Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 23:03     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:I am a highschool teacher and this week we had some career volunteers/ life couches come and talk to the kids. One guy made his speech about being a first generation college grad and did a list of "things poor kids dont know but need to." My kids liked it and there has been a lot of chit chat about it this week. I decided to reverse the topic and ask them what they think might be some things rich people dont know and these are some kid bits of that convo...

1.) flatbread is really just pizza. "I was so confused about that word but every time its literally just been pizza."
2.) its awkward/embarrassing when you associate having a license to having a car. "Me turning 16 means nothing, Im poor"
3.) We dont grieve not having a father. We dont know another family structure. "Thats like crying because I dont have a brother, when Ive never had a brother. No one does that."
4.) One kid thought it was odd that the people who have the most clothes usually have washer and dryers at their house so in reality they need the least clothes. "If i didnt need quarters to wash I would only need like 3 shirts"


Man! This actually should be a life philosophy.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:59     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Rich people don't know basic "street smarts"[/quote

They have no clue!


x10000
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:44     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:That not having an emergency fund doesn’t mean you make poor spending choices; it might just mean you don’t have enough left over to save.


This times one effing million.

I am college educated but just left an abusive marriage, and had no money upon leaving. I have two kids. Unable to collect child support. Unable to afford childcare for my younger child - luckily, I do contract work and fit tasks around my schedule, which is a huge PITA. I am currently paying off a credit card (which I used to reestabkish myself) with a payment plan to the bank. I have to make sure my rent, child's preschool, phone, electric and water are paid and literally will have to count to the dime to make sure it all works out. Emergency fund? Bitch this is the emergency!


This is a sad part about losing community. I don't why it happens that families in your situation have no support network. Where is the village?
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:41     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:Rich people don't know basic "street smarts"[/quote

They have no clue!
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:40     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:The feeling of really having to pee, but someone else is locked in the one bathroom in the house.


We have one bathroom. No big deal.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:36     Subject: Re:Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Rich people don't know that meritocracy is a myth.

I know a lot of very smart, very hardworking young people who will never achieve as much as they deserve to, and many wealthy and entitled young people who will be given jobs just for breathing and occupying space.


This times one million!

Rich people have zero idea how easy they have it in most aspects of life.


True true true


If you are not rich, how do you know their lives are easy? If you are rich, how do you know that you aren't romanticizing the poor?


Because, genius, I was poor and now I'm not. But I remember where I came from and what powdered milk tastes like.


Omg. I had forgotten about powdered milk.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:34     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How much a loaf of bread costs (from another DCUM thread)

That poor people don't see dentists or doctors regularly. They end up just getting teeth pulled vs getting dental work.

That violence at home happens all the time. There are exceptions of course, not all affluent homes are peaceful/non-violent. But I grew up MC/UMC with a poor nanny and remember being shocked at her stories of violence perpetrated mostly by her father but also by her mother, uncles, brothers, etc. For her it was normal.

I grew up in a smallish town but there was a hospital system and a directional state U so there was some level of affluence. But it was your typical midwestern town with a lot of lower class people too...just one high school for the town so I went to school with the children of MDs and PhDs and mill workers and manual laborers and gas station workers and one thing I noticed when I went to my “poorer” friends houses is how they interacted with each other. Parents screaming at kids. Lots of hitting and swearing. Parents ALWAYS fighting. Whereas at my house and more affluent households it was more “Susie, could you please put the dishes away?” Poor homes: “SUSIE PUT THE GOD DAMN DISHES AWAY BEFORE I SMACK YOU INTO NEXT WEEK”

There is an enormous difference in the way rich people and poor people talk to their children.


+1. I'm the PP with the poor nanny. My parents never hit me. I was routinely told I could do/be whatever I wanted and always was told how much I was loved. DH grew up in the third world and was regularly beaten; I don't think his parents were particularly encouraging to him and they never said I love you.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:29     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:How much a loaf of bread costs (from another DCUM thread)

That poor people don't see dentists or doctors regularly. They end up just getting teeth pulled vs getting dental work.

