You started this thread at 10 am this morning after school started. Given how much you'd already learned about the situation, it doesn't seem likely to me that you got the phone call from the administration, talked to your daughter about the kill list, and talked to other parents whose kids' names were on the list in the hour and a half or so since school started, so I'm going to start with wondering why, if you knew this was all happening, did you send your child to school knowing her name was on a kill list and not knowing what the administration was doing to keep them safe?

It's such a fundamental question, I'm having a hard time imagining this thread is for real.

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Anonymous wrote:Law enforcement person here - call the police. Now.

This is not a "school" issue. As someone who work with law enforcement after multiple school shootings, the one thing EVERYONE says is "I wish someone had called the police sooner"

Don't be that person we are interviewing who says that.

Shouldn't I give the school a chance to act accordingly?

I would give the school about 12 hours to act on this. And you know what, then I'd call the police anyway.

And if you are too scared...name the school here and I guarantee somebody with a child in the school and a set of balls will handle it for you.

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Anonymous wrote:Law enforcement person here - call the police. Now.

This is not a "school" issue. As someone who work with law enforcement after multiple school shootings, the one thing EVERYONE says is "I wish someone had called the police sooner"

Don't be that person we are interviewing who says that.

Shouldn't I give the school a chance to act accordingly?

I would give the school about 12 hours to act on this. And you know what, then I'd call the police anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

Blame the victim. Nice

Op, I'd schedule an in person meeting with the principal for today. Ask all your questions above. From there, I would determine next steps.

she is hardly a victim and more likely, a bully.

Okay. Let's say OP's daughter IS a bully. She's still 9 or 10, and a fourth grader. Do you honestly think she deserves to DIE for teasing someone and poking them every day? Or does she maybe deserve a very stern yelling-at, and to be grounded for a week and have to write an apology to whoever she's been bullying and to maybe not get a birthday party this year? I am all about coming down hard on kids. But I also think we need to be fair - a fourth grader shouldn't be deemed a sociopath who deserves to die.

Why aren't you asking why a fourth grade boy has a gun or access to one? THAT is a huge problem.

Where does it show that the child has a gun or access to one?

OP said the child claimed he'd bring his gun to school to kill kids on the kill list.

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Anonymous wrote:Former teacher here. Please don't wait for the school to handle it because they may not involved police in the interest of keeping this on the down-low. Call the police yourself. Immediately.

Absolutely agree. Everyone at that school may be in serious danger. Please let the police handle it ASAP.

+100

Blood is on your hands as well if something horrible happens. You can't know this and do nothing like the school. A threat like this is REQUIRED to be reported and investigated.

OP, your best bet is to call the police and get a restraining order against the boy who made the death threats. Get the other parents of the kids on his list involved.

The school will have to find other accommodations for the disturbed kid. Not your problem.

Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

WTF???

Another kid is talking about bringing a gun to school and KILLING her daughter and you want to talk about kindness and empathy for the would-be murderer?

OP, if it was my kid, I would take my kid out of school and call the police. Today. NOW. IF she's at school go pick her up. Don't wait.

Anonymous wrote:Former teacher here. Please don't wait for the school to handle it because they may not involved police in the interest of keeping this on the down-low. Call the police yourself. Immediately.

Absolutely agree. Everyone at that school may be in serious danger. Please let the police handle it ASAP.

Former teacher here. Please don't wait for the school to handle it because they may not involved police in the interest of keeping this on the down-low. Call the police yourself. Immediately.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

Blame the victim. Nice

Op, I'd schedule an in person meeting with the principal for today. Ask all your questions above. From there, I would determine next steps.

she is hardly a victim and more likely, a bully.

Okay. Let's say OP's daughter IS a bully. She's still 9 or 10, and a fourth grader. Do you honestly think she deserves to DIE for teasing someone and poking them every day? Or does she maybe deserve a very stern yelling-at, and to be grounded for a week and have to write an apology to whoever she's been bullying and to maybe not get a birthday party this year? I am all about coming down hard on kids. But I also think we need to be fair - a fourth grader shouldn't be deemed a sociopath who deserves to die.

Why aren't you asking why a fourth grade boy has a gun or access to one? THAT is a huge problem.

Where does it show that the child has a gun or access to one?

OP stated, "The boy has said he wants to bring his gun to school." We can't know if it's a credible threat. That's where the SRO/police would come in, to determine whether the child has access to a gun.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can handle your daughter. Start by teaching kindness and empathy.

Blame the victim. Nice

Op, I'd schedule an in person meeting with the principal for today. Ask all your questions above. From there, I would determine next steps.

she is hardly a victim and more likely, a bully.

Okay. Let's say OP's daughter IS a bully. She's still 9 or 10, and a fourth grader. Do you honestly think she deserves to DIE for teasing someone and poking them every day? Or does she maybe deserve a very stern yelling-at, and to be grounded for a week and have to write an apology to whoever she's been bullying and to maybe not get a birthday party this year? I am all about coming down hard on kids. But I also think we need to be fair - a fourth grader shouldn't be deemed a sociopath who deserves to die.

Why aren't you asking why a fourth grade boy has a gun or access to one? THAT is a huge problem.

Where does it show that the child has a gun or access to one?

Anonymous wrote:Don't most schools have a SRO in APS? I would think that that person is involved and that the police have been notified. OP, I'd ask the administration today. I don't think this is something that can wait.

This- all schools have an SRO. The elementary ones cover like 5 schools- but I would definitely call the SRO about this.
I have spoken to the SRO's before about concerns- they are super helpful.

Anonymous wrote:I have a Kindergartner in APS. Please call the police. A 4th grader has threatened to bring a gun to school to kill your daughter and others, and you're not doing anything about it?

This. Every child (and adult) in that school could be in danger

Don't most schools have a SRO in APS? I would think that that person is involved and that the police have been notified. OP, I'd ask the administration today. I don't think this is something that can wait.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Law enforcement person here - call the police. Now.

This is not a "school" issue. As someone who work with law enforcement after multiple school shootings, the one thing EVERYONE says is "I wish someone had called the police sooner"

Don't be that person we are interviewing who says that.

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Shouldn't I give the school a chance to act accordingly?

No. They aren't.

How do you know. They just started investigating.