Just get separate checks OP. At this point you're making WAAAY more of this than it needs to be. You seem to be choosing to die on the hill of your approach/attitude being the only acceptable one.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is hard for me to be friends with people who are not generous. I am a very generous person with gifts, favors, anything. I have 3 kids and time is worth the most. I can't keep company who is keeping tabs. It sounds like half the people think it is preferable to itemize. For acquaintances, that is fine but I just can't do it with a friend.

I consider time of no value unless the person is explicitly paid for time spent (opportunity cost is nothing too when it's choice) It seems like you do keep tabs as you are annoyed by those who try to pay their share only. Gifts, favors? Can you be friends without a non-stop exchange of something?

+1

THIS.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is hard for me to be friends with people who are not generous. I am a very generous person with gifts, favors, anything. I have 3 kids and time is worth the most. I can't keep company who is keeping tabs. It sounds like half the people think it is preferable to itemize. For acquaintances, that is fine but I just can't do it with a friend.

I am very generous as well. And why am I or why can I afford it? Because I only pay for MY own food when I have dinner with friends at restaurants.
I don't spoil that money ... And this way I can make presents for special occasions all year long.

Sharing from time to time is fine but I wouldn't do it all the time.
My friends don't owe me anything and I don't owe them anything.
You just have to respect the fact other people have a different opinion from yours and they can still be a good friend.

+1

Wow, it would suck going through life thinking that other people owe you something!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is hard for me to be friends with people who are not generous. I am a very generous person with gifts, favors, anything. I have 3 kids and time is worth the most. I can't keep company who is keeping tabs. It sounds like half the people think it is preferable to itemize. For acquaintances, that is fine but I just can't do it with a friend.

Seems like you are the cheap one. You can't be friends with someone that won't subsidize you, own it.

+1

If I were rich, I would RUN from someone who expected me to take them to expensive dinners. That is pure BS.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is hard for me to be friends with people who are not generous. I am a very generous person with gifts, favors, anything. I have 3 kids and time is worth the most. I can't keep company who is keeping tabs. It sounds like half the people think it is preferable to itemize. For acquaintances, that is fine but I just can't do it with a friend.

Seems like you are the cheap one. You can't be friends with someone that won't subsidize you, own it.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It is hard for me to be friends with people who are not generous. I am a very generous person with gifts, favors, anything. I have 3 kids and time is worth the most. I can't keep company who is keeping tabs. It sounds like half the people think it is preferable to itemize. For acquaintances, that is fine but I just can't do it with a friend.

I am very generous as well. And why am I or why can I afford it? Because I only pay for MY own food when I have dinner with friends at restaurants.
I don't spoil that money ... And this way I can make presents for special occasions all year long.

Sharing from time to time is fine but I wouldn't do it all the time.
My friends don't owe me anything and I don't owe them anything.
You just have to respect the fact other people have a different opinion from yours and they can still be a good friend.