Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are such a bitch for throwing all his stuff away.

......went through all my mom's boxes after she died and my dad was still alive and ......

Why are you providing an example that has absolutely no relationship to what OP did? Going through a living spouses things and arbitrarily discarding items is NOT the same as your going through your deceased mother's things.

Glad to be of help, OP. No need to thank us.

ZachF wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It's so awesome of you to mock this woman who, according to you, was raped multiple times. You must be such a great person! It's so thoughtful of you to not "create the drama" of having been raped. Kudos!

Big flag. Unless she was a victim of war crimes or held prisoner, it's doubtful she was raped multiple times.

Not really. She may well have been molested as a child or in an abusive relationship.

"I now feel like I was my husband's second choice"

That's because you are. You can accept it or dump him if it really bothers you. I don't know what you expect to gain by caterwauling to us.

First time I heard of a "no ring, no bring" wedding. What a bunch of horseshit.

Anonymous wrote:Where is OP?

+100

Why am I reading this thread... I need popcorn.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
You threw away memorabilia that wasn't yours without asking the owner's permission????

I hope I'm incorrect and didn't read that right because that is such a breach of trust that I would lose all respect for you.

I find no fault with your husband for sharing, since I believe one should share everything with one's spouse. Also, it's normal for you to feel uncomfortable with his confidences and to need a little time to process them.
After a while, you will understand that he married YOU and that you are his chosen one.

But stop throwing away his stuff!

Of course she threw it away. He asked her to go through his boxes which included throwing away trash.

Where did OP say her husband asked her to go through the boxes?

Anonymous wrote:
You threw away memorabilia that wasn't yours without asking the owner's permission????

I hope I'm incorrect and didn't read that right because that is such a breach of trust that I would lose all respect for you.

I find no fault with your husband for sharing, since I believe one should share everything with one's spouse. Also, it's normal for you to feel uncomfortable with his confidences and to need a little time to process them.
After a while, you will understand that he married YOU and that you are his chosen one.

But stop throwing away his stuff!

Of course she threw it away. He asked her to go through his boxes which included throwing away trash.

Anonymous wrote:

It's so awesome of you to mock this woman who, according to you, was raped multiple times. You must be such a great person! It's so thoughtful of you to not "create the drama" of having been raped. Kudos!

Big flag. Unless she was a victim of war crimes or held prisoner, it's doubtful she was raped multiple times.

Anonymous wrote:You are such a bitch for throwing all his stuff away.

The stuff was in boxes and had been for years. The first time either or the get a chance to go though the boxes is during her maternity leave years later so 99% of everything is garbage then (which is true as anyone would know who goes through a bunch of boxes years later after you didn't use a single thing in a box for years). She thinks -- oh, this is the woman my husband trashes all the time as a serial rape victim, bulimic and suicidal, and supposed to think her husband wanted that garbage instead of wanting it trashed?

That makes no sense. I went through all my mom's boxes after she died and my dad was still alive and didn't want to do it. I threw away 99% of it -- old clothes, receipts, trash, newspaper articles, cards, photos, junk jewelry. I kept money and an odd mirror that I knew was her mom's. That was a 4-car garage full of boxes. Are you calling me a bitch because I didn't check in with my dad for every item that I trashed?

If my husband asked me to got rough my boxes and then called me a bitch for throwing away trash BECAUSE it was trash, he would get my two cents.

What BS. So the wife, when at that time, EVERYTHING he had ever told her was that he would think that photo and cards were trash, was supposed to have ESP, know that it was his true love, and keep it????

Remember at the time, she had NO idea that he even liked her, let alone loved her, let alone was the so-called one who got away.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, let me get this clear. A suicidal bulimic woman who cheated on him is your DH's "one that got away?"

I don't think you need to overthink this either OP.

Must have been super super hot.



He is probably just frisky if this is first time you have talked net sex has been low priority

Hahaha! She was (weren't we all and plus she was bulimic so stick thin!) but DH loves being a problem solver and apparently I'm too busy to create this drama and make DH feel needed. If only he knew the drama I created on DCUM!

It's so awesome of you to mock this woman who, according to you, was raped multiple times. You must be such a great person! It's so thoughtful of you to not "create the drama" of having been raped. Kudos!

You are truly crazy. How is it mocking her to say that she was super hot or that she was stick thin (which most women in America take as a compliment)? Or were you being sarcastic?

Clearly that was the opposite of mocking someone.

Tell DH that he dodged a bullet. She sounds like a train wreck.

You are such a bitch for throwing all his stuff away.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, let me get this clear. A suicidal bulimic woman who cheated on him is your DH's "one that got away?"

I don't think you need to overthink this either OP.

Must have been super super hot.



He is probably just frisky if this is first time you have talked net sex has been low priority

Hahaha! She was (weren't we all and plus she was bulimic so stick thin!) but DH loves being a problem solver and apparently I'm too busy to create this drama and make DH feel needed. If only he knew the drama I created on DCUM!

It's so awesome of you to mock this woman who, according to you, was raped multiple times. You must be such a great person! It's so thoughtful of you to not "create the drama" of having been raped. Kudos!

You threw away memorabilia that wasn't yours without asking the owner's permission????

I hope I'm incorrect and didn't read that right because that is such a breach of trust that I would lose all respect for you.

I find no fault with your husband for sharing, since I believe one should share everything with one's spouse. Also, it's normal for you to feel uncomfortable with his confidences and to need a little time to process them.
After a while, you will understand that he married YOU and that you are his chosen one.

But stop throwing away his stuff!