Anonymous
04/25/2017 18:43
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
haha - yo are 32. op, you are competing against 22 year olds and you have nothing to provide compared to them for the type of guys you want
Anonymous
04/25/2017 18:02
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A good catch:
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
I laffed. Not only did I laff, but I guffawed.
You think $150k+ a "decent" living. Your expectations are clearly out of whack.
Why don't you post a photo of yourself in this thread so we can determine whether you are not only worthy of a man making $150k but if you are capable of snagging one.
We'll be waiting.
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time. I love hiking, cats and lifting. I am great with children (neighborhood babysitter growing up) and have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr. I do not earn a very good living and make 60k in fundraising. I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
If everyone you know is married to guy's with a similar profile and you're not that means you likely are the one that is lacking. I've seen this a couple of my wife's friends. Similar circle. All the husbands are of a similar status level but the couple perpetual single girlfriends will not be set up with anyone they see as "lesser" than their friends husbands. Here's the honest truth from a 30's guy that fits your profile, for the both of those friends of my wife I'd happily go out for drinks and would love to have had a go in bed with them in my single days but I can't imagine dating them seriously. Their personality precludes it.
Your post reminds me of them immensely. I'd never take the chance on a ltr with someone that categorizes me on requirements like that. Especially on 150k salary at a mid career point. I'd never trust she liked me for me, or that she wasn't ultimately after my trust funds. Would she even stick around if experienced hardship, as you know the wedding vows state you're supposed to? And the guys who are cool with a girl who significantly values their money/income; bad news. They're going for a much younger model vehicle than you. Doesn't matter how fit you are or how much you lift.
As a fellow philosophy major I think you've lost your focus. You're requirements look incredibly superficial on paper. If was single, I'd dig a hot philosophy major who I could bond with over common interests. You being in your 30's wouldn't be an issue. I met my wife when she turned 30 and I chose her over a multitude of younger women I was casually dating at the time. Stop focusing on a checklist and start looking for the Good again. Figure out the ethical qualities you want in a partner and go for that. And imagine the type of person your dream partner would want to date and start improving yourself towards that.
Lots of philosophy majors around here.I get your point and I think you make some good recs for OP, but I also don't think her "standards" are unreasonable. If she lives in the DC area, wanting a partner who makes $150k is certainly not "gold digging," as you'll be living a comfortable but not extravagant life. It's high enough that they will be able to afford a mortgage in the area. Less, and you're looking at high-rise condos (which are a bad investment) or perpetual renting instead of the modest, older houses that they'll be able to afford on $200k.
Anyone who wants to jump on me for being okay with the OP being able to afford a house with her prospective husbands, flame away. I don't think she is being unreasonable. I also don't think this salary number rules out 95% of men as some have said in this thread. Maybe that percentage is right for the whole country, but not in this area. I may be wrong about this.
If she had said 75-100k I would have given her lots more leeway on the gold digger angle. A household income of that range in combination with hers and decent monetary habits would easily put you in the category of being able to afford a 500k home. There are still a lot of great starter homes in the DMV for that price. 100k downpayment could be made easy in 3 years with good saving habits and that's assuming that neither partner already has savings. At that point with current rates your payment would only be 1900, much less than rent for a lot these new apartments.
One of my issues with her is that she's looking for a fairytale prince wanting someone who makes 150k a year and isn't a workaholic. That's like planning for retirement by playing the lottery. Sure there's a chance that you land that but its so rare it's the exception rather than the rule. People who make 150k, even in this city work. And work a lot and work hard. If she wants the lifestyle that comes with 150k salary thats fine but it's hurting her dating life by putting that on her imaginary future spouse instead of leveraging her own career to get her to that salary.
Also I don't like cats so that might have factored in also. My dogs just wouldn't take the addition of a feline sibling lightly.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:51
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
DW and I met when we were late 20's and I was just starting my company. I was living off my meager savings, and certainly didn't have cash to spare.
Luckily she saw me for me, and not my income. Now we're happily married with 2 kids, and our combined HHI is $900k+.
