Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coach asked me to, so shut it.

You mean the parent? Just tell the coach to shut it. End of the game you all are on your time not the coaches time.

no, the coach. i asked him specifically about this and he said do the snack.

so shut it.

(what attitude you have there in bold text. such nasty woman.)

It is my time at the end of the game. If I wish to hang out I will. If I have somewhere else i need to go I will and I do not need to be handing out snacks or waiting to get the snacks as a courtesy when I have somewhere else to be. It is rec soccer not a friggin social club.

The thing about the whole "snack thing" is that it is nice when it is a nice gesture. When things become dictated then they are no longer a nice gesture but a duty that others simply feel obliged to follow or else they look like jerks.

coz you are one, snack or not.

I'm not a party pooper- but the snacks after games are ridiculous. Kids don't NEED anything, sure water is good. And honestly, the junk that is brought is silly. And kids totally adjust if you don't have them, it is the parents who really are the ones who have to feel brave and step up and just make other suggestions. What about the overall health of our kids and the habits we are enstilling- if it was occasional snacks infirm with it but between birthday parties, school birthday treats, post sport snacks, and then other random things - they are no longer "treats."

Cold water and if ou really think they need food, make it fruit. Set the standard early. worked for our group and goodness is as the kids get older, fewer snacks.

A

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coach asked me to, so shut it.

You mean the parent? Just tell the coach to shut it. End of the game you all are on your time not the coaches time.

no, the coach. i asked him specifically about this and he said do the snack.

so shut it.

(what attitude you have there in bold text. such nasty woman.)

It is my time at the end of the game. If I wish to hang out I will. If I have somewhere else i need to go I will and I do not need to be handing out snacks or waiting to get the snacks as a courtesy when I have somewhere else to be. It is rec soccer not a friggin social club.

The thing about the whole "snack thing" is that it is nice when it is a nice gesture. When things become dictated then they are no longer a nice gesture but a duty that others simply feel obliged to follow or else they look like jerks.

Good, then as was suggested, stop complaining about it on DCUM (and name-calling those who are generous enough to volunteer their time) and band together with your "majority" and change the system. If everyone truly feels the way you do, no one will think you're a jerk.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coach asked me to, so shut it.

You mean the parent? Just tell the coach to shut it. End of the game you all are on your time not the coaches time.

no, the coach. i asked him specifically about this and he said do the snack.

so shut it.

(what attitude you have there in bold text. such nasty woman.)

It is my time at the end of the game. If I wish to hang out I will. If I have somewhere else i need to go I will and I do not need to be handing out snacks or waiting to get the snacks as a courtesy when I have somewhere else to be. It is rec soccer not a friggin social club.

The thing about the whole "snack thing" is that it is nice when it is a nice gesture. When things become dictated then they are no longer a nice gesture but a duty that others simply feel obliged to follow or else they look like jerks.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coach asked me to, so shut it.

You mean the parent? Just tell the coach to shut it. End of the game you all are on your time not the coaches time.

no, the coach. i asked him specifically about this and he said do the snack.

so shut it.

(what attitude you have there in bold text. such nasty woman.)

I believe I was told to "shut it" first.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coach asked me to, so shut it.

You mean the parent? Just tell the coach to shut it. End of the game you all are on your time not the coaches time.

no, the coach. i asked him specifically about this and he said do the snack.

so shut it.

(what attitude you have there in bold text. such nasty woman.)

I'm the team manager/assistant coach, and the one who sends out the snack signups. The girls love the snacks and the parents seem happy to participate, so I've always done the signup genius. If someone doesn't want to sign up, we just don't have snacks that week, though that's never happened.

