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Anonymous wrote:We make $200K and have $250K saved so far for our 15 year old. Have been saving for 15 years. If she gets in, we will pay for it. Education is so important IMO.

We have the same HHI and same amount saved - but for two kids.

Education is indeed important. So is financial solvency.

I am the PP from first quote in this post.

Well done PP! We could have never saved that much for 2 children. We have only the one.

Agree on the financial solvency. Fortunately we are doing ok there. I bet you are too!

If my DD chooses to go to a less expensive school, we will use the $ either for grad school or perhaps to help her buy a house someday.

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Anonymous wrote:We would pay if our children are accepted and would like to attend our undergrad, which happens to be an Ivy (though a much maligned one on these boards, since, gasp! it's not HYP). Our parents paid for it for us, which was a sacrifice for mine, not so much for his, and we both had excellent experiences at a small school with an incredible focus on undergrad teaching.

As to those who say they don't know anyone who married someone from college, I find that surprising. Among my closest college friends half are married to someone they knew in undergrad or met after at a college event or through mutual college friends.

Because the "elite" look down on anyone who marries before they are 35. They feel it is better to get married at 40 when you have gobs of money to pay for IVF. There is nothing wrong with going to state school and getting married in your twenties when you are at your peak fertility. These normal people have a happy life. Thinking you will be happier getting two Ivy League degrees and spending 100 hours a week working and putting off family life will lead to bliss is a story people make up in their heads.

Interesting that you think there's only one path to happiness. Maybe you should have gone to an elite college to broaden your perspective.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting discussion. I was accepted into two Ivy League schools plus MIT as an undergraduate focused on physics. Ended up going to Georgia Tech because I went to HS in Georgia and with the HOPE scholarship I paid virtually nothing (and would've been full pay at the other schools). Now I have Ivy Leaguers working for me.

Once again reaffirms that the Ivy League obsession is BS. It's less about the school you go to and more about working hard and taking advantages of opportunities to gain experience and exposure to the right people in your field.

Who'd you marry? Who do you associate with? It's not all about the money -- most folks in the middle class remain in the middle class.

You always bring up marriage...but marrying someone from undergrad sounds pretty prole-ish, to be honest. Very few of my Ivy League undergrad classmates married each other..,

Have you read the Sunday NYT Weddings section recently? Studies have shown that statistically, it is becoming rarer to marry someone of another socioeconomic class. Most marriages of UMC/UC children are happening between people who met at elite undergrad or grad/prof schools, if they were not already connected through their families.

And? Who even thinks about this stuff?

True. Who reads the NYT wedding section. It is just a brag page for people who feel they are "elite".

Ha. Actually I just read it. These are the undergrad schools of the couples in the announcements. I only went back to early December.

Cornell - Middlebury
Barnard - Dickinson
Northwestern - Virginia Tech
Ohio Wesleyan - Trinity College
Penn - Carnegie Mellon (met thru Tinder)
UC Berkeley - Franklin and Marshall
George Washington U - ?
Penn - UVA
Princeton - Occidental
Portland State - ?
University of Missouri-Kansas City-University of North Carolina
University at Buffalo - Yale
UVA - Villanova
Eastern Connecticut State - not a college graduate (currently at CUNY)
CUNY - George Washington University
Carnegie Mellon - California Institute of the Arts
Syracuse - Syracuse
Georgetown - Yale
Boston University - Penn
UVA - UC-San Diego
Duke - Penn

Not a single Ivy - Ivy couple. Lots met thru OKCupid.

Anonymous wrote:We would pay if our children are accepted and would like to attend our undergrad, which happens to be an Ivy (though a much maligned one on these boards, since, gasp! it's not HYP). Our parents paid for it for us, which was a sacrifice for mine, not so much for his, and we both had excellent experiences at a small school with an incredible focus on undergrad teaching.

As to those who say they don't know anyone who married someone from college, I find that surprising. Among my closest college friends half are married to someone they knew in undergrad or met after at a college event or through mutual college friends.