That violence at home happens all the time. There are exceptions of course, not all affluent homes are peaceful/non-violent. But I grew up MC/UMC with a poor nanny and remember being shocked at her stories of violence perpetrated mostly by her father but also by her mother, uncles, brothers, etc. For her it was normal.

I grew up in a smallish town but there was a hospital system and a directional state U so there was some level of affluence. But it was your typical midwestern town with a lot of lower class people too...just one high school for the town so I went to school with the children of MDs and PhDs and mill workers and manual laborers and gas station workers and one thing I noticed when I went to my “poorer” friends houses is how they interacted with each other. Parents screaming at kids. Lots of hitting and swearing. Parents ALWAYS fighting. Whereas at my house and more affluent households it was more “Susie, could you please put the dishes away?” Poor homes: “SUSIE PUT THE GOD DAMN DISHES AWAY BEFORE I SMACK YOU INTO NEXT WEEK”

There is an enormous difference in the way rich people and poor people talk to their children.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:27     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:That expensive face creams aren’t necessary and don’t work.


Sorry but lab-tested quality, often expensive, skincare products do work.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:25     Subject: Things rich people dont know
There's also the experience of poor immigrant kids--translating for your parents, for example.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:25     Subject: Re:Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Rich people don't know that meritocracy is a myth.

I know a lot of very smart, very hardworking young people who will never achieve as much as they deserve to, and many wealthy and entitled young people who will be given jobs just for breathing and occupying space.


This times one million!

Rich people have zero idea how easy they have it in most aspects of life.


To be fair , this is applicable to like the majority of UMC and middle class whites who are more likelt to have been beneficiaries of such mechanisms
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:24     Subject: Re:Things rich people dont know
Conversation between a rich person and a poor person. Let's say the poor person is possibly the rich person's nanny:

Rich person: "Why didn't you go to the doctor about that health issue you had a couple years ago?"

Poor person: "Because before I started working for you, I didn't have the money to put gas in my car so I could drive to the doctor."
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:20     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:How much a loaf of bread costs (from another DCUM thread)

That poor people don't see dentists or doctors regularly. They end up just getting teeth pulled vs getting dental work.

That violence at home happens all the time. There are exceptions of course, not all affluent homes are peaceful/non-violent. But I grew up MC/UMC with a poor nanny and remember being shocked at her stories of violence perpetrated mostly by her father but also by her mother, uncles, brothers, etc. For her it was normal.

I grew up in a smallish town but there was a hospital system and a directional state U so there was some level of affluence. But it was your typical midwestern town with a lot of lower class people too...just one high school for the town so I went to school with the children of MDs and PhDs and mill workers and manual laborers and gas station workers and one thing I noticed when I went to my “poorer” friends houses is how they interacted with each other. Parents screaming at kids. Lots of hitting and swearing. Parents ALWAYS fighting. Whereas at my house and more affluent households it was more “Susie, could you please put the dishes away?” Poor homes: “SUSIE PUT THE GOD DAMN DISHES AWAY BEFORE I SMACK YOU INTO NEXT WEEK”
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:09     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:That you can get many fine meals out of a road-killed deer. Many poor rural families see winter roadkills as mana from heaven.



+1

The Appalachian Trail people have everyone beat.
Anonymous
Post 11/21/2017 22:08     Subject: Things rich people dont know
Anonymous wrote:How much a loaf of bread costs (from another DCUM thread)

That poor people don't see dentists or doctors regularly. They end up just getting teeth pulled vs getting dental work.

That violence at home happens all the time. There are exceptions of course, not all affluent homes are peaceful/non-violent. But I grew up MC/UMC with a poor nanny and remember being shocked at her stories of violence perpetrated mostly by her father but also by her mother, uncles, brothers, etc. For her it was normal.


No poor does not necessarily equal violence.