Now I'm paranoid that the parents secretly hate me for "making" them bring snacks they don't want to bring. (we bring juice boxes of flavored water and fun size bags of chips and cookies, nothing fancy.) Most of the parents on our team are two-high-earner couples in big houses, so I imagine that cost isn't the issue.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't always blame the mom who sends out the sign-up. You don't always know what is being asked of the team coordinator by multiple parents. I am the coordinator for my kid's team. Believe me, I have better things to do than make a snack sign up genius. But then I get questions from other parents about who is bringing the snacks that week. They want them. So rather than deal with drama I fulfill my duty since I volunteered for this and I make a snack schedule. So don't call me an idiot, thank me for volunteering and handling all the other annoying tasks everyone wants and "thinks would be nice" (collecting for a coach gift, end of year parties, etc) but doesn't step up to do.

No, you can make a stand against stupidity. You may not be an idiot but you are complicit. "Just following orders", not when the orders are unjust.

Snacks are "unjust"?!?! Lol. Who sounds like an idiot, taking things too far.
It's what the majority wants. What would be unjust is to volunteer to coordinate things for the team and then once in that role, to start calling the shots and making unilateral decisions that are not what the team wants. Yes, I could "step down" and refuse to do snacks, but it's really not that serious. If the team wants snacks, who cares. Each parent can decide whether or not they want to bring cookies, just oranges, or not sign up at all. Hey, there's a thought, if you don't like it, don't sign up to bring any. If no one signs up, no more snacks. Or snacks only on weeks that the parents who care about it decide to bring them.

I think this thread proves that this is far from a majority desire. Many people go along with it to be polite but it is nothing more than a pain in the ass all around. How about you feed your kid and I'll feed mine.

What this thread proves is that there are a bunch of whiners on DCUM but no one willing to speak up in person. As the team coordinator, I would love to nix snacks, one less thing on my plate (pun intended). So how about if at the beginning of the season when parents are gathered after the first practice to talk about volunteers for this and that (help at practices, etc), and someone mentions how "it would be nice to have snacks after every game", and people start nodding their heads like sheeple, how about if you and these other parents in the so-called "majority" SPEAK UP and say something. Because otherwise, I'm assuming that this is what everyone wants.

Okay serious answer:

If $20 is okay for you to spend -- Get a case of water and a couple of packs of juice packets or boxes -- whatever kind your family likes as you are keeping the leftovers. Toss them in a cooler with some ice. Get enough individual goldfish packets (the come like 12 to a box so probably a couple of boxes is good although parents like them too) for the team and siblings. Goldfish are good as pretty much everyone likes them or at least do not dislike them, and they are peanut safe. Even if no one on the team has a peanut concern its easier if you do not have to police it You never know if the 3 year old sibling of a kid on the other team will wander over.

If you are the snack parent for the day -- when the kids are shaking hands at the end of the game -- move the cooler and goldfish about 15 yards or so away from the field in the direction of the parking area so teams for the next game can get set up and you don't have to cross or go around the field to leave.

Kids like the snacks and a packet of goldfish is not going to spoil their appetite if they are headed out to brunch or lunch. Most of the time kids are a bit hungry with games starting typically between 9 and 10, and kids having eaten a bowl of cereal around 7 to 7:30.

Don't bother with half-time stuff. There is no time. Just have water bottles for your kid.

Although -- just for fun -- my kid's college team would have cut up oranges in the lockerroom at half-time of the first exhibition game each year just to get the freshman going. "Yeah -- got to have oranges at half-time. Seniors did it this time. Freshman got next game."

Before the first real game each year after the coaches leave the lockerroom, the team captains start with the pre-game tradition of taking a slug of vodka (water) from the bottle. The rule is that you have to finish the bottle before leaving the lockerroom. Start with the seniors and work down to the freshman making sure to leave quite a bit in the bottle for the freshman to have to finish off.
The tell the most outgoing freshman what's up so they volunteer to go first. Then you have 2 to 4 others thinking they have to finish off about a third of a bottle of vodka before their first college game. I asked the coach about it last year -- he said it really loosens the freshman up coming out of the lockerroom. They are talking about that rather than getting nervous about the game.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't always blame the mom who sends out the sign-up. You don't always know what is being asked of the team coordinator by multiple parents. I am the coordinator for my kid's team. Believe me, I have better things to do than make a snack sign up genius. But then I get questions from other parents about who is bringing the snacks that week. They want them. So rather than deal with drama I fulfill my duty since I volunteered for this and I make a snack schedule. So don't call me an idiot, thank me for volunteering and handling all the other annoying tasks everyone wants and "thinks would be nice" (collecting for a coach gift, end of year parties, etc) but doesn't step up to do.

