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Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."

OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.

Actually, I'm a bleeding heart liberal who firmly believes that every job is honorable if you do it well. Truly.

But this guy isn't doing his job well. He clearly has a chip on his soldier as evidenced by his completely inappropriate behavior. I most certainly would not pick a fight with anyone--let alone a rude cashier--but like I said before, I would proactively try to play along and diffuse the situation with humor...but would likely say something if he didn't come around. What's wrong with that, pp?

Fwiw: I actually work in the anti-poverty advocacy arena, and I can assure you that you aren't doing anyone a favor by enabling their victimhood. People need to take responsibility for their actions and recognize that they are the only ones capable of improving their situation.

In the real world it's not okay to be an asshole because you have a crummy job or shit going on in your life. Period.

Anonymous wrote:I was at a supermarket (TJ) and I had the rudest person at the checkout line. And I don't just mean "unfriendly" or "bad manners" or "bad customer service" - I mean, the guy was staring and every single one of his words were dripping with pure hate.

I came up to the line, and right off the bat - he just stared at me with a death face, and said in a mocking voice "And how is your day, just absolutely wonderful I hope." It wasn't what he said, it was the way he said it, dripping with sarcasm. I ignored the attitude, and just said "Good thanks." Then he said, "Great. Oh I'm having a wonderful day, thank you SO much for asking." Again, said with scathing sarcasm and a death stare that creeped me the f*ck out. Then he proceeded to bag my groceries in complete, uncomfortable silence.

In the meantime, I'm running through my head of what I might have done to offend this guy. Was I in the express line? Was his lane closed? No. No. Maybe I'm just imagining his abhorrent attitude?

And then I paid, and when I went to leave, he says with the same evil death stare, and "Well this has been absolutely fun. Let's do it again sometime, shall we? (pause) Say goodbye now (said in a long drawn out way, like you would to a slow person)" At which, I was just stunned. I wish I could put his expression into words, my description just does not do it justice. Dripping with hate and sarcasm. I ignored his attitude, and said bye and left.

I think I was just in such shock and disbelief that an employee would treat me like that - I didn't even respond. I wish I had said something, but still don't know what I should have said.

WWYD??

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."

OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.

Actually, I'm a bleeding heart liberal who firmly believes that every job is honorable if you do it well. Truly.

But this guy isn't doing his job well. He clearly has a chip on his soldier as evidenced by his completely inappropriate behavior. I most certainly would not pick a fight with anyone--let alone a rude cashier--but like I said before, I would proactively try to play along and diffuse the situation with humor...but would likely say something if he didn't come around. What's wrong with that, pp?

Fwiw: I actually work in the anti-poverty advocacy arena, and I can assure you that you aren't doing anyone a favor by enabling their victimhood. People need to take responsibility for their actions and recognize that they are the only ones capable of improving their situation.

In the real world it's not okay to be an asshole because you have a crummy job or shit going on in your life. Period.

Barf. Could you be more sanctimonious? Like I said, you have NO idea why he's working at TJ's at that very moment. He could be a laid off engineer. He could have had to move home to care for his sick parent, and needed some cash flow. He could be an adjunct professor at a university who makes very little. YOU have no idea. So yes, say that he's an asshole. Say that he's rude. But don't even PRETEND that you know about his life and his "choices," all of which could have been the "right" ones.

???

If the rude cashier hates his job, he is the only person equipped to address that issue.

He applied for and accepted the position. If his job makes him so miserable that he's berating customers then only he can change his situation.

You people are assigning malicious intent that simply isn't printed in the post. Where am I criticizing his education level, intellect or criminal history??? Um, nowhere. Rather, I'm simply putting the responsibility on him. He chose the job and he's choosing to be an asshole...and that's not okay.

Give it up, PP.

This forum has the biggest group of enablers around. Anytime you mention self-responsibility, you get slammed. And I say this as a Liberal.

Dude was rude. That's the bottom line. If I'm rude in my job, I get slammed, and trust me when I say there are hundreds out there who could replace me.

Anonymous wrote:I think "Bob" may have been trying to be funny and have a very deadpan delivery style. You may have missed his humor.

If not, he sounds like an ass.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."

OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.

Actually, I'm a bleeding heart liberal who firmly believes that every job is honorable if you do it well. Truly.

But this guy isn't doing his job well. He clearly has a chip on his soldier as evidenced by his completely inappropriate behavior. I most certainly would not pick a fight with anyone--let alone a rude cashier--but like I said before, I would proactively try to play along and diffuse the situation with humor...but would likely say something if he didn't come around. What's wrong with that, pp?

Fwiw: I actually work in the anti-poverty advocacy arena, and I can assure you that you aren't doing anyone a favor by enabling their victimhood. People need to take responsibility for their actions and recognize that they are the only ones capable of improving their situation.

