Anonymous
01/14/2016 11:48
Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would love to tell DH that I lost respect for him. He makes excuses for everything he never gets done when the truth is he is just lazy. That I don't even want to have sex with him anymore because even that seems like it's too much of an effort for him. He's out of shape and huffs and puffs about anything even remotely physical and I can't count on him to take care of even one administrative thing for the kids (for example, calling the school to confirm X, making a Dr.s appointment for Y, signing kids up for various activities) it's always "I didn't get around to it" yet he doesn't do anything else.
That I am only staying with him because of the kids and he's a generally nice guy and we get along - it's just I have to do everything.
+100
DO you think he could be depressed?
In my H's case, nope. Just plain lazy.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 11:45
Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:to the PP who wrote this: "He needs help. Guide him. Most men want to please their partners but all men require feedback. Saying "you didn't please me" isn't helpful. You need to tell him, or better yet show him, how to please you."
You are either a woman or the most evolved man ever. My husband doesn't want to please me - he's only 50, but he grew up in an Ozzie and Harriet household - women asking for something, you've got to be kidding. We can't have a conversation about what movie to see, let alone whether I'm happy in bed. I know that I am choosing to stay in this situation, but it's a lot more complicated than an orgasm.
If only I had know this before I had the two most wonderful kids in the world.
I'm the PP who said that and I'm not that evolved. I simply know the frustration of suspecting that DW isn't getting as much as she can out of it but has a hard (if not impossible) time of telling me what she really wants. It's like I'm supposed to know exactly what she needs, where, and when. I just want her to scream, "touch me there now, with your foot, dammit," but she's far too passive to articulate anything.
She may be passive, or she may have gotten burned. I don't tell my H what I want, because when I asked for oral, he said no (!). That shut down any conversation about sex forever.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 11:44
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:That I have no intention of growing into my 70's and 80's and having the same amount of sex then that I am right now, which is NONE.
WE ARE NOT 80, STOP ACTING LIKE WE ARE.
To further clarify, I don't expect to be banging when we're 80, I want us to enjoy being 39 and stop acting like we're in a nursing home when we turn out the lights.
I sure hope dw and I are still banging at 80.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 11:43
Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:I've got to weigh in here - my husband, who I haven't had an orgasm with in years, is well-hung. My lover, who I can't get enough of, is not. It's not the package. It's the interest in me, the feeling that I'm the only one in the world...........
I don't want to be his wife, I just want that feeling.....
+1 it's the feeling. Even though I'm in much better physical shape than my H, he just has low T and isn't very interested in sex in general. It's so great to know that there's a man who actually fantasizes about me, and goes out of his way to make love to me.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 11:37
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.
Do him a favor and leave. A guy like that deserves someone better.
That's a bit harsh. How do you know he isn't happy?
Anonymous
01/14/2016 09:31
Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
That when I tell him he has a mental problem I am not joking ...
Anonymous
01/14/2016 09:26
Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would love to tell DH that I lost respect for him. He makes excuses for everything he never gets done when the truth is he is just lazy. That I don't even want to have sex with him anymore because even that seems like it's too much of an effort for him. He's out of shape and huffs and puffs about anything even remotely physical and I can't count on him to take care of even one administrative thing for the kids (for example, calling the school to confirm X, making a Dr.s appointment for Y, signing kids up for various activities) it's always "I didn't get around to it" yet he doesn't do anything else.
That I am only staying with him because of the kids and he's a generally nice guy and we get along - it's just I have to do everything.
+100
DO you think he could be depressed?
Anonymous
01/14/2016 08:57
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Brush your teeth before going to bed. Seriously. Last night was like kissing a taco and was a real turn-off. This from a DH.
Mouth taco or between the legs taco?
Crunchy or soft?
AHAHAHAHAHAHHAA
Anonymous
01/14/2016 08:55
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.
Do him a favor and leave. A guy like that deserves someone better.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 08:51
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That I have given up nagging him about brushing his teeth, but it doesn't mean his breath has improved. It just means I can't stand talking about it anymore. Sigh. Why can't a grown man brush his teeth?
UGH. There are two men like this? My husband is the same. Unbelievably disgusting and annoying.
At least three, my DH is one of them too
Mine too. I've also given up. He says I am making it up and using as an excuse not to have sex.
I've thought about sending an anonymous note to his office ....pretending to be a client and complaining of his breath....
Anonymous
01/14/2016 08:50
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That I have given up nagging him about brushing his teeth, but it doesn't mean his breath has improved. It just means I can't stand talking about it anymore. Sigh. Why can't a grown man brush his teeth?
UGH. There are two men like this? My husband is the same. Unbelievably disgusting and annoying.
At least three, my DH is one of them too
Mine too. I've also given up. He says I am making it up and using as an excuse not to have sex.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 06:36
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
That you are a really nice guy, a wonderful friend, partner, and father but that I am madly in love with another man. If it weren't for our children I would end the marriage.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 02:19
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
I am no longer physically attracted to you and making love with you makes me repulsed.
Anonymous
01/14/2016 02:13
Subject: What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That I have given up nagging him about brushing his teeth, but it doesn't mean his breath has improved. It just means I can't stand talking about it anymore. Sigh. Why can't a grown man brush his teeth?
UGH. There are two men like this? My husband is the same. Unbelievably disgusting and annoying.
At least three, my DH is one of them too
Anonymous
01/13/2016 23:06
Subject: Re:What would you really like to tell your spouse or partner but can't or won't?
Anonymous wrote:I still have an eating disorder.
Been there. I finally recovered after many hidden years. Hugs.