Because the "elite" look down on anyone who marries before they are 35. They feel it is better to get married at 40 when you have gobs of money to pay for IVF. There is nothing wrong with going to state school and getting married in your twenties when you are at your peak fertility. These normal people have a happy life. Thinking you will be happier getting two Ivy League degrees and spending 100 hours a week working and putting off family life will lead to bliss is a story people make up in their heads.

^Oh, wait, isn't this board full of people who desperately want their children to be "elite?"

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting discussion. I was accepted into two Ivy League schools plus MIT as an undergraduate focused on physics. Ended up going to Georgia Tech because I went to HS in Georgia and with the HOPE scholarship I paid virtually nothing (and would've been full pay at the other schools). Now I have Ivy Leaguers working for me.

Once again reaffirms that the Ivy League obsession is BS. It's less about the school you go to and more about working hard and taking advantages of opportunities to gain experience and exposure to the right people in your field.

Who'd you marry? Who do you associate with? It's not all about the money -- most folks in the middle class remain in the middle class.

You always bring up marriage...but marrying someone from undergrad sounds pretty prole-ish, to be honest. Very few of my Ivy League undergrad classmates married each other..,

Have you read the Sunday NYT Weddings section recently? Studies have shown that statistically, it is becoming rarer to marry someone of another socioeconomic class. Most marriages of UMC/UC children are happening between people who met at elite undergrad or grad/prof schools, if they were not already connected through their families.

And? Who even thinks about this stuff?

True. Who reads the NYT wedding section. It is just a brag page for people who feel they are "elite".

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting discussion. I was accepted into two Ivy League schools plus MIT as an undergraduate focused on physics. Ended up going to Georgia Tech because I went to HS in Georgia and with the HOPE scholarship I paid virtually nothing (and would've been full pay at the other schools). Now I have Ivy Leaguers working for me.

Once again reaffirms that the Ivy League obsession is BS. It's less about the school you go to and more about working hard and taking advantages of opportunities to gain experience and exposure to the right people in your field.

Who'd you marry? Who do you associate with? It's not all about the money -- most folks in the middle class remain in the middle class.

You always bring up marriage...but marrying someone from undergrad sounds pretty prole-ish, to be honest. Very few of my Ivy League undergrad classmates married each other..,

Have you read the Sunday NYT Weddings section recently? Studies have shown that statistically, it is becoming rarer to marry someone of another socioeconomic class. Most marriages of UMC/UC children are happening between people who met at elite undergrad or grad/prof schools, if they were not already connected through their families.

And? Who even thinks about this stuff?

We would pay if our children are accepted and would like to attend our undergrad, which happens to be an Ivy (though a much maligned one on these boards, since, gasp! it's not HYP). Our parents paid for it for us, which was a sacrifice for mine, not so much for his, and we both had excellent experiences at a small school with an incredible focus on undergrad teaching.

As to those who say they don't know anyone who married someone from college, I find that surprising. Among my closest college friends half are married to someone they knew in undergrad or met after at a college event or through mutual college friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting discussion. I was accepted into two Ivy League schools plus MIT as an undergraduate focused on physics. Ended up going to Georgia Tech because I went to HS in Georgia and with the HOPE scholarship I paid virtually nothing (and would've been full pay at the other schools). Now I have Ivy Leaguers working for me.

Once again reaffirms that the Ivy League obsession is BS. It's less about the school you go to and more about working hard and taking advantages of opportunities to gain experience and exposure to the right people in your field.

Who'd you marry? Who do you associate with? It's not all about the money -- most folks in the middle class remain in the middle class.

You always bring up marriage...but marrying someone from undergrad sounds pretty prole-ish, to be honest. Very few of my Ivy League undergrad classmates married each other..,

Have you read the Sunday NYT Weddings section recently? Studies have shown that statistically, it is becoming rarer to marry someone of another socioeconomic class. Most marriages of UMC/UC children are happening between people who met at elite undergrad or grad/prof schools, if they were not already connected through their families.

