Anonymous wrote:Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

So your husband prefers you with a fuscia pixie cut, turquoise contact lenses, in thigh high boots and fishnets. He sees you in yoga pants and feels nauseated. No nightgowns either.

Are you accommodating him because it's what he finds attractive?

No woman should have to mitigate her own happiness in her own skin to make her partner happy. A haircut or hair color doesnt define a person.

Sure, you can have a preference, but for me, this getting caught up in superficial trappings is really bizarre to me. So she cuts her hair short for a year? Two? Five? Does that define her differently as a short haired person? Is she less of a mother? Is her vagina less wonderful?

I'm sorry, this post is really confounding me because I really don't get it.

And as a post note - gentlemen, if you are so desperate for passionate and regular sex with your wives, DON'T put in their heads that you find them anything but irresistible. If you think that you suggesting a hairstyle isn't a big deal, trust me when I say many women will then worry about the other things you DONT say. So you don't like her hair - how do you feel about her stretch marks, saggy boobs, cellulite, the fact she didn't shave her legs for a week, the chin hair she's praying you didn't notice, her chapped lips, the spinach she had between her teeth on Tuesday.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dcum wife on one thread -- I will wear my hair the way I want and dress how I want. It's my body and DH needs to accept it!!!!

Same wife on another thread -- DH NEVER plans a date night! He is so boring!

Lol, yup. Pretty much! Haha.

More like:

DCUM husband on one thread: my wife won't have sex with me. When she does, the lights have to be off and the conditions have to be perfect.

DCUM husband on another thread: I am going to get hung up on some superficial thing about my wife. Regardless of the fact it may make her feel sexy as hell, I am going to tell her I don't find it as sexy as what it is I specifically want.

Not more like, but also

NP. Nope, it's more like.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dcum wife on one thread -- I will wear my hair the way I want and dress how I want. It's my body and DH needs to accept it!!!!

Same wife on another thread -- DH NEVER plans a date night! He is so boring!

Lol, yup. Pretty much! Haha.

More like:

DCUM husband on one thread: my wife won't have sex with me. When she does, the lights have to be off and the conditions have to be perfect.

DCUM husband on another thread: I am going to get hung up on some superficial thing about my wife. Regardless of the fact it may make her feel sexy as hell, I am going to tell her I don't find it as sexy as what it is I specifically want.

Not more like, but also

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dcum wife on one thread -- I will wear my hair the way I want and dress how I want. It's my body and DH needs to accept it!!!!

Same wife on another thread -- DH NEVER plans a date night! He is so boring!

Lol, yup. Pretty much! Haha.

More like:

DCUM husband on one thread: my wife won't have sex with me. When she does, the lights have to be off and the conditions have to be perfect.

DCUM husband on another thread: I am going to get hung up on some superficial thing about my wife. Regardless of the fact it may make her feel sexy as hell, I am going to tell her I don't find it as sexy as what it is I specifically want.

So damn true.

Anonymous wrote:Op, your wife is not here for your aesthetic enjoyment. My guess is your opinion doesn't matter. And frankly, I don't think it should. I hope she doesn't ask, "how do you think I look?" lame, lame, lame. But if she does, well you're then free to answer with our honest opinion.

THIS.

Its no wonder so many of you are miserable in your marriages. Both of us have preferences about levels of fitness and personal grooming. Of course our decision is our own but we certainly are not dismissive of what each of finds attractive.

Good luck, many of you need it.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dcum wife on one thread -- I will wear my hair the way I want and dress how I want. It's my body and DH needs to accept it!!!!

Same wife on another thread -- DH NEVER plans a date night! He is so boring!

Lol, yup. Pretty much! Haha.

More like:

DCUM husband on one thread: my wife won't have sex with me. When she does, the lights have to be off and the conditions have to be perfect.

DCUM husband on another thread: I am going to get hung up on some superficial thing about my wife. Regardless of the fact it may make her feel sexy as hell, I am going to tell her I don't find it as sexy as what it is I specifically want.

2 things:

A mom bob is a crappy, boring, outdated "I give up" haircut. It's done because you have no time to take care of yourself. It isn't just any short haircut on a mom. I hate the term but especially hate when it's used to scare moms into having crappy outdated long hair.

A lot of women make drastic hair changes after a breakup. Some go long to short and some go short to long. It isn't necessarily to attract a man--it's because you feel like making a change.

Anonymous wrote:Op, your wife is not here for your aesthetic enjoyment. My guess is your opinion doesn't matter. And frankly, I don't think it should. I hope she doesn't ask, "how do you think I look?" lame, lame, lame. But if she does, well you're then free to answer with our honest opinion.

Are you a happily married person, a single person, or an unhappily married person?

Girl, you are coo coo!

I would want to know how he felt. My husband doesn't care either way--an opinion would simplify things bc I can't ever decide.

Op, your wife is not here for your aesthetic enjoyment. My guess is your opinion doesn't matter. And frankly, I don't think it should. I hope she doesn't ask, "how do you think I look?" lame, lame, lame. But if she does, well you're then free to answer with our honest opinion.

Anonymous wrote:How many of you ladies grew out your hair before your wedding then cut it quite a bit shortly thereafter?

In any case, pretty much nobody cuts their hair short for their wedding. So the idea that it looks more attractive is b.s. When you want to look pretty, the hair gets long.

I know someone (a hairdresser at that) who got extensions just for her wedding. Then she went back to shot hair again.

I agree OP is shallow and a little simple.

My hair grows fast so I donate it often. I go from extremely short to long enough to donate 13 inches in about 18 months.

I notice that men start hitting on me as soon as my hair is past my shoulder. When they hit on me my first thought is... You are sooooo simple. You don't even know me.

I did not marry a man that loves me for my hair. Thank god!

I would be very pissed if my H's attraction to me was based on my hair, but I am a very smart and successful so I value so many more things about me than my looks.

My H grew facial hair because he was getting ingrown hairs when he shaved. I never for a second though, oh I am less attracted to you because of your hair. Yes be careful against sensitive skin, but ask him to change it, NO.

I don't care about "dad bod" I care if he is healthy and happy.

So .. Sorry OP, I think you are being shallow.

Anonymous wrote:My issue OP, is that you sound very shallow.

Why is it shallow have preferences? I prefer short hair over long hair, clean shaven to beards, brunette to blonde, fit men to dad bod. But that's me. People may look at me and say, heh, I prefer short hair to long, tall girls to short, and I definitely want bigger boobs. Fine. I'm not your type.

I loved the way somebody suggested just saying to her that he missed her sexy long hair. That's (one of the reasons) why I keep my hair long. Because my husband likes it. That's OK. Feels OK to me to do that for him.

Anonymous wrote:Dcum wife on one thread -- I will wear my hair the way I want and dress how I want. It's my body and DH needs to accept it!!!!

Same wife on another thread -- DH NEVER plans a date night! He is so boring!

Lol, yup. Pretty much! Haha.