Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 12:08     Subject: Re:Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My daughter is three years old and has never had a babysitter other then daycare.

We do things together on the weekends because it is the only time we have together, other then the two short hours every weekday after pick up and before bedtime.

We do not have family that can help out unless it was an emergency and that would be a burden, for them because of their own responsibilities and distance from us, about 40 minutes.


And that is unique? We've never had a babysitter for our kids... we're too cheap and they are too expensive. Not worth $50-70 for a babysitter for dinner. Our family almost never helps.


Tell me about it. My kid is 5 year old and has never had a babysitter other than grandparents.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 11:45     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.


My almost 8 year old does this. Always begging me to come with her if she needs to go to the floor that no one else is on.


My 9 year old does this crap too.


"Crap"? the kid's scared. I realize it's annoying to you but come on, PP. Have some sympathy.


But, see, it's a stall tactic and drama. She goes by herself a lot when it's something she WANTS to do. So, yes, in her case...crap.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 11:36     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.


My almost 8 year old does this. Always begging me to come with her if she needs to go to the floor that no one else is on.


My 9 year old does this crap too.


"Crap"? the kid's scared. I realize it's annoying to you but come on, PP. Have some sympathy.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 11:33     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.


My almost 8 year old does this. Always begging me to come with her if she needs to go to the floor that no one else is on.


My 9 year old does this crap too.


I was like that.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 11:31     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My son will be strikingly gorgeous. My daughter is good light/bad light pretty.


How is that a secret?


You have no clue how your DS will turn out.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 11:28     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old DS comes into our bed every night in the middle of the night- usually around 2 or 3 am.

He first started around 4.5/5, and we were just so tired and thought it was a phase that would naturally pass. Initially, he also didn't do it every night.

Not it is every night. And he is 7. And he is getting bigger. And our bed is a queen size. And sometimes he is a restless sleeper.

And we're still tired. Sometimes my husband will be unable to sleep about getting pummeled and will go sleep in DS's empty bed.

Is this going to resolve itself?


It might resolve itself. But it might not. Does he know it bothers you? Have you tried to say no yet? Have you tried to reward him for sleeping until 7am in his own bed?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 11:07     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I thought these secrets would be a little heavier. Not that these aren't major issues. But I know two families and know some very heavy secrets about them. One has a highschool DD who has HIV and the other is raising a transgendered child. Nobody at their children's schools knows this.


I hope these kids are getting the help and support they need and that this isn't shoved under the carpet because they think it's "shameful." I can absolutely understand not wanting to widely share these things, but the HIV is a safety issue, and I imagine the transgender child would benefit from plenty of support and perhaps therapy to help find ways to deal with the fear of others finding other and the stress of being around people who may be really insensitive about issues like this.


These kids are being raised by two of the best families I know. Full on loving and supportive and completely open to their children. Both have received much counseling and are doing their best to raise well adjusted kids. The one with HIV is so well maintained and surpressed at this point that she is living a very healthy lifestyle. I have no idea if they have spoken to the school but they haven't told other parents. And the chances of another child getting the virus are so minimal with how surpressed the virus is at this point. The other child is older elementary and has only started living as the opposite sex in the past two years. The child had just transferred to another school because the family had just moved. It seemed to be the best time to make this transition. This child and family receives lots of support and counseling. But telling other students would destroy this child. This child already is experiencing huge anxiety issues and does not want anyone to know. Both situations are not something I would wish on anyone.


WHAT? Umm, kids cut themselves ALL THE TIME. Jesus, I hope this child isn't in the same care as my child. They are obligated to disclose this information to the care center.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 11:03     Subject: Secret about your child
My 7 year old DS comes into our bed every night in the middle of the night- usually around 2 or 3 am.

He first started around 4.5/5, and we were just so tired and thought it was a phase that would naturally pass. Initially, he also didn't do it every night.

Not it is every night. And he is 7. And he is getting bigger. And our bed is a queen size. And sometimes he is a restless sleeper.

And we're still tired. Sometimes my husband will be unable to sleep about getting pummeled and will go sleep in DS's empty bed.

Is this going to resolve itself?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 10:52     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:They both sleep with me nearly every night. I know people cosleep but this is more being too lazy to put them back.


Ha ha - this is us! We tried to put both our kids (3 and 5) back in their beds when they would crawl in with us, but finally gave in and bought a king-sized bed. At least our infant sleeps in his own room (for now!) My view is that they won't want to sleep with us forever, so I'm enjoying this while it lasts.

Same with the bottles. My three year old occasionally asks for milk in a ba-ba (his term for a sippy cup), but who cares? He (and your preschoolers) won't be using a bottle when they're 10, I promise you.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 10:33     Subject: Re:Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:I will not betray the trust between my children and I by revealing their secrets.


On an anonymous message board? Where's the harm? How will it hurt your child?
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 10:32     Subject: Re:Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:So many I can't list them all...but mostly that my DS is a huge struggle in so many areas that I scream everyday and feel like I'm a failure as a mother. I've always wanted to be a mother and now I don't like being one at all. I've never actually said these words out loud.


How old is your DS? I felt like this when my oldest was 2-4. It was a tough couple of years. Things are SO much better now. You're not a bad mom.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 09:59     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I once caught one of my kids tasting (drinking? Dear God...) her urine. Same child hid her poop under her bed because she took my saying "dont poop after you bathe" way too seriously.


What's wrong with going after you bathe?


We were trying to encourage her to try before she got in the bath. All is fine now.


LOL, ok. I was worried I missed out on a basic of life or something.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 09:57     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.


My almost 8 year old does this. Always begging me to come with her if she needs to go to the floor that no one else is on.


My 9 year old does this crap too.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 09:57     Subject: Re:Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:So many I can't list them all...but mostly that my DS is a huge struggle in so many areas that I scream everyday and feel like I'm a failure as a mother. I've always wanted to be a mother and now I don't like being one at all. I've never actually said these words out loud.


You are not alone. We wanted a second, but our first is so damn difficult that we questioned our sanity.

We had a second anyway and I just hope that she will not be like her sister.

I just had our normal morning craziness before school, and it always makes me want to run away screaming with the baby and never come back.
Anonymous
Post 09/28/2015 09:47     Subject: Secret about your child
Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.


My almost 8 year old does this. Always begging me to come with her if she needs to go to the floor that no one else is on.