Umm, so if his wife fucked him he wouldn't have an affair with you?
And you are willing to blow up your life (and your children's life) because AP hasn't been fucked for 3 MONTHS!?!

So basically he doesn't want to masterbate...

He does not respect you.

And you are KILLING your career. KILLING it. Once people find out (and they always find out) they will think very badly of you. They will think you are pathetic. And worse.

Seriously stop this.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I don't know if people at work suspect anything. I don't think so. No one changed in how they talk to me, so I would think no.

Hate to break it to you, but everybody knows. I have seen it time and time again. The two lovebirds think they are being so clever and discreet, but they might as well have "we're fucking!" written on their foreheads.

Everybody knows. And oh by the way, they don't respect it at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you everyone for being so honest and encouraging. I feel like you are friends and family that have my best interests in mind. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Are you 15? You are so immature.... I feel for your kids. What a weak role model.

I hope the DH reads this and gets himself (and the kids) a better 'model'.

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Anonymous wrote:He's lying about his wife rejecting him, because you fall for it. He is hoping one day you're going to fall for it so hard you have sex with him.

+1. I bet you're the only woman in the world who understands him! (Understands that he wants to have sex, that is.)

They are soulmates.

Oh god. I bet he told her that. Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, your constant posting makes it clear you love the "attention" it gets you. You are pathetic and you know it. So stop posting, it just makes you look worse.

It's not that I like the attention, I needed people to tell me how wrong it is what I am doing, how gross it is, how disgusting, and what the consequences are. I needed help and I got it. I will go to a new therapist this week and then try marriage counseling.

And you will break things off with him immediately? Meaning no more contact?

OP. No more contact unless work-related. I feel like an alcoholic anonymous. I sent him an email to please stop this if he respects me.

He doesn't respect you! Why would he respect you when you're acting like such a doofus?

OP, it does not sound like you and this guy are on equal playing fields. He is 20 years older than you and it sounds like he plays you like a fiddle. Don't leave anything in his hands. You really, really need to take control of this situation. QUIT. YOUR. JOB.

As long as you stay there, he will pull you back in and, sooner or later, someone will piece it together. He outranks you so YOU are more likely to be hurt in the aftermath. You could be hurt professionally or a coworker who doesn't like you could just pick up the phone and tell your spouse. You are playing with fire. Get out now while you can.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, your constant posting makes it clear you love the "attention" it gets you. You are pathetic and you know it. So stop posting, it just makes you look worse.

It's not that I like the attention, I needed people to tell me how wrong it is what I am doing, how gross it is, how disgusting, and what the consequences are. I needed help and I got it. I will go to a new therapist this week and then try marriage counseling.

And you will break things off with him immediately? Meaning no more contact?

OP. No more contact unless work-related. I feel like an alcoholic anonymous. I sent him an email to please stop this if he respects me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, your constant posting makes it clear you love the "attention" it gets you. You are pathetic and you know it. So stop posting, it just makes you look worse.

It's not that I like the attention, I needed people to tell me how wrong it is what I am doing, how gross it is, how disgusting, and what the consequences are. I needed help and I got it. I will go to a new therapist this week and then try marriage counseling.

And you will break things off with him immediately? Meaning no more contact?

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you everyone for being so honest and encouraging. I feel like you are friends and family that have my best interests in mind. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Are you 15? You are so immature.... I feel for your kids. What a weak role model.

Op here. Thank you everyone for being so honest and encouraging. I feel like you are friends and family that have my best interests in mind. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, your constant posting makes it clear you love the "attention" it gets you. You are pathetic and you know it. So stop posting, it just makes you look worse.

It's not that I like the attention, I needed people to tell me how wrong it is what I am doing, how gross it is, how disgusting, and what the consequences are. I needed help and I got it. I will go to a new therapist this week and then try marriage counseling.

Stop talking to him. Go to a therapist. Find a new job. Fix yourself. Then try marriage counseling.

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Anonymous wrote:He's lying about his wife rejecting him, because you fall for it. He is hoping one day you're going to fall for it so hard you have sex with him.

+1. I bet you're the only woman in the world who understands him! (Understands that he wants to have sex, that is.)

They are soulmates.

Anonymous wrote:Op, your constant posting makes it clear you love the "attention" it gets you. You are pathetic and you know it. So stop posting, it just makes you look worse.

It's not that I like the attention, I needed people to tell me how wrong it is what I am doing, how gross it is, how disgusting, and what the consequences are. I needed help and I got it. I will go to a new therapist this week and then try marriage counseling.

Anonymous wrote:He's lying about his wife rejecting him, because you fall for it. He is hoping one day you're going to fall for it so hard you have sex with him.

+1. I bet you're the only woman in the world who understands him! (Understands that he wants to have sex, that is.)