In the real world it's not okay to be an asshole because you have a crummy job or shit going on in your life. Period.

Barf. Could you be more sanctimonious? Like I said, you have NO idea why he's working at TJ's at that very moment. He could be a laid off engineer. He could have had to move home to care for his sick parent, and needed some cash flow. He could be an adjunct professor at a university who makes very little. YOU have no idea. So yes, say that he's an asshole. Say that he's rude. But don't even PRETEND that you know about his life and his "choices," all of which could have been the "right" ones.

???

If the rude cashier hates his job, he is the only person equipped to address that issue.

He applied for and accepted the position. If his job makes him so miserable that he's berating customers then only he can change his situation.

You people are assigning malicious intent that simply isn't printed in the post. Where am I criticizing his education level, intellect or criminal history??? Um, nowhere. Rather, I'm simply putting the responsibility on him. He chose the job and he's choosing to be an asshole...and that's not okay.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."

OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.

Actually, I'm a bleeding heart liberal who firmly believes that every job is honorable if you do it well. Truly.

But this guy isn't doing his job well. He clearly has a chip on his soldier as evidenced by his completely inappropriate behavior. I most certainly would not pick a fight with anyone--let alone a rude cashier--but like I said before, I would proactively try to play along and diffuse the situation with humor...but would likely say something if he didn't come around. What's wrong with that, pp?

Fwiw: I actually work in the anti-poverty advocacy arena, and I can assure you that you aren't doing anyone a favor by enabling their victimhood. People need to take responsibility for their actions and recognize that they are the only ones capable of improving their situation.

In the real world it's not okay to be an asshole because you have a crummy job or shit going on in your life. Period.

Barf. Could you be more sanctimonious? Like I said, you have NO idea why he's working at TJ's at that very moment. He could be a laid off engineer. He could have had to move home to care for his sick parent, and needed some cash flow. He could be an adjunct professor at a university who makes very little. YOU have no idea. So yes, say that he's an asshole. Say that he's rude. But don't even PRETEND that you know about his life and his "choices," all of which could have been the "right" ones.

???

If the rude cashier hates his job, he is the only person equipped to address that issue.

He applied for and accepted the position. If his job makes him so miserable that he's berating customers then only he can change his situation.

You people are assigning malicious intent that simply isn't printed in the post. Where am I criticizing his education level, intellect or criminal history??? Um, nowhere. Rather, I'm simply putting the responsibility on him. He chose the job and he's choosing to be an asshole...and that's not okay.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."

OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.

Actually, I'm a bleeding heart liberal who firmly believes that every job is honorable if you do it well. Truly.

But this guy isn't doing his job well. He clearly has a chip on his soldier as evidenced by his completely inappropriate behavior. I most certainly would not pick a fight with anyone--let alone a rude cashier--but like I said before, I would proactively try to play along and diffuse the situation with humor...but would likely say something if he didn't come around. What's wrong with that, pp?

Fwiw: I actually work in the anti-poverty advocacy arena, and I can assure you that you aren't doing anyone a favor by enabling their victimhood. People need to take responsibility for their actions and recognize that they are the only ones capable of improving their situation.

In the real world it's not okay to be an asshole because you have a crummy job or shit going on in your life. Period.

Barf. Could you be more sanctimonious? Like I said, you have NO idea why he's working at TJ's at that very moment. He could be a laid off engineer. He could have had to move home to care for his sick parent, and needed some cash flow. He could be an adjunct professor at a university who makes very little. YOU have no idea. So yes, say that he's an asshole. Say that he's rude. But don't even PRETEND that you know about his life and his "choices," all of which could have been the "right" ones.

Anonymous wrote:It sounds like the OP encountered someone who was hating his job and trying to do the "surface" job thing while still hating it. Probably had nothing to do with her.

I would report it to the store, just because it's not a good situation to have someone so filled with hate working with the public.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He sounds hilarious!

I would have laughed every step of the way and asked if I was on a hidden camera show. If he didn't laugh and loosen up, then I probably would have sunk to his level and said something like:

"Dude, I know it sucks to be a cashier when you are a grown ass man, but you have no one to blame for your lot in life except yourself. And you're damn lucky I feel sorry for you so I won't report this to your boss."

OMG. How patronizing are you? You have no idea what his story is. I had a master's degree when I worked at a bookstore. Sure, he's rude, keep it at that. You sound like a Republican. Gross.

+1

You sound like the twat I once waited on who was telling her daughter she had to do better in life and study hard so she wouldn't end up like me (the waitress). Funny thing is at that point I had a double undergrad in engineering and was almost done with my master's in Eng, which was paid for by an academic fellowship. The waitressing was to pay for my fancy car and spending money.

She'd be luck to end up like me now.

(sorry to hijack, point is just that you don't know people's stories so just don't make them up)