DumbLoring wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could have written this OP. Unfortunately, after doing my research, a lot of married guys out there are very overweight and unattractive. I think that explains why they are out there in the first place. My sexlife has been dormant for a few years now. Should I just divorce because I am not fulfilled sexually?

Another woman in the same situation.

Tried everything but men after 40 who don't care of their bodies don't have a sex drive. Meanwhile as a younger wife who does take care of my body, I'd love intimacy again.

Not worth divorcing over.

I'll bite. I'm 48 y/o M, in shape with a high drive (seriously). Get a username and PM me...

Anonymous wrote:Does anyone hit on you now, OP?

When I started contemplating an affair, my first thought was to either respond favorably to one of the many people who hit on me or get closer with a friend with whom I have chemistry.

Ultimately went with the latter. I'm not one for casual hookups, and the sexual and romantic tension with a good friend had been building for quite a while.

The up side of this is you know it will work out. The down side is you can fall in love (we did) and be left with the choice of breaking your families or living from short visit to short visit (as we do).

If you don't have people interested in you already, it's possible you're going to have a tough time finding an affair partner you're attracted to and like, but you can still get sex through hookup sites.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s easy to find affair partners if you’re a decently attractive woman. Today four different men texted me, begging to hang out.

Intermittent reinforcement works best. I ignore them most of the time, and randomly text back or send a sexy picture when I want attention. Dirty talk to build anticipation, sex them well, then ignore again.

Are you married? And you meet them for sex or just flirt/tease them?

Anonymous wrote:It’s easy to find affair partners if you’re a decently attractive woman. Today four different men texted me, begging to hang out.

Intermittent reinforcement works best. I ignore them most of the time, and randomly text back or send a sexy picture when I want attention. Dirty talk to build anticipation, sex them well, then ignore again.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I want to have a long term affair with one person.

I don't have any prospects.

I'm a woman.

I will update this if my status changes.

For now, everyone else confess your sins.

It is not hard, even if you are not looking very good, with today's hookup sites and apps, everybody can find somebody for casual sex. In past 6 years on tat way I changed more than 6 sex partners, all were in marriage...

Anonymous wrote:I want to have a long term affair with one person.

I don't have any prospects.

I'm a woman.

I will update this if my status changes.

For now, everyone else confess your sins.

Anonymous wrote:I just realized this post is a few months old. No update, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:I found mine on Craigslist, but I'm pretty sure he was the only needle in that hellish haystack.

+1

Same.

She was the my needle.

Miss her every day.

Craigslist scares me personally

I'm 10:02, and I'd never go there now. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found mine on Craigslist, but I'm pretty sure he was the only needle in that hellish haystack.

+1

Same.

She was the my needle.

Miss her every day.

Craigslist scares me personally

I'm 10:02, and I'd never go there now. Desperate times call for desperate measures.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I found mine on Craigslist, but I'm pretty sure he was the only needle in that hellish haystack.

+1

Same.

She was the my needle.

Miss her every day.

Craigslist scares me personally

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could have written this OP. Unfortunately, after doing my research, a lot of married guys out there are very overweight and unattractive. I think that explains why they are out there in the first place. My sexlife has been dormant for a few years now. Should I just divorce because I am not fulfilled sexually?

Another woman in the same situation.

Tried everything but men after 40 who don't care of their bodies don't have a sex drive. Meanwhile as a younger wife who does take care of my body, I'd love intimacy again.

Not worth divorcing over.

Speak for yourself. I’m 40, don’t have a full six pack - shabby diet over the holidays - but have four abs visible. I will be back down again before summer surely. I work out a lot, have an unstoppable libido and want sex all the time. I’m social and very intimate. You’ve just been meeting the wrong guys. Most of my social circle are mid-thirties to lower 40s and most of us keep in shape. I find if your gut hangs over your belt even a little bit it’s time to hit the gym and watch your diet.

Bragging about your abs is a little gay, no offense

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I could have written this OP. Unfortunately, after doing my research, a lot of married guys out there are very overweight and unattractive. I think that explains why they are out there in the first place. My sexlife has been dormant for a few years now. Should I just divorce because I am not fulfilled sexually?

Another woman in the same situation.

Tried everything but men after 40 who don't care of their bodies don't have a sex drive. Meanwhile as a younger wife who does take care of my body, I'd love intimacy again.

Not worth divorcing over.

Speak for yourself. I’m 40, don’t have a full six pack - shabby diet over the holidays - but have four abs visible. I will be back down again before summer surely. I work out a lot, have an unstoppable libido and want sex all the time. I’m social and very intimate. You’ve just been meeting the wrong guys. Most of my social circle are mid-thirties to lower 40s and most of us keep in shape. I find if your gut hangs over your belt even a little bit it’s time to hit the gym and watch your diet.

Bragging about your abs is a little gay, no offense