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Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and haven't gotten noticed in years. Probably since college and even then it was mostly by drunk guys. I am basically invisible. I'm tall and a normal/average weight (BMI normal, not "average overweight American" normal), wear makeup, normal clothes - not revealing but not baggy sweats either. I'm just not attractive.

Ridiculous. Do not believe. You may not be movie star beautiful but I can tell by what you wrote that you have beauty outside and inside. Go to a good hair stylist, makeup artist, and fashionable clothes. Beauty doesn't come naturally to most of us and we take advantage of modern day miracles as noted above.

It doesn't really bother me though! But I am 8 months pregnant and I've noticed the difference in how people treat me. Now I'm definitely "noticed" and people (strangers, coworkers, acquaintances, etc.) are generally very kind. Holding doors, at work asking "if" I can do something instead of "DO IT NOW" and checking with my schedule, people let me go ahead in line at the grocery store, little things like that. Both men and women.

The truth is that I don't have a pretty face. I have deep-set eyes and dark undereye circles (genetics are a bitch like that), a large and slightly crooked nose, thin lips, and a double-chin no matter what my weight is. I could wear Kardashian levels of makeup and still look rough. But my husband loves me anyway and although it sucks not to get any "beauty privelege" in society, we all get old and faded eventually so meh, I'm just a few steps ahead of the game.

I definitely get noticed less in my early 40's. But I became a mom in my late 30's, so I can't really separate out how much of the non-noticing is related to my age and how much is related to me putting off a non-sexy Mom Vibe.

That said, I'm in really good shape, so random guys will actually talk to me sometimes for that reason -they're fascinated by my muscle definition. occasionally they're hitting on me, but sometimes they just think it's cool and they're commenting. So I guess I've got that going for me.

Another friend said she just noticed this year that she's not getting looked at anymore. She's 44 and is blonde with big boobs; I suspect she was coasting on the blonde and big boobs for awhile and the attention might have stopped earlier except for those.

Anonymous wrote:Probably mid-thirties.

I got on some anti-depressant meds which have made me gain a lot of weight.

Sucks the things we sacrifice for mental stability.

Me too! I was on sertraline for 1.5 years and gained like 50 pounds.
I stopped and the weight started coming off. I'm not technically overweight anymore but I need to lose 10-15 to feel like myself again. It's crazy how something external changes who you are to the world but it really does. I was the fat girl.

Anonymous wrote:My wife's in her mid fifties and still looks hot. Sort of a combination of Patricia Heaton and Katie Curic. Easily can pass for 40.

Neither of those women could pass for 40 under the best lights and makeup.

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Anonymous wrote:27? Why?

I don't know! I feel insibke lately.

Is that like verklempt?

Anonymous wrote:I'm late 30s and get noticed and hit on fairly often.

I have noticed that I am completely invisible if I have a small child with me. The difference when I have a baby with me is striking. If I am in a bad mood and have corresponding grumpy looks and body language, I don't get any attention.

Im 44 - ditto for me

Probably mid-thirties.

I got on some anti-depressant meds which have made me gain a lot of weight.

Sucks the things we sacrifice for mental stability.

My wife's in her mid fifties and still looks hot. Sort of a combination of Patricia Heaton and Katie Curic. Easily can pass for 40.

Hm. Here in DC I'd say in mass amounts somewhere around when I was 42, though the random guy will creep up every now and again. In other cities in the U.S. and abroad I still get regular attention. If it matters I am black and divorced with no kids.

I'm 36 & get "noticed" pretty regularly.

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Anonymous wrote:They stopped noticing when you stopped trying.

I can barely step out for a happy hour without some young buck offering to buy me a drink.

-Attractive, successful DC female executive in her mid 40s

Need to capitalize the E in Female Executive

Lmao! I hope the SAHM crazies on the other thread see this comment

Anonymous wrote:When did you become invisible to the opposite sex?

Guys stopped hitting on me at 27.

I was invisible until I turned 50. Go figure.

Anonymous wrote:What does it mean for a man to "notice you"? Is it just to have them stare at you or must they approach you/ ask you out?

Yes, it's funny to read this thread at the same time as the other one asking men what age they consider most attractive. Seems perhaps there is a gap between self-perception and others perception. Maybe someone should start a thread asking men how old a woman is before you quit paying attention to her sexually.

I'm 36 & get "noticed" pretty regularly.

37 y.o. married male here. I'm betting many of you are getting noticed a whole hell of a lot more than you realize. And what qualifies as 'notice'? A sideways glance? Eye contact? A pickup line? A pinch of the ass?