Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 09:58     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I don't see anything wrong with it. At least maybe they will get less of that "the whole class is invited" $5 crap.
Now, my son's classmate is having a joint party with his toddler sister... Whole class is invited and all. No, ckassmate's mom, you younger kid is not my kid's friend. But, I am friendly with the mom, and my son is friends with this poor boy who cannot even have a birthday party without the sibling piggy backing on it. So, yes, I am buying two gifts. And I just cannot give cheap crap, so it's stuff off of their wishlists (which I did ask if they had).


Non sequitur post!
You absolutely don't need to buy the toddler a gift. Her toddler friends will get her gifts, as her guest.


Not to mention, how do you know older brother doesn't want a joint party? My kids love stuff like this -- more people, more exciting, and they love each other and like to do things together (yes, even the big kid and the toddler). I don't care if you bring a gift at all, or bring something they can share. I can buy my own kids the good stuff.

Why so bent out of shape about a joint party?
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 09:37     Subject: Re:Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
It is tacky but I would comply and get a $25 gift card.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 09:19     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Better than getting a bunch of junk you really don't want or need


I knoe. I don't understand the outragr.

I'm not sure what is tackier...asking for the gift card or judging the ask. Both are what in poor taste.


I think when someone is so rude as to request a certain gift (and one that equals money no less), she deserves to be called out on it!!


Doesn't make you any less tacky. I think you and the gift asker are on the exact same level. Low class.


Agreed
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 09:13     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Better than getting a bunch of junk you really don't want or need


I knoe. I don't understand the outragr.

I'm not sure what is tackier...asking for the gift card or judging the ask. Both are what in poor taste.


I think when someone is so rude as to request a certain gift (and one that equals money no less), she deserves to be called out on it!!


Doesn't make you any less tacky. I think you and the gift asker are on the exact same level. Low class.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 08:30     Subject: Re:Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding


I don't get all the drama. I have a special needs child and we are grateful when he gets an invite to a birthday party. We would happily get the gift card, and wish the family a wonderful trip.

Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 08:28     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Better than getting a bunch of junk you really don't want or need


I knoe. I don't understand the outragr.

I'm not sure what is tackier...asking for the gift card or judging the ask. Both are what in poor taste.


I think when someone is so rude as to request a certain gift (and one that equals money no less), she deserves to be called out on it!!
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 08:26     Subject: Re:Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I have a niece and nephew who have every toy under the sun. I always ask my brother for suggestions of what to get them at Xmas. Last year they asked for Disney gift cards since they are planning a trip to Disney world. I guess it's a little different because they are family, but is it that big of a deal? It's not like they can use Disney gift cards to pay for a plane ticket or hotel, so what's the harm?


The difference is that YOU asked. You weren't told.


+1000. I can't believe how many posters think this is ok. You should not dictate what gift your guests bring. If they ask for a suggestion, you can suggest something but to tell everyone to bring a gift card is beyond rude.

I'm with the posters who suggest to bring a Disney themed gift. No, you don't want to punish the child but I wouldn't be thrilled with obliging and encouraging this shameless behavior either.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 08:05     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:Better than getting a bunch of junk you really don't want or need


I knoe. I don't understand the outragr.

I'm not sure what is tackier...asking for the gift card or judging the ask. Both are what in poor taste.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 08:00     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Tacky, but if you do decide to go, just give the gift card.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 07:44     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:I don't see anything wrong with it. At least maybe they will get less of that "the whole class is invited" $5 crap.
Now, my son's classmate is having a joint party with his toddler sister... Whole class is invited and all. No, ckassmate's mom, you younger kid is not my kid's friend. But, I am friendly with the mom, and my son is friends with this poor boy who cannot even have a birthday party without the sibling piggy backing on it. So, yes, I am buying two gifts. And I just cannot give cheap crap, so it's stuff off of their wishlists (which I did ask if they had).


Non sequitur post!
You absolutely don't need to buy the toddler a gift. Her toddler friends will get her gifts, as her guest.
Anonymous
Post 04/19/2016 07:37     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:I don't see anything wrong with it. At least maybe they will get less of that "the whole class is invited" $5 crap.
Now, my son's classmate is having a joint party with his toddler sister... Whole class is invited and all. No, ckassmate's mom, you younger kid is not my kid's friend. But, I am friendly with the mom, and my son is friends with this poor boy who cannot even have a birthday party without the sibling piggy backing on it. So, yes, I am buying two gifts. And I just cannot give cheap crap, so it's stuff off of their wishlists (which I did ask if they had).


A good book costs $5, and it's not crap.

Would you want your kid to get 20 toys on top of what your family gives? Every year?
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2016 22:06     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
I don't see anything wrong with it. At least maybe they will get less of that "the whole class is invited" $5 crap.
Now, my son's classmate is having a joint party with his toddler sister... Whole class is invited and all. No, ckassmate's mom, you younger kid is not my kid's friend. But, I am friendly with the mom, and my son is friends with this poor boy who cannot even have a birthday party without the sibling piggy backing on it. So, yes, I am buying two gifts. And I just cannot give cheap crap, so it's stuff off of their wishlists (which I did ask if they had).
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2016 21:00     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course it's tacky, but give her a gift card.


+1


Yes. assuming you can get a $5 one.


Holy crap, I just looked at the smallest Disney gift card I saw was $25.

Get birthday card with a Disney character on it and stick a $5 bill in it. It'll look like you tried.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2016 20:57     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Of course it's tacky, but give her a gift card.


+1


Yes. assuming you can get a $5 one.
Anonymous
Post 04/18/2016 18:48     Subject: Received birthday invite- parents asked for vacation funding

I don't understand your horror - while it would not cross my mind to ask for vacation funding, why can't you put the $20 you would have spent anyway towards a Disney gift card, instead of a toy?
If it's truly what the birthday child wants, why deny her or him?