Anonymous wrote:Take him shopping. Find clothes that he feels good in and will want to wear. Do you think you are sending non. verbal cues to him that yiu are embarrassed - so he is trying too hard and not relaxing? When my husband met my closest friends the first time he got really anxious and talked faster than usual, etc. With time that passed. Also, I am guessing you are much more aware of these externals than the others there.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He's going to be 33 next month I wish he'd care a little more. We're trying to start a family, and social connections will matter even more.
Oh God, please don't start a family with him if you feel this way. What matters most with a family is love and acceptance, and you are lacking.
I never said I didn't love him. I'm fond of him. I disagree that love is what matters most, yes it's great, but in today's world children need every advantage they can get and it's no secret social networking helps.
Ok, troll. You went too far. Thread over.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP - I think your feelings are valid.
That's just it. They're not. Please don't suggest otherwise.
Yes, they are. Feelings are not valid or invalid - they just are. Do you tell your kids they aren't upset when in fact they are clearly upset?
Yes. That is what the millennials keep telling us. Sometimes it is best just to keep your feelings to yourself.
Anonymous wrote:Take him shopping. Find clothes that he feels good in and will want to wear. Do you think you are sending non. verbal cues to him that yiu are embarrassed - so he is trying too hard and not relaxing? When my husband met my closest friends the first time he got really anxious and talked faster than usual, etc. With time that passed. Also, I am guessing you are much more aware of these externals than the others there.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP - I think your feelings are valid.
That's just it. They're not. Please don't suggest otherwise.
Yes, they are. Feelings are not valid or invalid - they just are. Do you tell your kids they aren't upset when in fact they are clearly upset?
Yes. That is what the millennials keep telling us. Sometimes it is best just to keep your feelings to yourself.
Sure, its is best if I don't tell my husband that I fucking hate him right now because of the stains on his tie, but the feelings themselves are still valid. Maybe indicative of other problems in my life, but I can't deny the momentary anger/hate/rage that boils up in me when I see his wrinkled pants.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP - I think your feelings are valid.
That's just it. They're not. Please don't suggest otherwise.
Yes, they are. Feelings are not valid or invalid - they just are. Do you tell your kids they aren't upset when in fact they are clearly upset?
Yes. That is what the millennials keep telling us. Sometimes it is best just to keep your feelings to yourself.