Anonymous
Post 07/22/2023 14:50     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:So a woman can give a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father? How is this not illegal?


Basically, the burden is on men to keep track of women whom they may have impregnated. Their best bet is to only have sex with women they are married to or have a close connection to. That way, they can know if they got a woman pregnant.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2023 04:24     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Okay, OP here. Thank you for those of you that gave some insight to your experience. We (DH and I) were just curious and looking for some feedback. We don't care what her race is, and as she gets older if it becoming obvious that she may be multiracial, we may pursue a DNA test so that we can properly celebrate her heritage.
We are not trying to hide anything from our child, the mother was an IV drug user who overdosed hours after delivery. She had no prenatal care therefore we have very limited information other than what her cord blood tested positive for. We don't even truly know how far along she was gestation wise. It's only an estimate.
We did the newspaper ad.
Again, thank you for the feedback.


OP, just so you know, you can link your post in website feedback if you'd like to lock it and end the discussion. I'm not sure how helpful the majority of posts have been.

Genetics are interesting and people don't always look like their ancestral roots. You may want to join an adoption support group. There are others out there who have about the same information as yourself on a child's background. Down the road, if certain things emerge like your DD has hair that's different from your own, and you need guidance on how to do hair, you could reach out to a group like Mocha Moms for advice and support.

Congratulations on becoming a mom.


Your post makes no sense. OP adopted. There are no shared genetics and DD hair and other features should look different in less she looks like the birthparents. OP did a shady adoption by not getting the BF consent (most birth mom's know and the agencies and attorneys tell them not to disclose as it makes the adoption process easier).


You people are bizarre.

The OP adopted the orphaned child of a dead drug addict.

Mom may have been hooking for drugs and probably legitimately had no idea nor care about whom she was having sex with.

The adoption certainly sounds non-traditional… but shady come on… how many people here would give a baby with that kind of genesis a chance at a decent life?

OP probably had a big heart and is brave and heroic. If nothing else she certainly much less judgmental than you.
Anonymous
Post 06/22/2023 11:04     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:So a woman can give a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father? How is this not illegal?


Depends on the state.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2023 13:49     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
who cares if the post is old? These posts are informative and interesting.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2023 21:05     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
This is an old post from 2017. OP should know by now.

OP, please give us an update.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2023 20:57     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
DNA tests like 23andme cannot prove paternity. Ethnicity is not inherited in equal parts. Also, it’s probably better to wait until the child can decide on their own to do a DNA test, as they may not want contact with potential relatives.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2023 20:49     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does your DD have any birthmarks? Like ones that looks blue-ish like a bruise? They are commonly referred to as Mongolian spots (old, non PC term) and are very, very common on black and biracial babies. They usually fade with age.

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/picture-of-mongolian-spots



Nah, my children all had them and we're white.


Same here. It’s more common in Native American and Black populations but not exclusively.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2023 20:38     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Congrats OP! We adopted our 3 kids and they are going to do DNA tests on their own when they are 18, they have told us.

Adopting them was the best thing we have ever done, according to our parents Best and proudest grandparents ever.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2023 20:23     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Okay, OP here. Thank you for those of you that gave some insight to your experience. We (DH and I) were just curious and looking for some feedback. We don't care what her race is, and as she gets older if it becoming obvious that she may be multiracial, we may pursue a DNA test so that we can properly celebrate her heritage.
We are not trying to hide anything from our child, the mother was an IV drug user who overdosed hours after delivery. She had no prenatal care therefore we have very limited information other than what her cord blood tested positive for. We don't even truly know how far along she was gestation wise. It's only an estimate.
We did the newspaper ad.
Again, thank you for the feedback.


You did the newspaper ad before the adoption was finalized, or just now?


Give OP a break. She is giving this poor child a real chance at life. Not everyone would take this on.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2023 20:08     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
My niece is biracial (black dad, white mom) and she did not look remotely black until about age 4, when her skin slightly darkened.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2023 22:01     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
DH had to do a dna test as an adult to find what he was mixed with. Passes for white but definitely looked more ethnic/distinctive.
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2023 21:50     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So a woman can give a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father? How is this not illegal?


This happened in the Baby Veronica case about 10 years ago

Our daughters bio mom was assaulted. You think a rapist should get a say?


What has your daughter’s bio mom rape got to do with baby Veronica???
Anonymous
Post 06/17/2023 21:37     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Some states have a paternity registry system. A man who suspects he may have impregnated a woman provides contact information. Registry has to be checked before termination of rights.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2023 00:21     Subject: Re:How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So a woman can give a baby up for adoption without the consent of the father? How is this not illegal?


If the father is so concerned about what happens to his sperm, he could actually keep in touch with the woman he put it in.


Women sometimes claim they cannot reach the father (don't know his last or real name, etc). They may not want him to know the encounter resulted in pregnancy or may want full control over the adoption decision.

They are legally required to demonstrate that they made an effort to find the father.


It depends on the state and judge. Lots of shady adoptions. Some don’t know, some were raped and lightly don’t know, and some lie. Some adoption agencies and attorneys advise to not disclose. Sometimes they move a birthmom to another state to do it.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2023 20:32     Subject: How can we tell if baby is biracial?
Anonymous wrote:Oh, and when our DD was born, she was as white as her mom. She gradually grew darker over the first year. I don't remember DS, but I think he looked darker--or perhaps I was just used to it. Now they both have exactly the same complexion; it's amazing.



Mine went the opposite way. I am white and my ex is dark skinned Mexican. Our son looked like his mini me at birth except for his blue eyes. Over the years, my son's skinned is almost as white as mine (Irish and Scottish heritage) but he has light brown eyes and still has very dark hair. He doesn't look as Hispanic as he did when he was a baby.