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Anonymous wrote:What is this odd trend of matchy matchy for the mother/MIL to the wedding party?? Understand not wearing white - but saying she needs to compliment the bridesmaids? color scheme? Really??? All I asked my M/MIL was that they wear something they felt wonderful in so that they would enjoy themselves. (I did have bridesmaids but gave them a color and said any dress within that range was fine w/me.) There is NO tradition of this - it is a made up fad. And yes - just let it go.

My mom and MIL chose their dresses on their own. Each chose long and pink independently. I wore white and bridesmaids a coral.
For OP's wedding the crème depends on the shade of crème and the style.

What's wrong with this [beige]? http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-lace-dress-jacket-plus-size/3519263?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=CHAMPAGNE

That it vomitously boring. Blah, blah, blah.

I might be mom of .... Prefer neutral dress can use again. You all think that is too blah? I thought it was too sparkly. I like this dressed up with very expensive shoes/jewelry https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/adrianna-papell-sleeveless-asymmetric-neck-cocktail-dress?ID=2563235&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn=DRESS_STYLE_M%3DLace;;Sheath;;Shift;;Shirt%26ppp%3D%26spp%3D42%26sp%3D2%26rid%3D110|BOOST SAVED SET%26spc%3D487%26rsid%3Dundefined%26pn%3D2|6|42|487

https://images.bloomingdales.com/is/image/BLM/?$2014_BROWSE_FASHION$&$b=BLM/products/&cropN=0,0,2,1&layer=0&src=is{$b$1/optimized/9002681_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=1&posN=0.5,0&src=is{$b$2/optimized/9002682_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=2&posN=1.0,0&wid=472

or https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/calvin-klein-bell-sleeve-dress-100-exclusive?ID=2434370&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn%3Dspp%3D27

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447047616&R=889193845168&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoCG63

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446734466&R=883879739253&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoEzKh

Some very simple satins are over 2000k.

Seriously? Why not just go with grey? It's a neutral you can wear again, just like the blush and beige. (Genuinely curious.)

I posted those because I might have to buy an outfit. Grey is not a good color on me so I thought beige would work. more http://www.neimanmarcus.com/Lela-Rose-Floral-Fil-Coupe-Full-Skirt-Dress-Yellow/prod196780227_cat61740786__/p.prod?icid=&searchType=EndecaDrivenCat&rte=%252Fcategory.service%253FitemId%253Dcat61740786%2526pageSize%253D30%2526Nao%253D60%2526Ns%253Dcat61740786%257C0%257C%257CTREE_SORT_VALUE2%257C1%257C%257CWEB1_SORT%257C%257CWEB2_SORT%257C%257CWEB3_SORT%257C%257CWEB4_SORT%257C%257CSELLABLE_DATE%257C1%2526refinements%253D&eItemId=prod196780227&cmCat=producthttp://www.neimanmarcus.com/Lela-Rose-Floral-Corded-Lace-Bell-Sleeve-Dress-Light-Green/prod196810191_cat61740786__/p.prod?icid=&searchType=EndecaDrivenCat&rte=%252Fcategory.service%253FitemId%253Dcat61740786%2526pageSize%253D30%2526Nao%253D90%2526Ns%253Dcat61740786%257C0%257C%257CTREE_SORT_VALUE2%257C1%257C%257CWEB1_SORT%257C%257CWEB2_SORT%257C%257CWEB3_SORT%257C%257CWEB4_SORT%257C%257CSELLABLE_DATE%257C1%2526refinements%253D&eItemId=prod196810191&cmCat=product

OMG. You lost me at "It's the standard etiquette."

You sound like your mother's daughter.

Look, the mom CAN where whatever she wants. But, just b/c she can, doesn't mean she should.

I always favor the direct approach. "Mom, you can where whatever you want, though I wish you wouldn't wear white. This is the Bride's dress and it looks like you're competing for attention with the bride. Traditionally, it's looked at as tacky to wear white to a wedding. So, go ahead, if you want to to. But, just know that people will judge you for it."

I think all of the above is direct and fair. She shouldn't wear white and some people will judge her for it. I hear my relatives and friends talk about what people wear to weddings so it happens. But what do I know? I had a very non-traditional wedding.

