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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

you do know sex is not a basic need, right?

Maybe for YOU it isnt but orgasms make a body feel good and I need them regularly.

-- signed woman who loves sex

And you do know you can have an Orgasm WITHOUT having "sex" with your husband? As can he?

Sure, I can her off any time, but it's not the same as making love to a woman. It's necessary for physical and emotional intimacy. Plus it's a lot more fun withs partner thsn alone. Maybe OP needs to become a nun.

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn't get sex at home, only a matter of time before he finds it elsewhere. That's what I did when DW didn't want to have sex at least once a month. I can go a week, but not longer and now have a few FWB

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

you do know sex is not a basic need, right?

Maybe for YOU it isnt but orgasms make a body feel good and I need them regularly.

-- signed woman who loves sex

And you do know you can have an Orgasm WITHOUT having "sex" with your husband? As can he?

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

you do know sex is not a basic need, right?

It is for normally functioning adults. I realize deviancy exists, but an adult to not consider sex to be a basic human need is not normal.

You don't understand biology if you think it's a basic human need.

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

you do know sex is not a basic need, right?

It is for normally functioning adults. I realize deviancy exists, but an adult to not consider sex to be a basic human need is not normal.

Anonymous wrote:No one is entitled to sex, but healthy marriages have sex. If DH one day just decided he wasn't ever going to have sex with me for the rest of our marriage, I'd assume the marriage was over and file for divorce. To me, it's the same as DH saying that he wasn't going to live with me in my house any longer.

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

you do know sex is not a basic need, right?

Maybe for YOU it isnt but orgasms make a body feel good and I need them regularly.

-- signed woman who loves sex

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

Not in any contract I signed.

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Anonymous wrote:Have you considered talking to you gyno about why sex repulses you so much?

You might have a hormonal issue. Or maybe you married the wrong guy.

Oh sex doesn't repulse me, and I'm not married (way too young for that). I have a fairly high libido, actually- but if I dont want to have sex, we dont. And my boyfriend respects that, simple as.

I would never try to force him into having sex if he didnt feel like it either.

It seems pretty simple.

Someone doesnt want to have sex with you- DONT HAVE SEX WITH THEM! Why would you even want to?

Of course you are not married, nor are you ready for it. There are so many things we do for our spouses because they are our spouses. And that includes having sex from time to time when we don't really feel up to it. Entitled to sex on demand -- no, of course not. Entitled to expect sex on somewhat of a regular basis, yes. Now, if he (or she) is not satisfied with the amount, then ultimately divorce (not force) may be the answer, but he (or she) is certainly entitled to the expectation.

Not really. I would say if you expect someone to have sex with you even though they dont want it, then that's a major issue and emblematic of an entitlement issue that you need to seek help for.

Are people really not aware that people's libidos shift and change over time? That women's libidos especially decrease with menopause?

I see a downright villainization of the wives that dont want to have sex and it's really shocking.

I guess my advice would be if you think marriage entitles you to sex without concern for your partner's libido or lack of interest- then don't get married.

How many relationships have you been in? How long have those relationships lasted?

What I can tell you in my experience of being married for 15 years is that my husband and I both have an expectation that the other will want to have sex. There have been times when the frequency has lessened, and during those times, we do what adults do and COMMUNICATE ABOUT IT.

I agree that there is an issue with husbands who expect sex and do not respect wives' reasons for not wanting to have sex. However, I personally believe that people who are married have an obligation to each other to maintain the romantic relationship. My impression is that many of the men who are "villainizing" their wives for not having sex feel rejected and hurt. The counter-argument to your argument is that when your actions cause your partner to feel hurt and rejected, that is a problem that should be addressed. Some women (AND MEN FOR THAT MATTER) do not address the issue.

^ I dont agree. I think "i feel hurt and rejected" is an excuse for the anger men feel when denied access to female bodies.

Not allowing someone access to your organs is certainly not on par with genuinely hurtful acts. It's sad that men have twisted it to equivocate the two (but unsurprising)

And we as a culture need to stop allowing this villainization of women who dont want sex, and call it out when it does occur.

The advice seems to always be to the female- you do need to have sex with him- rather than to the male - adjust your expectations.

Let's change that.

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

you do know sex is not a basic need, right?

Maybe for YOU it isnt but orgasms make a body feel good and I need them regularly.

-- signed woman who loves sex

Sure I can but why the fuck did I get married if I am diddling myself? I like and want PinV and if my husband has no health issues preventing it that's what we should be doing to connect physically, intimately and emotionally.
And you do know you can have an Orgasm WITHOUT having "sex" with your husband? As can he?

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

you do know sex is not a basic need, right?

Maybe for YOU it isnt but orgasms make a body feel good and I need them regularly.

-- signed woman who loves sex

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Anonymous wrote:As a young woman, I don't get it. Like did you get married solely thinking you would get laid regularly? Cause that just seems so... dumb. Messed up. Awful.

Then they put pressure on their wives, who dont feel like having sex, and try to coerce or pressure them into it. Why? Because the dude wants to have sex.

I see so much outrage about Brock Turner and no one seems to be talking about this different aspect of rape culture which is that husbands are entitled to their wives bodies? When they want it?

And it's so bizarre to me. Like.... how is this a thing? In today's modern world?

Women are still expected to lie back and think of England? For reals?

Men are entitled too it because sex is a basic need, like eating and sleeping. Marriage is a contract. Included in the contract is a pledge to have sex regularly.

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn't get sex at home, only a matter of time before he finds it elsewhere. That's what I did when DW didn't want to have sex at least once a month. I can go a week, but not longer and now have a few FWB