My husband is our of the house from 8 am to 7 pm. He has no interest in the yard and I have outsourced the mowing and lawn treatments. Every once in a while, I give extra money to my lawn mowing guy to trim the bushes, mulch the flower beds and do general cleanup of the yard. Money well spent. I am a SAHM with school going kids

How old are you OP? Are you old enough to remember the late 60s standard for hitch hikees...grass, ass, or cash, nobody rides for free?

Tell DH that if he doesn't cut the *grass* there'll be no more *ass* until it's cut. Or you could be a liberated woman and cut it yourself.

Oh, so you married an ADHD type, too?

Read him the riot act. Tell him there are ticks in the tall grass which can transmit Lyme (if you have deer in your area, that is true).

And do whatever it takes to get it cut. Pay a teen, cut it yourself when he's not there (kids are napping or babysat) cut it when he's there, etc.

Nag him until he understands that this WILL get done no matter what how he procrastinates.

And if your husband is usually procrastinating, tardy and unable to organize anything, get him evaluated and treated for ADHD.

I don't understand where you people find these "men". Don't they take pride in the way their lawns look? My DH works long hours in a stressful job and still finds time to take care of our yard. We have a lawn service, but my DH insists on cutting between their visits because he can't stand for our lawn to even begin look shabby.

I can cut the lawn, but he worries I'll get hurt (ridiculous) so I don't do it. I just cannot relate to being married to someone too lazy to cut the damn lawn.

Hire a local 20-something guy to mow while he's at work.

Bonus upside, if the grass mower is a hottie, then maybe he might be up for some other chores!

Anonymous wrote:One of the best things about being a working mom is that no one else gets to tell me how to spend my money.

One of the best things about being a stay at home mom is no one gets to tell me how to spend my money OR my time.

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Anonymous wrote:Go out and do it while he's home on a weekend. Hopefully it'll shame him into doing it. Let him pout. Just roll your eyes and ignore the pouting.

This is what I've been doing. He comes barreling out and takes over, then pouts.

I know if I hire the service, he will cancel it. He's very stubborn and even more cheap.

So passive agressive.

Easy solution:Just find a teenager to do it.
Tell DH the kid needed money. Or that "we've both been so busy, I figured it would give us a break."
If the grass grows again (and it will) and DH mows, great.
If he does not mow, call the kid again.
Keep going, ad nauseum.

I would talk to him and give him two options. He can do it during the weekend or if he is too tired and desires to take a rest, then hire a lawn service. You are dealing with the children 24-7. The yard is a place where they can play safely, go for it. You need to make it done anyway.

Anonymous wrote:You are able bodied and you DH is working his ass off to support your lazy ass. Why don't you go cut the grass?

Have you even read her posts? He pouts and takes over if she cuts it.

You are able bodied and you DH is working his ass off to support your lazy ass. Why don't you go cut the grass?

I would book a lawn service without another word to your husband. Have it done while he's at work and no more discussion.

We've been married almost 30 years and I can't deal with the little things causing such an annoyance. We had this issue years ago. I hired a company. They also aerated, sprayed moss killer, weed killer, etc. My husband went ballistic, but didn't cancel it. After 2 years, he suggested we didn't need it anymore and he took care of it from then on. Weird, but problem solved.

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Anonymous wrote:One of the best things about being a working mom is that no one else gets to tell me how to spend my money.

Smugness is unbecoming.
~a working, married woman without kids.

Smugness? Pot meet kettle. No kids, eh? You'll understand one day.

Ha.

Just go do it. I don't get the need to make a big fuss about it. Just say have you got an eye in the kids, I'm heading out to do some yard work then go do it. It seems he thinks he is supposed to do the yard work because he's a man. You need to get past that sexist view. You should think it odd he feels he needs to cut the grass rather than you.

Hire a good looking man to mow the lawn. Then start telling your DH, friends, in-laws, etc. how hot this guy is and how you dress up (and get the sexy on) when you know it is lawn day.

When your DH bitches, tell him whatever you spend on the lawn mowing hunk is worth it because of the joy you get watching him.

Who says you can't have fun in the suburbs?

"I plan on mowing the lawn this afternoon at 4 unless you would prefer to do it at that time or earlier."

Give him fair warning, a clear time frame, and make good on your plans to do it when you say you will.