Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 15:38     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
I find it funny that over on the side bar of this page was a company called "xxxxxx brides" promising to match men with Ukranian and Russian women. Just tells me what the market is demanding.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 15:34     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am a divorced Mom age 42 with two children. I was going out with what I thought was a wonderful man. He was divorced with a teen daughter. He had full custody. My problem was that he was 100 percentage involved with his own daughter that I felt I and my children were not a priority.


Sorry it didn't work out but I think his priorities are in the right place at the moment.


Dad here. They are. I'm married but if I were not, any woman I was dating would play second fiddle to my on children, and I'm not going to apologize for that.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 15:25     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Time to make popcorn.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 15:22     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Does this really make you undateable? I've met different guys single, divorce, older, younger, kids, no kids, but for some reason they're not looking for someone that's been divorced and has a child. Anyone else have this issue? It's kind of frustrating and depressing to me!

Gotta love how the 40yr old single moms are the centre of attention in this thread.


Did you not read the title? What were you expecting?
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 15:19     Subject: Re:Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:Troll. Here we go again.


You need a new job Troll chaser
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 15:13     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:At 50, I have my choice of men from 25-65.


I laffed
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 15:00     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
I'm 50, a single mom of a 14 year old. I get lots of dates. There are plenty of guys who don't mind if you have kids. However, the pool is smaller for single moms than women with adult kids or no kids at all. Lots of men want a travel partner. It's hard to head out for spontaneous vacations when you have kids to take care of.

You are never too old to date. It's all up to you and your attitude. At 50, I have my choice of men from 25-65. I know that sounds weird but it's true. And lots of these men want a serious relationship/marriage. If you are just looking for sex, that is even easier.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 14:41     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
What's funny is a married, 50yo+ man thinking he has a chance with 30yos. We don't want you!lol that only works for old geezers selling dreams to poor young women in E. Asia. You need to pay for it.
Anonymous
Post 06/21/2016 14:17     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Any updates op?
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2016 22:59     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Also people don't typically weigh what their date brings to the table


Oh, 50-year-old women do.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2016 22:11     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
^ "the wounded animal in the herd" made me laugh. Thanks for that. This song entered my head - it is so ridiculous: https://youtu.be/yJby5kdUlPs
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2016 22:08     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ex wife, twice divorced mother of three (after me) left me for her 50 year old affair partner. He was her co worker. Never married no kids. The jury is out on what will happen there. It's too soon. But something tells me a 50 yo never married guy no kids is either a loser or set on his ways and it won't work out. At least that is what I tell myself.


That's probably correct unless his health begins to fade. He probably doesn't want a house full of kids.



So if youre 50yrs plus you're finished ? Sometimes I read these opinions get the impression I'm like the wounded animal in the herd and should go off await my meeting with my maker.


You're finished approaching relationships like you did when you were a hot 25 year old. Time didn't stop all those years you were out of the dating market.

What you need to figure out is why middle aged divorced women believe they have the "right" to approach dating and relationships like a 25 year old.

Otherwise yes you are finished, dead as a doornail. You are good as a partner only to a younger guy looking for a cougar or with mommy issues; a much older guy with ED; or a seriously emotionally fucked up loser in your same age cohort. As a male in my fifties, if I ever had to go back on the dating market (god no), while I would probably date you, and try to have sex with you, why would you seriously expect me to seriously commit to you if I had any chance--and I would probably have a pretty good chance actually--of finding someone 10 years younger? Do you really bring THAT much to the table? If so, you wouldn't even be posting what you posted.

You are the wounded animal in the herd.

Don't you remember what you though about 50 year old women when you were 25? To you, they didn't even exist. They were invisible.

So now the shoe is on the other foot, sister.

Enjoy your feminism.


Yikes. You sound downright scary!!!!!


Also relationships don't really work how you describe above.... Things aren't so black or white. Also people don't typically weigh what their date brings to the table and then determine whether or not to pursue sex. That's plain bizarre and way too complicated.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2016 21:58     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My ex wife, twice divorced mother of three (after me) left me for her 50 year old affair partner. He was her co worker. Never married no kids. The jury is out on what will happen there. It's too soon. But something tells me a 50 yo never married guy no kids is either a loser or set on his ways and it won't work out. At least that is what I tell myself.


That's probably correct unless his health begins to fade. He probably doesn't want a house full of kids.



So if youre 50yrs plus you're finished ? Sometimes I read these opinions get the impression I'm like the wounded animal in the herd and should go off await my meeting with my maker.


You're finished approaching relationships like you did when you were a hot 25 year old. Time didn't stop all those years you were out of the dating market.

What you need to figure out is why middle aged divorced women believe they have the "right" to approach dating and relationships like a 25 year old.

Otherwise yes you are finished, dead as a doornail. You are good as a partner only to a younger guy looking for a cougar or with mommy issues; a much older guy with ED; or a seriously emotionally fucked up loser in your same age cohort. As a male in my fifties, if I ever had to go back on the dating market (god no), while I would probably date you, and try to have sex with you, why would you seriously expect me to seriously commit to you if I had any chance--and I would probably have a pretty good chance actually--of finding someone 10 years younger? Do you really bring THAT much to the table? If so, you wouldn't even be posting what you posted.

You are the wounded animal in the herd.

Don't you remember what you though about 50 year old women when you were 25? To you, they didn't even exist. They were invisible.

So now the shoe is on the other foot, sister.

Enjoy your feminism.


Dafuq you just said?! Literally every single line of your ridiculous comment was dripping with patriarchal nonsense, and you apparently don't even realize it.

Anonymous
Post 06/19/2016 21:21     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:Does this really make you undateable? I've met different guys single, divorce, older, younger, kids, no kids, but for some reason they're not looking for someone that's been divorced and has a child. Anyone else have this issue? It's kind of frustrating and depressing to me!

Gotta love how the 40yr old single moms are the centre of attention in this thread.
Anonymous
Post 06/19/2016 21:11     Subject: Almost 40, divorced, and a mom?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Telling single moms not to date until age 50 is ridiculous. There are plenty of single dads who are interested in dating single moms. I'm sure these women don't want a man who's unfavorably weighing them against some 20-something single, childless woman with a firmer body but no clue how to be a parent or run an active household.

I'm sure I'll get skewered for saying this, but I would caution all women to be wary of men who are 40+ but have never been married. Sure it can work out sometimes, but in general there's a reason these guys aren't married with kids yet.

Good luck to all the single parents who are looking for their mate - there are lots of success stories so don't give up hope!


Right. Because it's all about these single parents and their love lives and making sure they are happy. Forget about the innocent kids who are thrown around in the mix of men/ women coming and going, in and out of their lives. They'll "adjust," I suppose.


It's entirely possible to hire a sitter and date without your kids even knowing what you're doing. Responsible adults can have plenty of adult time w/o the kids being any the wiser. And most of us are intelligent enough to make sure our new romantic partners are decent, solid people and going to be around for a while before we introduce them to our child(ren).

But freak out, PP. It's a good look.



Maybe true as a general rule - but my ex decided her AP needed to be with kids within weeks of separation. idiot!