Luckily she saw me for me, and not my income. Now we're happily married with 2 kids, and our combined HHI is $900k+.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:49
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A good catch:
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
I laffed. Not only did I laff, but I guffawed.
You think $150k+ a "decent" living. Your expectations are clearly out of whack.
Why don't you post a photo of yourself in this thread so we can determine whether you are not only worthy of a man making $150k but if you are capable of snagging one.
We'll be waiting.
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time. I love hiking, cats and lifting. I am great with children (neighborhood babysitter growing up) and have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr. I do not earn a very good living and make 60k in fundraising. I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
Sorry, OP, but you are no longer in fashion - http://nypost.com/2017/04/12/why-hot-people-arent-worth-dating/
Wow, aren't you the nasty woman! Op, you are just fine and you sound wonderful. Don't listen to these angry old B's on this site, get out there and socialize, socialize, socialize. You life weights, why aren't you at some of the cross fit classes in the area, lots of great guys there who would have the same fitness interest you have. Also, try volunteering at some local pet shelters and as a volunteer at some of the marathon events that going on in this area. You will meet like minded people. Just put yourself out there.
Agree. OP sounds fine and her requirements are not outlandish. Don't your classmates from college have brothers, cousins or friends they can set you up with? There are lots of men who would love to meet you. If my brothers, a doctor and a lawyer, were single or in the area, I would set them up with you!
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:49
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A good catch:
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
I laffed. Not only did I laff, but I guffawed.
You think $150k+ a "decent" living. Your expectations are clearly out of whack.
Why don't you post a photo of yourself in this thread so we can determine whether you are not only worthy of a man making $150k but if you are capable of snagging one.
We'll be waiting.
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time. I love hiking, cats and lifting. I am great with children (neighborhood babysitter growing up) and have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr. I do not earn a very good living and make 60k in fundraising. I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
If everyone you know is married to guy's with a similar profile and you're not that means you likely are the one that is lacking. I've seen this a couple of my wife's friends. Similar circle. All the husbands are of a similar status level but the couple perpetual single girlfriends will not be set up with anyone they see as "lesser" than their friends husbands. Here's the honest truth from a 30's guy that fits your profile, for the both of those friends of my wife I'd happily go out for drinks and would love to have had a go in bed with them in my single days but I can't imagine dating them seriously. Their personality precludes it.
Your post reminds me of them immensely. I'd never take the chance on a ltr with someone that categorizes me on requirements like that. Especially on 150k salary at a mid career point. I'd never trust she liked me for me, or that she wasn't ultimately after my trust funds. Would she even stick around if experienced hardship, as you know the wedding vows state you're supposed to? And the guys who are cool with a girl who significantly values their money/income; bad news. They're going for a much younger model vehicle than you. Doesn't matter how fit you are or how much you lift.
As a fellow philosophy major I think you've lost your focus. You're requirements look incredibly superficial on paper. If was single, I'd dig a hot philosophy major who I could bond with over common interests. You being in your 30's wouldn't be an issue. I met my wife when she turned 30 and I chose her over a multitude of younger women I was casually dating at the time. Stop focusing on a checklist and start looking for the Good again. Figure out the ethical qualities you want in a partner and go for that. And imagine the type of person your dream partner would want to date and start improving yourself towards that.
Lots of philosophy majors around here.
I get your point and I think you make some good recs for OP, but I also don't think her "standards" are unreasonable. If she lives in the DC area, wanting a partner who makes $150k is certainly not "gold digging," as you'll be living a comfortable but not extravagant life. It's high enough that they will be able to afford a mortgage in the area. Less, and you're looking at high-rise condos (which are a bad investment) or perpetual renting instead of the modest, older houses that they'll be able to afford on $200k.
Anyone who wants to jump on me for being okay with the OP being able to afford a house with her prospective husbands, flame away. I don't think she is being unreasonable. I also don't think this salary number rules out 95% of men as some have said in this thread. Maybe that percentage is right for the whole country, but not in this area. I may be wrong about this.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:39
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Well, thanks for this thread, OP!
