Anonymous
12/01/2015 00:19
Subject: Re:Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:OP here.
I texted her to ask for any suggestions she may have. Asking her for suggestions does not guarantee that person gets an invite. This isn't MY house or MY party. I know for a fact the other girl this friend of hers recommended has literally only hung out with my sister out of class once or twice last semester. This boy that my sister has been talking to has only been introduced to this friend of hers and from what I gather, they have hung out a few times and partied together for Halloween. They did not spend Thanksgiving together and he is not even invited to her graduation. She has not brought him around any family. It isn't exactly MY place to reach out to him on behalf of of aunt and invite him to her house. I don't even have his number.
When this girl made her suggestions, I discussed with her how I didn't think they were important enough to get an invite as they were not super close to my sister.
Instead of accepting that I reached out to her for her input, she thinks she IS the party planner.
How am I being crazy?
FYI, she's 23. I am 27.
Really? She offered up two people, why not say thanks ask her for any more suggestions she can think of and do the guest vetting on your own. Although given your justification above, i honestly think you should just have a small family dinner.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 23:22
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Thank you. This thread has made me feel much better about my secondary infertility.
I'm sorry for your struggles, but this made me LOL.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 23:14
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
Thank you. This thread has made me feel much better about my secondary infertility.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 23:09
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
OP has run away to lick her wounded ego.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 23:02
Subject: Re:Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else wondering why OP felt the need to drop in the "3 beautiful children" line in her original post? This whole thread is so bizarre, there definitely seems to be something broken in OP's social skills and ability to relate to others.
Yes that did seem a little odd. OP strikes me as.. hoity toity..?
The aunt is being ever so gracious to host this get together. She has 3 beautiful children, and she's opening her home to her niece's friends. Maybe. If OP doesn't either poo-poo them all or un-invite them.
When I read OP's posts I envision Downton Abbey.
What if the 3 kids were ugly instead of beautiful? Would that change the calculus here? This thread reminds me of when I used to read The Knot and The Nest and people posted outrageous things and demanded that people defend their Bridezilla-ness.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 22:07
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Here's the story:
My little sister is graduating from college this Spring. Our aunt and her dh want throw her a surprise party at their home with their 3 beautiful little children. Our aunt reached out to me to inquire if I knew anyone who my sister would want at the party. My sister is kind of a loner and she has only really had one close friend over the years that I could think of that would be worth inviting. Looking to brainstorm if we should extend the invitation to other friends of hers to this, I reached out to this friend.
I missed this on the first pass. Now I know why OP doesn't know much about her sister's friends and boyfriend. OP is a not only clueless and rude, but she's also judgmental and obnoxious. She's rated all of her sister's friends and none of them have passed her approval. So, her sister no longer tells her about her friends, who she spends time with or even that she now has a boyfriend.
OP, do everyone a favor. Tell your aunt to contact your sister's friend and just stay out of the conversation entirely. You've already done a fair amount of damage in screwing up your sister's graduation and the planning has barely started. If you back away now, your sister may have a party worth remembering (even better, find something else to do that day).
Anonymous
11/30/2015 22:06
Subject: Re:Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else wondering why OP felt the need to drop in the "3 beautiful children" line in her original post? This whole thread is so bizarre, there definitely seems to be something broken in OP's social skills and ability to relate to others.
Yeah, I picked up on that once I realized she wasn't referring to herself. Very confusing, but after seeing the way she defends and someone else asking about Aspergers, whether joking or serious, these are classic traits of an Aspergers individual who can't turn the corner and see a different point of view.
Has anyone ever read Jodi Picoult's "House Rules" that explains everything that the OP is exhibiting in terms of responses and defenses.
So there's a possibility OP isn't being a jerk. She simply doesn't know/understand how to handle these kinds of things.
Is her defensiveness and unwillingness to consider she could be wrong that truly make her a jerk.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 22:04
Subject: Re:Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else wondering why OP felt the need to drop in the "3 beautiful children" line in her original post? This whole thread is so bizarre, there definitely seems to be something broken in OP's social skills and ability to relate to others.
Yeah, I picked up on that once I realized she wasn't referring to herself. Very confusing, but after seeing the way she defends and someone else asking about Aspergers, whether joking or serious, these are classic traits of an Aspergers individual who can't turn the corner and see a different point of view.
Has anyone ever read Jodi Picoult's "House Rules" that explains everything that the OP is exhibiting in terms of responses and defenses.
So there's a possibility OP isn't being a jerk. She simply doesn't know/understand how to handle these kinds of things.
This doesn't make the OP less of a jerk. She's not a child, she should have figured this out by now if it's the case.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 21:58
Subject: Re:Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else wondering why OP felt the need to drop in the "3 beautiful children" line in her original post? This whole thread is so bizarre, there definitely seems to be something broken in OP's social skills and ability to relate to others.
Yeah, I picked up on that once I realized she wasn't referring to herself. Very confusing, but after seeing the way she defends and someone else asking about Aspergers, whether joking or serious, these are classic traits of an Aspergers individual who can't turn the corner and see a different point of view.
Has anyone ever read Jodi Picoult's "House Rules" that explains everything that the OP is exhibiting in terms of responses and defenses.
So there's a possibility OP isn't being a jerk. She simply doesn't know/understand how to handle these kinds of things.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 21:20
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
OP sounds crazy.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 20:08
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
And OP you clearly don't understand what 'talking to' a boy means. They are going out/dating.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 20:07
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
OP you are dead ass wrong
Anonymous
11/30/2015 19:44
Subject: Did I deserve such rudeness?
OP, are you still there?
Can you please tell us whether you are married and have children?
If not, how came you to discover DCUM?
Thank you.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 19:43
Subject: Re:Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else wondering why OP felt the need to drop in the "3 beautiful children" line in her original post? This whole thread is so bizarre, there definitely seems to be something broken in OP's social skills and ability to relate to others.
Yeah, I picked up on that once I realized she wasn't referring to herself. Very confusing, but after seeing the way she defends and someone else asking about Aspergers, whether joking or serious, these are classic traits of an Aspergers individual who can't turn the corner and see a different point of view.
Has anyone ever read Jodi Picoult's "House Rules" that explains everything that the OP is exhibiting in terms of responses and defenses.
Anonymous
11/30/2015 19:42
Subject: Re:Did I deserve such rudeness?
Anonymous wrote:Is anyone else wondering why OP felt the need to drop in the "3 beautiful children" line in her original post? This whole thread is so bizarre, there definitely seems to be something broken in OP's social skills and ability to relate to others.
Yes that did seem a little odd. OP strikes me as.. hoity toity..?
The aunt is being ever so gracious to host this get together. She has 3 beautiful children, and she's opening her home to her niece's friends. Maybe. If OP doesn't either poo-poo them all or un-invite them.
When I read OP's posts I envision Downton Abbey.