Anonymous
Post 10/30/2015 03:10     Subject: Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.


I was the PP, and I don't think choosing not to wear an engagement ring=poor. But I think someone contriving a deep philosophy to elevate them above others who do wear engagement rings probably does.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 22:17     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:None of my friends (late 20s) do engagement rings -- it's an archaic sad/bad custom for people who aren't very good at feminism. Sorry, but that's the truth.


lol.


Sure. Fine. Whatever you say. Lol indeed.


I have said this before and I am going to say it again.

Why in the hell do people that are NOT ENGAGED OR MARRIED not wear rings? In any public setting, most people look for an obvious sign before potentially hitting on someone. A ring helps in that respect. Sure, one could say, I am engaged/married and that makes the person look stupid when they shouldn't be for looking at a sign of commitment when one isn't visible.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 20:25     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread really makes us catty, huh?

In my original social circle, 1.5 - 3 was the norm, with some outliers (one gf married someone 15 years older and got a 6 carat ring, pretty but ostentatious).

Mine is 1.8. When we got engaged, that was important to me that it be in that range because it felt like everyone else I knew had a ring that size (I know, I know but I was youngish).

I love my ring, but my husband is a professors, not a banker or in big law. We're mid 30's now, and none of the other professor's wives have rings like mine, so my husband actually prefers that i not wear it around colleagues or other university area people - which is most of the people we see now.

C'est la vie.


A family ring? No way in hell a newly minted professor is making the kind of money needed to buy 1.8 carats.



It's kind of strange you feel the need to hide a 1.8 carat ring. That's the size of mine and I don't feel like it is big at all. I doubt anyone cares.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 20:25     Subject: Engagement ring size in your social circle?
These threads are running over dcum. They seem so obsessive and abnormal. Next the OP will be asking what size finger we all have as if that determines anything.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 20:15     Subject: Engagement ring size in your social circle?
I couldn't tell you what my friends' engagement rings look like, let alone how many carats they are.

Why the obsession, OP? Who cares?
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 19:55     Subject: Engagement ring size in your social circle?
I didn't want an engagement ring, and didn't get one, but I was really surprised at how many people thought that was something I'd be sad about.

Now I don't even wear my wedding band that often. We have a great marriage, but the ring just doesn't mean what I thought it would to me.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 18:51     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:None of my friends (late 20s) do engagement rings -- it's an archaic sad/bad custom for people who aren't very good at feminism. Sorry, but that's the truth.


lol.


Sure. Fine. Whatever you say. Lol indeed.


Put it on your Tumblr of microaggressions. There is no "being good at" feminism. Your post is actually anti-feminist.

FFS Jezebel and SJWs have ruined everything. I cannot stand what it's done to the movement.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 18:36     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:None of my friends (late 20s) do engagement rings -- it's an archaic sad/bad custom for people who aren't very good at feminism. Sorry, but that's the truth.


lol.


Sure. Fine. Whatever you say. Lol indeed.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 18:03     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:This thread really makes us catty, huh?

In my original social circle, 1.5 - 3 was the norm, with some outliers (one gf married someone 15 years older and got a 6 carat ring, pretty but ostentatious).

Mine is 1.8. When we got engaged, that was important to me that it be in that range because it felt like everyone else I knew had a ring that size (I know, I know but I was youngish).

I love my ring, but my husband is a professors, not a banker or in big law. We're mid 30's now, and none of the other professor's wives have rings like mine, so my husband actually prefers that i not wear it around colleagues or other university area people - which is most of the people we see now.

C'est la vie.


A family ring? No way in hell a newly minted professor is making the kind of money needed to buy 1.8 carats.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 18:02     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:
I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.


+1 They are just classy. Not everyone wants to be dripping rocks associated with armed conflict.


Does any other country put as much cultural importance and self-worth into the e-ring as the United States? I swear, we are the biggest suckers on earth.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 18:01     Subject: Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:My man and I have no rings. Our love transcends manmade trinkets obsessed over by others. Our love is pure.


Then why are you in this thread? How odd.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 17:57     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Generally the same circumference as the ring finger.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 17:44     Subject: Re:Engagement ring size in your social circle?
I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.


+1 They are just classy. Not everyone wants to be dripping rocks associated with armed conflict.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 17:41     Subject: Engagement ring size in your social circle?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Mine is 0.5; most in my circle are larger. I got married early and DH paid for it all himself.

My BFF has a HUGE ring. That her DH put on their joint credit card and took forever to pay off.



Better than being saddled with a tiny ring. I want a rock and if I had to pay for it, no problem.


DH makes 7 figures now; trust me - if I want a new one its not a problem. Its not a priority for me.


Your spouse makes 7 figures and you have a 0.5 carat? Lol. That is embarrassing that I would even suggest such a thing.


PP back - why is it embarrassing? I feel no embarrassment whatsoever- I feel a lot of pride in the ring DH bought me when we were starting out.


There you go.


Audrey Hepburn's engagement ring was a stack of 3 rings with small diamonds in them. Class all the way.

http://blog.brilliance.com/diamonds/celebrity-engagement-rings-audrey-hepburn

My first diamond was 1.1 carat, and I now find it embarassing that I bought into the deBeers ad campaign.
Anonymous
Post 10/29/2015 17:36     Subject: Engagement ring size in your social circle?
I live in Europe. None of the European women in my circle wear engagement rings: it is customary to only wear a wedding band in this country, and in the countries some other European friends call home. I really like the simplicity of this look, and I feel ostentatious and a bit look-at-ME-look-at-ME wearing an e-ring here, so I usually just wear the band now too. None of these women are "poor", either, by the way.