If the parents are paying 30k, 50k, 70k, etc. for the wedding... then they can wear whatever they want.

Gray is an awful color - only looks good on redheads

LOL at your mom being the narcissist. Let her wear what she wants, who cares. Your attitude doesn't bode well for your future spouse.

I just right now realized my MIL wore a very similar green to that worn by my bridesmaids. And I got married 20 years ago! Obviously, I didn't care and still don't. My mom wore a champagne colored dress and all I remember was that it was more expensive than my wedding dress, which I thought was humorous but not a big deal.

Sounds like OP has many problems with her mom, according to her OP. So for some reason, she is posting about the color of the dress, which is not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. I question why she is posting about this particular issue if there are so much bigger issues to tackle.

Totally not a hill to die on but if I saw a MOB in white at a wedding I would think they were desperate for attention.

For god's sake people, spring for a new dress
No one needs to wear it again
Not when it's this special an occasion

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Anonymous wrote:What is this odd trend of matchy matchy for the mother/MIL to the wedding party?? Understand not wearing white - but saying she needs to compliment the bridesmaids? color scheme? Really??? All I asked my M/MIL was that they wear something they felt wonderful in so that they would enjoy themselves. (I did have bridesmaids but gave them a color and said any dress within that range was fine w/me.) There is NO tradition of this - it is a made up fad. And yes - just let it go.

My mom and MIL chose their dresses on their own. Each chose long and pink independently. I wore white and bridesmaids a coral.
For OP's wedding the crème depends on the shade of crème and the style.

What's wrong with this [beige]? http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-lace-dress-jacket-plus-size/3519263?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=CHAMPAGNE

That it vomitously boring. Blah, blah, blah.

I might be mom of .... Prefer neutral dress can use again. You all think that is too blah? I thought it was too sparkly. I like this dressed up with very expensive shoes/jewelry https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/adrianna-papell-sleeveless-asymmetric-neck-cocktail-dress?ID=2563235&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn=DRESS_STYLE_M%3DLace;;Sheath;;Shift;;Shirt%26ppp%3D%26spp%3D42%26sp%3D2%26rid%3D110|BOOST SAVED SET%26spc%3D487%26rsid%3Dundefined%26pn%3D2|6|42|487

https://images.bloomingdales.com/is/image/BLM/?$2014_BROWSE_FASHION$&$b=BLM/products/&cropN=0,0,2,1&layer=0&src=is{$b$1/optimized/9002681_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=1&posN=0.5,0&src=is{$b$2/optimized/9002682_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=2&posN=1.0,0&wid=472

or https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/calvin-klein-bell-sleeve-dress-100-exclusive?ID=2434370&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn%3Dspp%3D27

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447047616&R=889193845168&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoCG63

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446734466&R=883879739253&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoEzKh

Some very simple satins are over 2000k.

Seriously? Why not just go with grey? It's a neutral you can wear again, just like the blush and beige. (Genuinely curious.)

Not a issue. Many of the old traditions are not being followed, news ones are being created.

Let your poor mom wear what she wants.

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Anonymous wrote:What is this odd trend of matchy matchy for the mother/MIL to the wedding party?? Understand not wearing white - but saying she needs to compliment the bridesmaids? color scheme? Really??? All I asked my M/MIL was that they wear something they felt wonderful in so that they would enjoy themselves. (I did have bridesmaids but gave them a color and said any dress within that range was fine w/me.) There is NO tradition of this - it is a made up fad. And yes - just let it go.

My mom and MIL chose their dresses on their own. Each chose long and pink independently. I wore white and bridesmaids a coral.
For OP's wedding the crème depends on the shade of crème and the style.

What's wrong with this [beige]? http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-lace-dress-jacket-plus-size/3519263?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=CHAMPAGNE

That it vomitously boring. Blah, blah, blah.