No, you can make a stand against stupidity. You may not be an idiot but you are complicit. "Just following orders", not when the orders are unjust.

Snacks are "unjust"?!?! Lol. Who sounds like an idiot, taking things too far.
It's what the majority wants. What would be unjust is to volunteer to coordinate things for the team and then once in that role, to start calling the shots and making unilateral decisions that are not what the team wants. Yes, I could "step down" and refuse to do snacks, but it's really not that serious. If the team wants snacks, who cares. Each parent can decide whether or not they want to bring cookies, just oranges, or not sign up at all. Hey, there's a thought, if you don't like it, don't sign up to bring any. If no one signs up, no more snacks. Or snacks only on weeks that the parents who care about it decide to bring them.

I think this thread proves that this is far from a majority desire. Many people go along with it to be polite but it is nothing more than a pain in the ass all around. How about you feed your kid and I'll feed mine.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't always blame the mom who sends out the sign-up. You don't always know what is being asked of the team coordinator by multiple parents. I am the coordinator for my kid's team. Believe me, I have better things to do than make a snack sign up genius. But then I get questions from other parents about who is bringing the snacks that week. They want them. So rather than deal with drama I fulfill my duty since I volunteered for this and I make a snack schedule. So don't call me an idiot, thank me for volunteering and handling all the other annoying tasks everyone wants and "thinks would be nice" (collecting for a coach gift, end of year parties, etc) but doesn't step up to do.

No, you can make a stand against stupidity. You may not be an idiot but you are complicit. "Just following orders", not when the orders are unjust.

Snacks are "unjust"?!?! Lol. Who sounds like an idiot, taking things too far.
It's what the majority wants. What would be unjust is to volunteer to coordinate things for the team and then once in that role, to start calling the shots and making unilateral decisions that are not what the team wants. Yes, I could "step down" and refuse to do snacks, but it's really not that serious. If the team wants snacks, who cares. Each parent can decide whether or not they want to bring cookies, just oranges, or not sign up at all. Hey, there's a thought, if you don't like it, don't sign up to bring any. If no one signs up, no more snacks. Or snacks only on weeks that the parents who care about it decide to bring them.

Anonymous wrote:Coach asked me to, so shut it.

You mean the parent? Just tell the coach to shut it. End of the game you all are on your time not the coaches time.

Coach asked me to, so shut it.

Anonymous wrote:Don't always blame the mom who sends out the sign-up. You don't always know what is being asked of the team coordinator by multiple parents. I am the coordinator for my kid's team. Believe me, I have better things to do than make a snack sign up genius. But then I get questions from other parents about who is bringing the snacks that week. They want them. So rather than deal with drama I fulfill my duty since I volunteered for this and I make a snack schedule. So don't call me an idiot, thank me for volunteering and handling all the other annoying tasks everyone wants and "thinks would be nice" (collecting for a coach gift, end of year parties, etc) but doesn't step up to do.

No, you can make a stand against stupidity. You may not be an idiot but you are complicit. "Just following orders", not when the orders are unjust.

Anonymous wrote:Why is it dumb? They just ran hard for you for 60 minutes, presumably something you are proud of and want them to enjoy and continue doing, maybe even advance if they're up for it. You want to begrudge them a juice box afterwards?

Um, my kids don't play soccer for me. They play because they like it ! I thought that was the norm.