Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:28
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
I sincerely hope you and your DH go to HELL and burn!
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:25
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is the ex-wife taking it? I mean, do you care at all? What did this do to her life, and her kid's life? Not what he tells you, what you see for yourself.
She's moved on and dating. Their daughter is fine, she spends the weekends with us and she loves that she has two homes.
You are wicked evil OP. Here's wishing you a lifetime of infertility.
Yeah. I've never, ever met a kid who's happy they have two homes. I have, however, heard several kids of divorce envying their friends who have only one.
What a awful thing to even say! So you just think everyone who ends up divorced its because they were having an affair? You do realize there are many other reasons for divorce, including abuse. I am pretty certain that a child that was living in a home that was surrounded by a toxic marriage, would agree that it is best to have two separate homes. Don't be such a judgmental asshole, there are plenty of times having two homes is better than one. Good for you that your ONE home is perfect.
Not the PP, but I think it's true that kids aren't "happy" about having two homes and the break-up of their parents' marriage. That's not to say that, with situations like abuse or several addiction problems, that they aren't thinking two homes and divorced parents make for a better situation than what they had to endure before.
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:22
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are you embarrassed that your relationship started as an affair? What did your friends and family think? were children involved?
Not at all, you can't help who you fall in love with. They didn't like it at first, but they see how happy we are together. He has one kid with his ex. We're TTC now.
Does it bother you that you caused other people great pain?
Perhaps not, if you're gloating about it here.
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:21
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Any bets on how soon he/she will cheat on you?
He won't cheat on me. He was very unhappy with his first wife and very happy with me.
good luck with that
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:16
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is the ex-wife taking it? I mean, do you care at all? What did this do to her life, and her kid's life? Not what he tells you, what you see for yourself.
She's moved on and dating. Their daughter is fine, she spends the weekends with us and she loves that she has two homes.
You are wicked evil OP. Here's wishing you a lifetime of infertility.
Yeah. I've never, ever met a kid who's happy they have two homes. I have, however, heard several kids of divorce envying their friends who have only one.
What a awful thing to even say! So you just think everyone who ends up divorced its because they were having an affair? You do realize there are many other reasons for divorce, including abuse. I am pretty certain that a child that was living in a home that was surrounded by a toxic marriage, would agree that it is best to have two separate homes. Don't be such a judgmental asshole, there are plenty of times having two homes is better than one. Good for you that your ONE home is perfect.
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:14
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OW is worse than the cheater. He is WAY worse. But she's a jerk too. And she is getting ragged on because instead of just being like "I wasn't married so it didn't matter to me" she is making herself out to be some angel and the ex to be a bitch who deserved it. In her words, it is all the wife's fault and she and the husband are blameless. That's why she is getting harped on. In general the OW is not as bad as the husband.
In which post did I make myself out to be an angel?
Stepdaughter loves it! It's not my fault, I just fell in love! Wife was a shrew who don't blow my dreamboat!
You've placed all the blame on the ex wife, and made yourself out to be a poor damsel who couldn't help where the winds of fate took her.
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:14
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? How about your "D"H?
I'm 30, he's 40.
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:13
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OW is worse than the cheater. He is WAY worse. But she's a jerk too. And she is getting ragged on because instead of just being like "I wasn't married so it didn't matter to me" she is making herself out to be some angel and the ex to be a bitch who deserved it. In her words, it is all the wife's fault and she and the husband are blameless. That's why she is getting harped on. In general the OW is not as bad as the husband.
In which post did I make myself out to be an angel?
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:09
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
This has got to be a troll.
Anonymous
02/27/2016 14:09
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:
+1 It was awkward enough doing playdates with the cheater dad, but at least I could tell myself that it was about our kids' friendship and I shouldn't punish a nice kid because his dad was an ass. But then dad makes a playdate, I take my kid to the house and the only adult at home is the homewrecker (of course they moved in together immediately) playing wife and mommy. So I got stuck having to answer "Who was that lady, she's not Larlo's mom, why does she live there?" and I had to figure out what to say to the ex-wife who is a very nice woman who I like a lot. Never again!
NP here. I find it odd that you have way worse things to say about the OW than the husband who cheated. IMHO, he's the true "homewrecker" who blew up his own family. The OW is maybe an accessory to the crime, but the husband is the true criminal in my view. And in this day and age, you're going to have to get used to explaining to your kids about divorce and remarriage, "Larlo's mom doesn't live there anymore. Larlo's dad has a new friend that he lives with, and Larlo's mom has her own new house." Kids are adaptable.
BTW, I have no skin in this game. Happily married with no indication of infidelity on either side.
+1000, I don't understand the people on here carrying on about the OW and how play dates are off limits. These things happen in real life and you as a parent will have to explain how real life happens and that not everyone has the same circumstances as you do. I also am shocked about the moral high horse that many of you sit upon, as though you think life is so very black and white. Eat a piece of humble pie and get over yourself. Be grateful that so far nothing has touched your own life in such a way....I feel bad for your children!
Anonymous
02/27/2016 13:59
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
How old are you OP? How about your "D"H?
Anonymous
02/27/2016 13:54
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How is the ex-wife taking it? I mean, do you care at all? What did this do to her life, and her kid's life? Not what he tells you, what you see for yourself.
She's moved on and dating. Their daughter is fine, she spends the weekends with us and she loves that she has two homes.
You are wicked evil OP. Here's wishing you a lifetime of infertility.
Yeah. I've never, ever met a kid who's happy they have two homes. I have, however, heard several kids of divorce envying their friends who have only one.
Vsubois19
02/27/2016 13:49
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:How far can you punt a football?
pretty far
Anonymous
02/27/2016 13:47
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
How far can you punt a football?
Anonymous
02/27/2016 13:43
Subject: I was an AP and now I'm a wife, AMA
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Any bets on how soon he/she will cheat on you?
He won't cheat on me. He was very unhappy with his first wife and very happy with me.
My ex-husband's former mistress and current wife would say the same thing and she would believe it was true. What she's doesn't know is that she was one of many women he was cheating with over many years, several of whom overlapped her relationship with him. She doesn't know that I asked for the divorce after finding proof he was cheating with a woman across the country (he was in a relationship with his current wife at the same time). She doesn't know that for years, after I found out about her but before I found out they were still together, he used to mock her appearance and neediness, calling her horrible names (for those wondering, I knew the marriage was over and that he was a nightmare of a human being, but it took me some time to set myself and my kids up to survive without his income). She doesn't know that he begged me to reconsider the divorce and insisted that he wanted to remain a family, but I refused to even humor the idea for a second.
For the good of my kids I stay out of his business and I see no reason to try and save her from her choices. But it cracks me up to see how lovey-dovey she is with him and how absolutely certain she is that they were destined to be together against all odds. Good luck with that.