I've been very cranky lately about my math phd DH who is 34 and never managed to get a tenure track job. He is currently looking to transition into industry where apparently he can start at between 150-250k base salary. I have been freaking out about this major transition and feeling terrified about the future because I feel like we are both so old for that kind of upheaval, and I have been resentful that we haven't yet been able to start a family. I am 32 like you.
After reading the replies to this thread, I think I am going to go give my DH the best blow job of his life and make a pact never to bitch about my life again. God, I hope he doesn't figure out his value (he is very attractive, too) before we have kids. He'd probably dump me for being as big of a B as I've been...
I've been very cranky lately about my math phd DH who is 34 and never managed to get a tenure track job. He is currently looking to transition into industry where apparently he can start at between 150-250k base salary. I have been freaking out about this major transition and feeling terrified about the future because I feel like we are both so old for that kind of upheaval, and I have been resentful that we haven't yet been able to start a family. I am 32 like you.
After reading the replies to this thread, I think I am going to go give my DH the best blow job of his life and make a pact never to bitch about my life again. God, I hope he doesn't figure out his value (he is very attractive, too) before we have kids. He'd probably dump me for being as big of a B as I've been...
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:25
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
If 30+ includes 53, I'm available. If you are hot, I'll dump my wife too..
- I meet all your criteria and I don't have to work.
- I meet all your criteria and I don't have to work.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:24
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Eh, depends on the prenup. And they probably don't give a damn about the money anyway.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:19
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:I like a woman with to have large hips and small breasts. Not everyone likes the same thing. Lol
OP is smoking crack though if she's confused why men in their 30's making 150+ aren't falling over her. If they have been single that long, they probably aren't real concerned about having a family while they are young. Easy enough to get a trophy wife in their 40's or 50's to squeeze out Jr and also pay for a live in nanny when they are then making 7 figures.
True then down the road they are paying a lot for that trophy wife and kid they had too late in life when they divorce.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:13
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
A good catch:
- Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+
I laffed. Not only did I laff, but I guffawed.
You think $150k+ a "decent" living. Your expectations are clearly out of whack.
Why don't you post a photo of yourself in this thread so we can determine whether you are not only worthy of a man making $150k but if you are capable of snagging one.
We'll be waiting.
I am a size 2, fit petite brunette who gets told she looks 25 and resembles Eva Longoria all the time. I love hiking, cats and lifting. I am great with children (neighborhood babysitter growing up) and have a Philosophy degree from Bryn Mawr. I do not earn a very good living and make 60k in fundraising. I do not think my requirements are outlandish. Everyone I know is married to guys with a similar profile.
If everyone you know is married to guy's with a similar profile and you're not that means you likely are the one that is lacking. I've seen this a couple of my wife's friends. Similar circle. All the husbands are of a similar status level but the couple perpetual single girlfriends will not be set up with anyone they see as "lesser" than their friends husbands. Here's the honest truth from a 30's guy that fits your profile, for the both of those friends of my wife I'd happily go out for drinks and would love to have had a go in bed with them in my single days but I can't imagine dating them seriously. Their personality precludes it.
Your post reminds me of them immensely. I'd never take the chance on a ltr with someone that categorizes me on requirements like that. Especially on 150k salary at a mid career point. I'd never trust she liked me for me, or that she wasn't ultimately after my trust funds. Would she even stick around if experienced hardship, as you know the wedding vows state you're supposed to? And the guys who are cool with a girl who significantly values their money/income; bad news. They're going for a much younger model vehicle than you. Doesn't matter how fit you are or how much you lift.
As a fellow philosophy major I think you've lost your focus. You're requirements look incredibly superficial on paper. If was single, I'd dig a hot philosophy major who I could bond with over common interests. You being in your 30's wouldn't be an issue. I met my wife when she turned 30 and I chose her over a multitude of younger women I was casually dating at the time. Stop focusing on a checklist and start looking for the Good again. Figure out the ethical qualities you want in a partner and go for that. And imagine the type of person your dream partner would want to date and start improving yourself towards that.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:12
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
I like a woman with to have large hips and small breasts. Not everyone likes the same thing. Lol
OP is smoking crack though if she's confused why men in their 30's making 150+ aren't falling over her. If they have been single that long, they probably aren't real concerned about having a family while they are young. Easy enough to get a trophy wife in their 40's or 50's to squeeze out Jr and also pay for a live in nanny when they are then making 7 figures.
