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Anonymous wrote:I love sex and would happily have it every day (multiple times), but I'm also completely capable of waiting a few weeks or even a couple of months before I sleep with someone new. I've dated a fair amount, and once you sleep with someone, you can't take it back. It's out there. I'd rather not sleep with someone who is just after sex - I'm after a relationship. I don't see the problem in waiting a bit for that first time, just to make sure you're actually really interested in the person. Plus I wouldn't be interested in any guy who couldn't wait a couple of months to have sex with someone. Why the hell does everything have to be so rushed? I'm not interested in dating someone who sleeps with every chick he meets on Tinder/Bumble/Match. I'd like someone who is a little more choosy than that.

Once I'm exclusive with someone, game on.

Why should any man who is capable of dating other people want to wait "months" for you when he can be having sex with other women?

There are lots and lots of attractive women in DC. You are not special.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

He doesn't care what you think.

I'm sure he was banging other women while waiting for me. I'm the one he married.

Interesting. You don't care that he was sleeping with other women while courting you. Did you have a guy on the side, or are you just low drive (or were you self servicing)?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

He doesn't care what you think.

I'm sure he was banging other women while waiting for me. I'm the one he married.

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Anonymous wrote:I love sex and would happily have it every day (multiple times), but I'm also completely capable of waiting a few weeks or even a couple of months before I sleep with someone new. I've dated a fair amount, and once you sleep with someone, you can't take it back. It's out there. I'd rather not sleep with someone who is just after sex - I'm after a relationship. I don't see the problem in waiting a bit for that first time, just to make sure you're actually really interested in the person. Plus I wouldn't be interested in any guy who couldn't wait a couple of months to have sex with someone. Why the hell does everything have to be so rushed? I'm not interested in dating someone who sleeps with every chick he meets on Tinder/Bumble/Match. I'd like someone who is a little more choosy than that.

Once I'm exclusive with someone, game on.

Why should any man who is capable of dating other people want to wait "months" for you when he can be having sex with other women?

There are lots and lots of attractive women in DC. You are not special.

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Anonymous wrote:Female here (married, so not asking for myself, just curious). In my circle of friends, a guy has just started dating a woman. While talking about her with us, the guys agreed that it's a bit concerning that she has invited him over to her place because that's slutty, but she hasn't yet slept with (or even kissed) him which is a very good sign. General consensus is that any girl who would sleep with a guy within the first few dates isn't dating material, and that ideally they should wait anywhere form a few weeks to a few months.

Now, maybe my logic is flawed, but to me it seems like if you will only date women who can go without sex for several weeks, you end up with a girlfriend or wife who can go without sex for several weeks. And surprise, most of these guys I know who are with "good girls" are also unhappy in sexless LTR/marriages.

So I'm trying to understand the appeal of a woman who really isn't that into sex. To me, if you want an exciting sex life while married, you should go for women who are eager for it, rather than the mythical Madonna-like woman who has zero interest in men until you come along. Not saying that women who are sleeping around with multiple people are ideal (I wouldn't date a man like that), but if the chemistry and attraction are there, what's wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy sex early on? Why does that automatically exclude a woman from being taken seriously?

As usual, a woman is over-analyzing something very simple.

Men (who are looking for something quote/unquote serious eventually) don't necessarily want a woman who would screw them the first night, but we sure as hell aren't waiting any longer than the third date. If you're not putting out by the third date, men with options are moving on to greener pastures.

Myself personally, I'm not looking to get married, so I want to have sex as fast as possible so I can evaluate if you are worth my time and attention. If we don't work out, that's fine, but I'm not sticking around past the third date so know that up front.

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Anonymous wrote:Female here (married, so not asking for myself, just curious). In my circle of friends, a guy has just started dating a woman. While talking about her with us, the guys agreed that it's a bit concerning that she has invited him over to her place because that's slutty, but she hasn't yet slept with (or even kissed) him which is a very good sign. General consensus is that any girl who would sleep with a guy within the first few dates isn't dating material, and that ideally they should wait anywhere form a few weeks to a few months.

Now, maybe my logic is flawed, but to me it seems like if you will only date women who can go without sex for several weeks, you end up with a girlfriend or wife who can go without sex for several weeks. And surprise, most of these guys I know who are with "good girls" are also unhappy in sexless LTR/marriages.

So I'm trying to understand the appeal of a woman who really isn't that into sex. To me, if you want an exciting sex life while married, you should go for women who are eager for it, rather than the mythical Madonna-like woman who has zero interest in men until you come along. Not saying that women who are sleeping around with multiple people are ideal (I wouldn't date a man like that), but if the chemistry and attraction are there, what's wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy sex early on? Why does that automatically exclude a woman from being taken seriously?

As usual, a woman is over-analyzing something very simple.

