And your DH planned the fishing trip, why? To allow his Dad to manipulate him some more?

Now I'm assuming the majority of you read that and thought "you can't do that without FIL's signature" that's why I think FIL is lying. FIL told DH that he thinks she took money out on the house or something along those lines. Something fishy going on with FIL's story and pretty awful of him to put this on DH. DH said yesterday that FIL kept commenting on our financial status and how we've been able to pay our house off and our vehicles etc.

For the non trolls, I have an update. I talked to DH and found out a little more of what's going on. I'm pretty sure FIL is about to ask for a large sum of money. Lately FIL has really upped the guilt trips and has been showing up at DH's work almost daily. I met DH because he works at the company my brother owns. It was my brother who has been letting me know about the daily visits. He says DH looks depressed each time his dad shows up at work. I've had no idea why or what's going on. DH finally opened up yesterday and told me. Apparently FIL told him that MIL has been gambling again. He told him that he went to check to see how much he owes on the mortgage and the loan wasn't through that bank anymore. He says he's been paying on 40,000 for 25 years and was getting suspicious as to why it's not paid off. To be continued in next comment.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not be mad if I were you. It's one day that he planned with his dad. You should have gotten groceries prior to the day and 10 minutes is walking distance. There are plenty of things that could have been done to avoid this. You sound jealous, obviously there's more to the story. How come you don't plan dates, or family outings? Why does it fall on your husband? You sound needy. Do you have friends or family to hang out with?

Please don't try to introduce sanity to the story. It has no place here.

Oh and I AM the one who plans dates and family outings. I said DH has never done it. I didn't have the opportunity to go grocery shopping prior to Sunday. We were out of town and he didn't plan this fishing trip until DD was asleep Saturday night. Oh and I'm not walking 8 miles with a 1 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you make sure to get food the day before? You knew he was going out.

Because they have a baby and things happen! OMG devoting one day a week to extended family when you have young kids is too much. He made it clear that he doesn't put his wife and child first. Of course OP feels like crap.

How did he make that clear? From what I gather, she is invited to his parents every Sunday with him but she chooses to accompany him only once a month. Its not like he spends the night there. They live 10 mins away. It's likely only a couple hours when a fishing trip isn't involved.

First DH is terrible and hangs out with his dad all the time. Then, his dad's terrible and DH has been trying to go fishing with him for 2 years. But wait, father isnt so bad it's really mom and sister that are evil. Anyone with half a brain can figure out the crazy person here. oh, and let's not forget that DH spends a couple days away hunting annually instead of massaging her feet.

First off, we were out of town a few days. We generally get our groceries on Sunday. We got in late on Saturday and that's when DH told me he was going fishing with his dad. He spends a couple of days at a time gone for deer season not a couple of days annually. He spends about 20 gone total. That's if he doesn't fly out to California to go bird hunting which he does every other year.

Anonymous wrote:I would not be mad if I were you. It's one day that he planned with his dad. You should have gotten groceries prior to the day and 10 minutes is walking distance. There are plenty of things that could have been done to avoid this. You sound jealous, obviously there's more to the story. How come you don't plan dates, or family outings? Why does it fall on your husband? You sound needy. Do you have friends or family to hang out with?

Please don't try to introduce sanity to the story. It has no place here.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you make sure to get food the day before? You knew he was going out.

Because they have a baby and things happen! OMG devoting one day a week to extended family when you have young kids is too much. He made it clear that he doesn't put his wife and child first. Of course OP feels like crap.

How did he make that clear? From what I gather, she is invited to his parents every Sunday with him but she chooses to accompany him only once a month. Its not like he spends the night there. They live 10 mins away. It's likely only a couple hours when a fishing trip isn't involved.

First DH is terrible and hangs out with his dad all the time. Then, his dad's terrible and DH has been trying to go fishing with him for 2 years. But wait, father isnt so bad it's really mom and sister that are evil. Anyone with half a brain can figure out the crazy person here. oh, and let's not forget that DH spends a couple days away hunting annually instead of massaging her feet.

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Anonymous wrote:Yep. Do you have two cars and did he take one? I think that's really inconsiderate.

Yep, he took our only car we have right now. To make matters worse, I even asked him to have his dad pick him up. He said no because he had to help get the boat ready etc. So our truck is 10 minutes away just sitting in his dad's driveway. They took his dad's truck.

So, walk over and get it.

Walk to the store? Are you kidding? She can't get off the couch to put the dishes in the dishwasher.

When he goes over there every Sunday, does he take the kid with him? If not you need to tell him that he's going to start.

Anonymous wrote:What hurts is he's still fishing.

Why not? His lazy-ass wife has gone to her sister's and she left the house a wreck with no food. Might as well enjoy the day and have dinner with mom and dad. Let me guess....you are a SAHM too.

Anonymous wrote:Order groceries via Instacart or take Uber. No need to suffer silently.

That's what a sane person would do but then she couldn't get off on the drama she creates and the wedge she's trying to drive between her H and his family.

Anonymous wrote:First off let me say DH spends every Sunday with his parents and sister. I typically join once a month maybe twice. Honestly, I wish he wouldn't spent half of his time off at his mom and dad's instead of at home with his family but I understand they are important too. Well today the house is a disaster and we're out of groceries. We have stuff for pb&j sandwiches. My car is in the shop. So on to the issue. Despite DD(1 year old) and me being stuck at home with no groceries, he's fishing with his dad. They took a day trip.

So you know he has these plans, you know you need to go to the store Nd you know your car is in the shop but your lazy ass didn't get to the store when you should have and now you want to blame him for your shortcomings because you don't have the relationship with your family that he does.

Here's a thought: instead of spending your time whining here, why not clean your distaster of a house? Your biggest problem is YOU.

He probably wasn't thinking. It happens.

Just not sure leaving you without a car was intentional.

I would definitely talk to him about some time off for yourself and whatever you like to do.

I would get a cab over to pick up your car. Or have a friend drive. I would be furious.

No I wouldn't. It takes two.