Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 19:21     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It doesn't make sense that you didn't want him there, had a chance to say something, but instead said to go right ahead anytime they want.


Times a million. This is the worst. Tell him he is welcome any time and then comes online to complain and thwart future appearances. Amazing.


Signed,

Neighbor with zero boundaries


Not PP, but OP did say "come anytime" and now she is bitching. She was a doormat and now she has a problem that is of her own making.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 19:05     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You guys are really uptight. I would have no problem with the neighbors using my yard without asking. However, having a dog is a legitimate reason not to do that and I would talk to the parents


Who cares if we're uptight? You say that like it's a bad thing. People get to decide how their property is used. That's not uptight, that's homeownership.

Ok.. not very neighborly. Mean people
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 18:54     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
0P, people like you make me crazy. See what you mean and mean what you say. Then you won't get into problems like this.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 18:52     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It doesn't make sense that you didn't want him there, had a chance to say something, but instead said to go right ahead anytime they want.


Times a million. This is the worst. Tell him he is welcome any time and then comes online to complain and thwart future appearances. Amazing.


Op was taken aback by the sheer gall of this man. To just open up someone's privacy fence and walk into their yard like it was a public playground.....who does that?

She was caught off guard, didn't have a chance to process this situation and wound up being too nice to someone who was basically trespassing on her property.

Who knows why that guy was back there. Older people can be thieves and perverts and opportunists and peeping toms. Op should padlock her gate, install a security cam - she owes this guy no apology or explanation. He was out of line.

Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 18:31     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:Hi,

I am so sorry but my insurance told me that I am liable if anyone injures themselves on my property. Please don't use my yard without my permission or in my absence. My dog also is liable to attack if intruders come in our yard.





Omfg. Don't ever say this. You will be giving notice that you have a known dangerous dog.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 18:12     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
What kind of vicious dog do you have? I'd be more worried about that liability with kids in every day life.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 17:43     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:We had someone do this I had never seen before. Not sure where she lived. I asked her if she had the owners permission and she said the neighbor said it was ok. I asked her that wouldn't it be best to check with the owner vs a neighbor who never speaks to them. They kept playing. I asked them to leave. She kept insisting she had permission. I finally told her I was the owner and she nor the neighbors have permission to be here and the playground was a block away. She finally left. We got rid of the swing set as it happened a few more times.


Oh nice! I'll bet the look on her face was priceless
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 17:41     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Blame it on DH. My DH says this all the time. "Let me be the bad guy."
Neighbor asks to do X that makes me uncomfortable, I say "Oh, I have to ask Larlo." Then, I don't bring it up again. If they ask again, I put on my saddest face and say "Larlo said no. Sorry!" and I change the subject with a smile.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 17:40     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
I would just say you had thought about it more and are too concerned about the issue with the dog for them to use it when you are not there, but that if they knock and speak with you and confirm it is an ok time, you have no issue with it. That seems reasonable to me.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 17:37     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Honestly? I'd be slightly annoyed, but ignore it. In the grand scheme of things, there's much more in life I can focus on if i want to be angry.

Definitly 1st world problem category.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 17:00     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:Now that you've said he can come over, it'll be hard for you to take it back.
I think you can take it back. You just say that you thought about it some more and you don't think it's a good idea. But talk to him directly. I can't stand it when people talk to the spouse who was not directly involved.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 16:58     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:It's funny how when people hear the term "Grandparent," they automatically assume a Senior Citizen.

Snoop Dogg is a Grandfather.
Tamra Judge is a Grandmother.

These people are far from elderly in my opinion.

OP:
Let the Grandfather know that while you would love for his granddaughter to enjoy your swing set, due to having a canine who also utilizes your yard, you would feel just awful if anything ever happened to her.

Then install a padlock on your gate.


Hardly a bizarre assumption, especially given the OP state's response. Not everybody had teenage babies. My parents were seniors when my kid was born.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 16:56     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you have to say anything, please decide to be polite, kind, respectful of your elders, sensitive, etc. Maybe he did not have permission to take the granddaughter to the park. Maybe he was staying close to watch a sick wife or waiting for his child to call. Maybe it is no BFD.


OP here. He is not elderly, he still works full time. I believe at FT Belvoir. And his kids were right there watching, just from their own yard. I introduced myself to them, they walked over to the fence to say hi and they seem nice.


I would have been pleasant but said

"Hi, can I help you?" And walked him back to the gate and let him out as you chit chatted. And locked it behind you. And stared at him as he left.


Ok, then speak up for yourself OP and don't say what you don't mean. it.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 16:54     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Last night I returned Hime at 10:00 pm after a ling say at work. Elementary ages children were playing at my driveway and would not move. I had to park my car down the street and walk to my house. I called the inn-emergency police number and the dispatcher tried to bully me by saying I don't try to make the kids mice and they were just having fin on Labor Day weekend before the start of school. I explained they would NOT move. She then sent a cruiser to sweep through the street. The little brats then broke off several plants as they were ordered out by the police.

I am so s going to move and rent the house to a section 8 family. A large section 8 family


Yeah, this didn't happen. Nobody without autocorrect would park on the street and walk to their own driveway without pretending to try to run the kids over and/or yell "GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY WAY" first.


Only in your mind.
Anonymous
Post 09/05/2016 16:48     Subject: Neighbor in my yard: wwyd?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It doesn't make sense that you didn't want him there, had a chance to say something, but instead said to go right ahead anytime they want.


Times a million. This is the worst. Tell him he is welcome any time and then comes online to complain and thwart future appearances. Amazing.


Signed,

Neighbor with zero boundaries