OP is smoking crack though if she's confused why men in their 30's making 150+ aren't falling over her. If they have been single that long, they probably aren't real concerned about having a family while they are young. Easy enough to get a trophy wife in their 40's or 50's to squeeze out Jr and also pay for a live in nanny when they are then making 7 figures.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:11
Subject: Re:Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:don't be afraid to approach someone you're interested in.
Oops, now you've done it! You've touched the third rail of female entitlement in DC. Women here should NEVER, EVER have to lift a finger to attract a man they might desire. That's so UNCOUTH. They might as well drink water straight out of the Anacostia.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:10
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, I'm 35 and my base salary exceeds OP's income requirement by over 6 figures. But I'm married and have two kids. My two best friends also meet the income threshold (banking and medicine, respectively) but they too are married. Oddly enough, we all married our college girlfriends.
OP is trying to shoot a really narrow gap in terms of men she's looking for. They exist. But the reality is guys earning that salary at that age are mostly already hitched. So she's really looking for a narrow subset of men and I would offer up that an attractive single mid-30s guy making that type of salary is not heading into a serious relationship any time soon.
OP's best bet are probably senior associates in big law.
From my experience, all single big law senior associates have serious personality/psychological defects. A non-insigificant number are spectrum, as well as secretly gay and then there are the secret psychopaths. Best hope would be to find the relatively normally but seriously awkward introvert.
Personally I never liked too many lawyers except the ones defending me. We use to go to a Xmas party every year put on by a big firm. Not my cup of tea.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:09
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:So, I'm 35 and my base salary exceeds OP's income requirement by over 6 figures. But I'm married and have two kids. My two best friends also meet the income threshold (banking and medicine, respectively) but they too are married. Oddly enough, we all married our college girlfriends.
OP is trying to shoot a really narrow gap in terms of men she's looking for. They exist. But the reality is guys earning that salary at that age are mostly already hitched. So she's really looking for a narrow subset of men and I would offer up that an attractive single mid-30s guy making that type of salary is not heading into a serious relationship any time soon.
OP's best bet are probably senior associates in big law.
From my experience, all single big law senior associates have serious personality/psychological defects. A non-insigificant number are spectrum, as well as secretly gay and then there are the secret psychopaths. Best hope would be to find the relatively normally but seriously awkward introvert.
+1
I can attest to this with my own anecdote. Have a family member (in law) making $$$ in biglaw in another city. He is, apparently, very competent in his field but can't be trusted to wash his own underwear, ever, not even in school when he had to. He would go and buy new ones. Many other stories like that. Not sure how he sustained this for years. He brags about not having to do any childcare (married) except for two hours of scheduled superficial interaction on weekends. He's also very rude, a total ass, when he's not "prioritizing" you - like he doesn't give a shit unless, I don't know, if you matter to his business. Obviously I am only family, and haven't seen him at his job too much. Something is definitely wrong/off with him. The day he met me he was really funny and charming and I liked him. After that, he acted like I didn't exist. Super strange.
His wife is a total bitch, super controlling, probably some big anxiety issues and a big liar - but I think she fits him because she just tells him what to do and think she runs his life. Perfect.
Anonymous
04/25/2017 17:08
Subject: Any quality 30+ guys left?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:When I found my husband in my 20's, he was not earning anywhere close to $150k. I had to take a risk and make an investment in a person who might eventually be a high earner. I got him before he knew what he was worth.
Now, you're looking to buy high. These decent men know their worth. It's going to take someone exceptional to catch their eyes. Best of luck.
Let that be a lesson, guys: Women LOVE potential.
Like guys like slim, attractive women, and sex. Women LOVE potential.
These things will NEVER change.