experience cannot be used as a template for anyone to follow.

If this is considered an achievement in your group of friends, I would not want to hang out with the people you know.

Life is hard enough with no guarantees.

It’s great if you want more degrees and certificates or whatever. But at the end of the day some women really know security. Marrying early into a rich family provides them with the guaranteed financial security that no prestigious job ever ever.

With a strategic and well timed marriage, they are guaranteed entry and membership into the upper class or upper middle class. They don’t have to take the gmats, work thankless ours trying to move up and be noticed. By marrying well they can be the wife of the hot shot engineer and have a father in law who is a ceo and rub shoulders with and be acknowledged by the best and the brightest.

I know a pretty girl who married an astronaut. She has never taken a high level calculus or physics classes. Doesn’t know much about geopolitical strife the Middle East but now has a father in law who is a law firm partner and she attends NASA rocket launches. Her social circle is filled with intelligent acconplished people who are changing the world. And she is rich and has access to their multiple properties.

She didn’t even have to work very hard to accomplish all this.

Still not my dreamlife, because I want to be successful myself and not only be the wife of a successful man, but sounds way better than marrying a car-dealer from the midwest.

Pp here. I agree. I would never be jealous of a girl who married a car dealers son in the Midwest. I’d find that culture and setting totally suffocating.

But marrying a really smart successful guy who travels out of space, probably has interesting intellectually stimulating conversations, and comes from an accomplished educated family? Sure! Who doesn’t want that?

Personally I’d like to Be the smart accomplished person and married to a smart accomplished person. But this girl has an easy life but still has access to all of this by association. She’s automatically smart because her husband is smart. And I’m sure she learns something new every day. And her children will be super smart too.