I might be mom of .... Prefer neutral dress can use again. You all think that is too blah? I thought it was too sparkly. I like this dressed up with very expensive shoes/jewelry https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/adrianna-papell-sleeveless-asymmetric-neck-cocktail-dress?ID=2563235&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn=DRESS_STYLE_M%3DLace;;Sheath;;Shift;;Shirt%26ppp%3D%26spp%3D42%26sp%3D2%26rid%3D110|BOOST SAVED SET%26spc%3D487%26rsid%3Dundefined%26pn%3D2|6|42|487

https://images.bloomingdales.com/is/image/BLM/?$2014_BROWSE_FASHION$&$b=BLM/products/&cropN=0,0,2,1&layer=0&src=is{$b$1/optimized/9002681_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=1&posN=0.5,0&src=is{$b$2/optimized/9002682_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=2&posN=1.0,0&wid=472

or https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/calvin-klein-bell-sleeve-dress-100-exclusive?ID=2434370&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn%3Dspp%3D27

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447047616&R=889193845168&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoCG63

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446734466&R=883879739253&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoEzKh

Some very simple satins are over 2000k.

That color is SO BORING, no matter how many sequins you stick on it or how much it costs. I would never make my mother wear anything so drab and dull and unflattering. Barf. Let your mom wear whatever she wants. No one is going to mistake her for the bride or a bridesmaid.

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Anonymous wrote:What is this odd trend of matchy matchy for the mother/MIL to the wedding party?? Understand not wearing white - but saying she needs to compliment the bridesmaids? color scheme? Really??? All I asked my M/MIL was that they wear something they felt wonderful in so that they would enjoy themselves. (I did have bridesmaids but gave them a color and said any dress within that range was fine w/me.) There is NO tradition of this - it is a made up fad. And yes - just let it go.

My mom and MIL chose their dresses on their own. Each chose long and pink independently. I wore white and bridesmaids a coral.
For OP's wedding the crème depends on the shade of crème and the style.

What's wrong with this [beige]? http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-lace-dress-jacket-plus-size/3519263?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=CHAMPAGNE

That it vomitously boring. Blah, blah, blah.

I might be mom of .... Prefer neutral dress can use again. You all think that is too blah? I thought it was too sparkly. I like this dressed up with very expensive shoes/jewelry https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/adrianna-papell-sleeveless-asymmetric-neck-cocktail-dress?ID=2563235&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn=DRESS_STYLE_M%3DLace;;Sheath;;Shift;;Shirt%26ppp%3D%26spp%3D42%26sp%3D2%26rid%3D110|BOOST SAVED SET%26spc%3D487%26rsid%3Dundefined%26pn%3D2|6|42|487

https://images.bloomingdales.com/is/image/BLM/?$2014_BROWSE_FASHION$&$b=BLM/products/&cropN=0,0,2,1&layer=0&src=is{$b$1/optimized/9002681_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=1&posN=0.5,0&src=is{$b$2/optimized/9002682_fpx.tif}&anchor=0,0&layer=2&posN=1.0,0&wid=472

or https://www.bloomingdales.com/shop/product/calvin-klein-bell-sleeve-dress-100-exclusive?ID=2434370&CategoryID=1005206&LinkType=#fn%3Dspp%3D27

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524447047616&R=889193845168&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoCG63

http://www.saksfifthavenue.com/main/ProductDetail.jsp?FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374306634682&PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524446734466&R=883879739253&P_name=Tadashi+Shoji&N=306634682+4294929615+4294929613+4294929602+4294929611&bmUID=lJoEzKh

Some very simple satins are over 2000k.

Not the hill to die on. You both sound childish BTW. No one will care and even if they notice mom, it's nothing on you.

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Anonymous wrote:What is this odd trend of matchy matchy for the mother/MIL to the wedding party?? Understand not wearing white - but saying she needs to compliment the bridesmaids? color scheme? Really??? All I asked my M/MIL was that they wear something they felt wonderful in so that they would enjoy themselves. (I did have bridesmaids but gave them a color and said any dress within that range was fine w/me.) There is NO tradition of this - it is a made up fad. And yes - just let it go.

My mom and MIL chose their dresses on their own. Each chose long and pink independently. I wore white and bridesmaids a coral.
For OP's wedding the crème depends on the shade of crème and the style.

What's wrong with this [beige]? http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alex-evenings-lace-dress-jacket-plus-size/3519263?origin=category-personalizedsort&fashioncolor=CHAMPAGNE

That it vomitously boring. Blah, blah, blah.