Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 22:07     Subject: No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:DH and I are expecting and he is pushing for a baby shower. I just don't know what to do. Of course id love to have a shower but we have no one to invite. Outside our family(4 women) & the one out of state female friend I have left there isn't anyone that would come. We are in our late 20s w no friends really. We had a falling out w our friend circle last year...

It feels really shitty to not have anyone care enough for a baby shower.


You do not throw a shower for yourself! EVER.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 19:22     Subject: Re:No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.


Uh, no. New babies are happy news that should be shared with the people who care about you. If the people who care about you are family members - invite them. They will be thrilled to honor a brand new member of the family.

Friends come and go in life but family is forever, Op.


Maybe OP can chime in if her family is indeed forever. Or at least 2.5 years because that’s how old the thread is.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 16:23     Subject: Re:No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.


Uh, no. New babies are happy news that should be shared with the people who care about you. If the people who care about you are family members - invite them. They will be thrilled to honor a brand new member of the family.

Friends come and go in life but family is forever, Op.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 16:20     Subject: Re:No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:OP, I have a 2 year old, but I had no friends to invite to a baby shower either. And no one offered to host a shower for me. So I just didn't have one. It bothered me a lot at the time, as a first time mom. So we just ended up buying everything ourselves, as we didn't really receive any baby gifts either.

I decided to create a whole new social circle and make a lot of friends as a SAHM. I joined a few moms groups, playgroups, and made it a goal to make new friends and build a community. I definitely have way more friends now as a SAHM than I ever did before (at least since college). Now we're in the midst of infertility as we try for baby #2, but if I ever do get pregnant, I do plan to have a baby shower since I never had one the first time around. I'm going to host it myself, and I'm going to specify no gifts, because it's not the gifts that's important, it's feeling supported and loved (which I definitely didn't feel the first time around).


This is really sweet. I love your perspective.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 16:10     Subject: No friends to invite to a baby shower
Don't worry OP. I've been where you are. Luckily our co-workers through both my husband and myself a party. Don't feel bad about these things. Focus on the fact that you are pregnant. Try not to dwell on what you don't have.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 15:23     Subject: No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:OP child is now 3 years old...


Hahaha! I need to start checking on the dates before going through six pages worth of messages.
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 15:00     Subject: Re:No friends to invite to a baby shower
Folks, this thread is almost 2.5 years old....
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 13:51     Subject: Re:No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:First off it isn't proper to have family members throw showers.

Just accept the fact you don't have friends to invite and focus on what you have going on in your life. Count your blessings. Don't make someone throw you a party and invite people you aren't close with. That's lame and you'll feel awkward. You'll live without a baby shower.
Why? I've never heard that before.


The reason is that having your family members throw you a shower is essentially asking for gifts for your family. A shower is supposed to be thrown by a friend. Not your sister or your mom.


But if it’s only family coming to the shower anyway what is the big deal?
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 10:48     Subject: Re:No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:What kind of man pushes to have a baby shower?


A cheap one
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 10:10     Subject: No friends to invite to a baby shower
OP child is now 3 years old...
Anonymous
Post 05/10/2018 07:48     Subject: No friends to invite to a baby shower
Wow there are some really rude comments here. Telling her to focus on making friends? Saying it’s not proper to have your family throw you one? Calm down with all the judgemental comments. She’s asking for help, not ridicule.
Every baby shower I’ve been to has been thrown by family. Now that I’m pregnant, my sister-in-law is over the moon and organizing a baby shower for me. My husband’s mom wants to throw a baby shower. Let family members do it if they want to, let them be involved in the excitement.
I don’t have many friends either because I was in a toxic group of women and decide to distance myself. There are a few friends/coworkers who are excited for me and would want to be invited to my shower as well. If it’s just family, then that’s okay too. Don’t stress
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 20:54     Subject: No friends to invite to a baby shower
Anonymous wrote:Ill come to your baby shower OP.


Me too!
Anonymous
Post 12/29/2015 20:51     Subject: No friends to invite to a baby shower
Ill come to your baby shower OP.