Matt Damon married a bartender and they seem pretty happy and have beautiful daughters.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting discussion. I was accepted into two Ivy League schools plus MIT as an undergraduate focused on physics. Ended up going to Georgia Tech because I went to HS in Georgia and with the HOPE scholarship I paid virtually nothing (and would've been full pay at the other schools). Now I have Ivy Leaguers working for me.

Once again reaffirms that the Ivy League obsession is BS. It's less about the school you go to and more about working hard and taking advantages of opportunities to gain experience and exposure to the right people in your field.

Your story is nearly identical to my 25 year old daughter's. She was accepted into two Ivy League schools. She was offered a full academic scholarship at University of Florida and jumped on it. She had no problem finding a great job. And she has zero debt.

I wouldn't pay for an Ivy regardless of income for undergrad. It doesn't make sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting discussion. I was accepted into two Ivy League schools plus MIT as an undergraduate focused on physics. Ended up going to Georgia Tech because I went to HS in Georgia and with the HOPE scholarship I paid virtually nothing (and would've been full pay at the other schools). Now I have Ivy Leaguers working for me.

Once again reaffirms that the Ivy League obsession is BS. It's less about the school you go to and more about working hard and taking advantages of opportunities to gain experience and exposure to the right people in your field.

Who'd you marry? Who do you associate with? It's not all about the money -- most folks in the middle class remain in the middle class.

You always bring up marriage...but marrying someone from undergrad sounds pretty prole-ish, to be honest. Very few of my Ivy League undergrad classmates married each other..,

Have you read the Sunday NYT Weddings section recently? Studies have shown that statistically, it is becoming rarer to marry someone of another socioeconomic class. Most marriages of UMC/UC children are happening between people who met at elite undergrad or grad/prof schools, if they were not already connected through their families.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I really do not understand the obsession with Ivy League schools. You should be focused on what school is best for your child's area of interest, not some arbitrary athletic conference. My kid, for example, was interested in engineering. I am also an engineer and know what the different schools have to offer. With the exception of Cornell, it would have been mind bogglingly stupid to focus on Ivy League schools because engineering is not their strong suit. Outside of Caltech/MIT/Stanford, the most sought after engineers, at least at my company, come from places like Purdue and U of Illinois. Certainly not Harvard and Yale.

Princeton, Brown and Northwestern have legit engineering departments. You ever been to Purdue? Maybe your son can marry some hillbilly girl. And Illinois? Maybe he can marry a Chinese international girl who can't speak English.

I will not begrudge anyone who attends Princeton, Brown, or NU for engineering. However, you clearly know nothing about engineering schools if you think lowly of Purdue or UIUC. - Signed PhD in EE

Anonymous wrote:We make $200K and have $250K saved so far for our 15 year old. Have been saving for 15 years. If she gets in, we will pay for it. Education is so important IMO.

We have the same HHI and same amount saved - but for two kids.

Education is indeed important. So is financial solvency.

We make $200K and have $250K saved so far for our 15 year old. Have been saving for 15 years. If she gets in, we will pay for it. Education is so important IMO.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. I really do not understand the obsession with Ivy League schools. You should be focused on what school is best for your child's area of interest, not some arbitrary athletic conference. My kid, for example, was interested in engineering. I am also an engineer and know what the different schools have to offer. With the exception of Cornell, it would have been mind bogglingly stupid to focus on Ivy League schools because engineering is not their strong suit. Outside of Caltech/MIT/Stanford, the most sought after engineers, at least at my company, come from places like Purdue and U of Illinois. Certainly not Harvard and Yale.

Princeton, Brown and Northwestern have legit engineering departments. You ever been to Purdue? Maybe your son can marry some hillbilly girl. And Illinois? Maybe he can marry a Chinese international girl who can't speak English.

Is that Chinese girl nice? Then I'm good.

You are really offensive, PP.