Men (who are looking for something quote/unquote serious eventually) don't necessarily want a woman who would screw them the first night, but we sure as hell aren't waiting any longer than the third date. If you're not putting out by the third date, men with options are moving on to greener pastures.

Myself personally, I'm not looking to get married, so I want to have sex as fast as possible so I can evaluate if you are worth my time and attention. If we don't work out, that's fine, but I'm not sticking around past the third date so know that up front.

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"Special"? Are you fcking stupid? Guys want to get laid, or they want a girlfriend with whom they can do that. As long as she isn't a sex worker, previous history isn't that important. What is she up for doing now? That's important.

Stop hating other women so much, and stop thinking in terms of what men should want, instead of what we do want.

GETS IT. I 100% agree.

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Anonymous wrote:Men like women who show some degree of discrimination. If a 27 year old woman hops in bed with a guy on the first date, how many first dates has she had? On the other hand sometimes having a date with a bad girl is just fine.

Sorry, hon, wishful thinking. We're looking for good enough and willing.

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Anonymous wrote:Men like good girls to marry and pass on their DNA (have kids with them). This is biological conditioning because they do not want to raise other men's kids. As for plain hooking up? They want girls who are willing to have sex with them sooner rather than later.

If a man finds a suitable woman to marry he will appreciate her being a good girl. Most men are not looking to get married though before they are settled in their career and in finances so they will not continue to date someone who will not have sex with them after a few dates.

+1 for both paragraphs.

Have you actually met any of us? A suitable girl is any fun non-fat chick who wants me in the bathtub with her.

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Anonymous wrote:Female here (married, so not asking for myself, just curious). In my circle of friends, a guy has just started dating a woman. While talking about her with us, the guys agreed that it's a bit concerning that she has invited him over to her place because that's slutty, but she hasn't yet slept with (or even kissed) him which is a very good sign. General consensus is that any girl who would sleep with a guy within the first few dates isn't dating material, and that ideally they should wait anywhere form a few weeks to a few months.

Now, maybe my logic is flawed, but to me it seems like if you will only date women who can go without sex for several weeks, you end up with a girlfriend or wife who can go without sex for several weeks. And surprise, most of these guys I know who are with "good girls" are also unhappy in sexless LTR/marriages.

So I'm trying to understand the appeal of a woman who really isn't that into sex. To me, if you want an exciting sex life while married, you should go for women who are eager for it, rather than the mythical Madonna-like woman who has zero interest in men until you come along. Not saying that women who are sleeping around with multiple people are ideal (I wouldn't date a man like that), but if the chemistry and attraction are there, what's wrong with a woman who wants to enjoy sex early on? Why does that automatically exclude a woman from being taken seriously?

As usual, a woman is over-analyzing something very simple.

Men (who are looking for something quote/unquote serious eventually) don't necessarily want a woman who would screw them the first night, but we sure as hell aren't waiting any longer than the third date. If you're not putting out by the third date, men with options are moving on to greener pastures.

Myself personally, I'm not looking to get married, so I want to have sex as fast as possible so I can evaluate if you are worth my time and attention. If we don't work out, that's fine, but I'm not sticking around past the third date so know that up front.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

He doesn't care what you think.

I'm sure he was banging other women while waiting for me. I'm the one he married.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men like women who show some degree of discrimination. If a 27 year old woman hops in bed with a guy on the first date, how many first dates has she had? On the other hand sometimes having a date with a bad girl is just fine.

Sorry, hon, wishful thinking. We're looking for good enough and willing.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was single, my magic number was 12 dates before sex. And they have to be actual dates.

Any many who put up with your ridiculous demands is a loser.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love sex and would happily have it every day (multiple times), but I'm also completely capable of waiting a few weeks or even a couple of months before I sleep with someone new. I've dated a fair amount, and once you sleep with someone, you can't take it back. It's out there. I'd rather not sleep with someone who is just after sex - I'm after a relationship. I don't see the problem in waiting a bit for that first time, just to make sure you're actually really interested in the person. Plus I wouldn't be interested in any guy who couldn't wait a couple of months to have sex with someone. Why the hell does everything have to be so rushed? I'm not interested in dating someone who sleeps with every chick he meets on Tinder/Bumble/Match. I'd like someone who is a little more choosy than that.

Once I'm exclusive with someone, game on.

Why should any man who is capable of dating other people want to wait "months" for you when he can be having sex with other women?

There are lots and lots of attractive women in DC. You are not special.

If he's on a hunt to bang and run, rinse and repeat, then sure. But if he wants a relationship, why would he?

You're joking. Sex is a prerequisite for a relationship. If you are avoiding that, you're playing games, there won't be no relationship, you're not going to be taken seriously, I should really stop calling relatively quickly.