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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why both parents have to be there for a 13 yr old sleepover.

I don't either. 13 is a little old for the dad to need to be there for cake cutting. Let him enjoy his homecoming game! You and grandma could even FaceTime with him during the cake cutting if that's what it takes.

No no no no no no. Do not enable your husband's petulance/selfishness. If a woman had an important (to her) event that coincided with her kids birthday, society would be willing to burn her at the stake.

Nonsense. If mom had a planned girls' getaway and dad tried to schedule the party on the same date, I'd be upset on her behalf and tell her to go, too. Have a private family celebration on a different date. This isn't a little kid - it's a teenager. It's all about his friends.

From his perspective it may be all about his friends, but someone has to be there to be responsible should anything go wrong. Why should the burden fall upon OP? Her husband should share the responsibility with her.

Men who care about football past the age of 22 are so unsexy.

Oh the joys of having two parents. They can share responsibility equally, but don't have to do everything together.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why both parents have to be there for a 13 yr old sleepover.

I don't either. 13 is a little old for the dad to need to be there for cake cutting. Let him enjoy his homecoming game! You and grandma could even FaceTime with him during the cake cutting if that's what it takes.

No no no no no no. Do not enable your husband's petulance/selfishness. If a woman had an important (to her) event that coincided with her kids birthday, society would be willing to burn her at the stake.

Nonsense. If mom had a planned girls' getaway and dad tried to schedule the party on the same date, I'd be upset on her behalf and tell her to go, too. Have a private family celebration on a different date. This isn't a little kid - it's a teenager. It's all about his friends.

From his perspective it may be all about his friends, but someone has to be there to be responsible should anything go wrong. Why should the burden fall upon OP? Her husband should share the responsibility with her.

Men who care about football past the age of 22 are so unsexy.

There are millions of women who disagree.

—football loving woman

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why both parents have to be there for a 13 yr old sleepover.

I don't either. 13 is a little old for the dad to need to be there for cake cutting. Let him enjoy his homecoming game! You and grandma could even FaceTime with him during the cake cutting if that's what it takes.

No no no no no no. Do not enable your husband's petulance/selfishness. If a woman had an important (to her) event that coincided with her kids birthday, society would be willing to burn her at the stake.

Nonsense. If mom had a planned girls' getaway and dad tried to schedule the party on the same date, I'd be upset on her behalf and tell her to go, too. Have a private family celebration on a different date. This isn't a little kid - it's a teenager. It's all about his friends.

From his perspective it may be all about his friends, but someone has to be there to be responsible should anything go wrong. Why should the burden fall upon OP? Her husband should share the responsibility with her.

Men who care about football past the age of 22 are so unsexy.

Anonymous wrote:It is easy to see why the relationships forum is so rife with women complaining that their husbands are cheating on them. It blows my mind that so many women here have the attitude “you must cancel your pre-planned trip! THTere is a three week time span where we may or may not have a birthday party and you need to be 100% available for whatever I may decide!” GET A LIFE, PEOPLE!

Details- I didn't read the whole thread but know from the first page that OP said the game is driving distance the next state over (So possibly just a VA-MD difference) and the husband had not bought tickets yet.

It's not some pre-planned trip with tickets and traveling expenses already in the works.

That said, I would just tell my DH to go to his stupid game. If he can't see why I would want him around to help man a house full of tween/teen boys then he's just going to be dead weight if he ends up staying.

If wife is the only one putting in the effort for planning the party and reaching out to the kids and kids' parents then the dh shouldn't complain that the date doesn't work for him.

Anonymous wrote:My kids don't even have bday parties, and especially not at 13, they really wouldn't care, so meh on that.

BUT WTF with the husband and "the" college football game? Does his team only play one game a year? I'm very confused. I'm a big sports fan but I don't understand - either he's a big sports guy and that means every Saturday will be off limits, or not. Or is just a big rivalry game? Or is he going to the game? Can't he DVR it like the rest of the adults on earth?

JEEZ - nevermind. I should have read through the 8 pages of posts. Forget this response.

If your husband already has tickets to a game, he is right. Why would you plan something for that day?

Your 13 year old DGAF what day his party is on - he just wants to have friends over. Plan it for a month from now.

My kids don't even have bday parties, and especially not at 13, they really wouldn't care, so meh on that.

BUT WTF with the husband and "the" college football game? Does his team only play one game a year? I'm very confused. I'm a big sports fan but I don't understand - either he's a big sports guy and that means every Saturday will be off limits, or not. Or is just a big rivalry game? Or is he going to the game? Can't he DVR it like the rest of the adults on earth?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow - can't believe there is this kind of drama for a darn non-milestone birthday. Your husband had this game scheduled for a while. Don't make him cancel. Do a family celebration around your son's actual birthday and plan the friend party when it works - totally fine for it to be a few weeks later.

Yeah! Screw him 13 doesn't matter. Homecoming with the guys is more important it's a once a year trip. I bet her DH doesn't get any time with the guys between working and doing stuff for the id. Default parents deserve a break!

There is SOOOOOOOOOOOOO much projection of poster's own shitty situations and relationships on this thread its unreal.

wow, reading this thread is depressing and reflects the crap state our country is in, with everyone talking past each other, not paying attention to what has already been said, and insulting everyone who has a different opinion.

Next year, have dh plan the bday.

Anonymous wrote:OP- celebrate with grandma, have it another weekend. Would grandma really want to be there for a 13 year old boy's sleepover party?

Great idea. Grandma will thank you. It'll be a win win. Grandma birthday followed by fiend sleepover at a later date.

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Anonymous wrote:It is easy to see why the relationships forum is so rife with women complaining that their husbands are cheating on them. It blows my mind that so many women here have the attitude “you must cancel your pre-planned trip! THTere is a three week time span where we may or may not have a birthday party and you need to be 100% available for whatever I may decide!” GET A LIFE, PEOPLE!

If you knew how to read the majority are saying the husband should go because the trip is more important than a party.

Actually, I didn't read the thread that way at all. I see that the majority of people are saying make everything happen. Plan the party around the trip. The party is flexible, the trip is not.

Anonymous wrote:It is easy to see why the relationships forum is so rife with women complaining that their husbands are cheating on them. It blows my mind that so many women here have the attitude “you must cancel your pre-planned trip! THTere is a three week time span where we may or may not have a birthday party and you need to be 100% available for whatever I may decide!” GET A LIFE, PEOPLE!

If you think your husband cheating on you is related to his attendance at a football game you married the wrong one.

Anonymous wrote:It is easy to see why the relationships forum is so rife with women complaining that their husbands are cheating on them. It blows my mind that so many women here have the attitude “you must cancel your pre-planned trip! THTere is a three week time span where we may or may not have a birthday party and you need to be 100% available for whatever I may decide!” GET A LIFE, PEOPLE!

If you knew how to read the majority are saying the husband should go because the trip is more important than a party.

It is easy to see why the relationships forum is so rife with women complaining that their husbands are cheating on them. It blows my mind that so many women here have the attitude “you must cancel your pre-planned trip! THTere is a three week time span where we may or may not have a birthday party and you need to be 100% available for whatever I may decide!” GET A LIFE, PEOPLE!

How old was your husband when you got married? Because it sounds like he's about 5 or 6 now. Unless he's on the damn team, he needs to get over his temper tantrum.