Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

You know, you can live without sex. It won't kill you.

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

Or you put it all out on the table, and be intimate with others, but transparent and honest with your DW.

Only in America is a man seen as more admirable for initiating a divorce and breaking up his family and leaving his xwife poorer than discretely meeting an unmet need on the side.

You can have your Newt Gingrich morality.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

Or you put it all out on the table, and be intimate with others, but transparent and honest with your DW.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

Or you put it all out on the table, and be intimate with others, but transparent and honest with your DW.

Although with her mental illness, putting it on the table could have a large impact on her mental stability.

Ah, the "what she doesn't know is better for her" excuse.

Christ, cheaters are such cowards. More so when they pretend to be victims. Make some hard grownup decisions, dude.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

Or you put it all out on the table, and be intimate with others, but transparent and honest with your DW.

Although with her mental illness, putting it on the table could have a large impact on her mental stability.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

Or you put it all out on the table, and be intimate with others, but transparent and honest with your DW.

Anonymous wrote:I have never been on Ashley Madison, so the hack is irrelevant to me.

My DW suffered years of depression, starting in earnest sometime after the birth of DS #2. Our sex life went to near zero, then zero when she went on meds which helped some. By definition, we were in a sexless marriage. She was a SAHM, so no income of her own. If you have never been in this situation, you have no idea how the loneliness eats at your soul.

I suppose the absolutists would say the far more moral choice would be to divorce my wife and break up my home rather than find an outlet outside my marriage. I would have asked for sole custody because my DW's mental illness could spike to the point she would be unable to care for both kids, at least transiently. Or I should suffer a lack of intimacy for the rest of my days.

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Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Who cares? People can explain away their AM accounts by claiming that they were curious or that someone else was using their credit card info.

Anyways, the threshold for shock has been raised so high now that when we see nude pictures of celebrities or their ONS baby bump, or their sex change operation - we are unfazed.

Big Fucking Deal!


Picture and sexy chat data exchanges do add a certain level of doubt to the curiosity explanation.

most of these users have nothing to worry about. This info will be hard to find and can not be posted because of the copyright. There maybe some blackmail value, but that would take place on the dark web.


Yeah right. It's pretty easy to find screen shots of data even after it was taken down. Once it's posted even once- it's out there! You can find the three names, addresses and all right now if you know where to look..

Okay post it here.


Repost illegally breached data? Umm, no thanks. Try doing a simple search for yourself as it's widely published.


Does anyone have any hints on where to find the data? The right keyword search maybe or where the results are in the returned search items

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Who cares? People can explain away their AM accounts by claiming that they were curious or that someone else was using their credit card info.

Anyways, the threshold for shock has been raised so high now that when we see nude pictures of celebrities or their ONS baby bump, or their sex change operation - we are unfazed.

Big Fucking Deal!


Picture and sexy chat data exchanges do add a certain level of doubt to the curiosity explanation.

most of these users have nothing to worry about. This info will be hard to find and can not be posted because of the copyright. There maybe some blackmail value, but that would take place on the dark web.


Yeah right. It's pretty easy to find screen shots of data even after it was taken down. Once it's posted even once- it's out there! You can find the three names, addresses and all right now if you know where to look..

Okay post it here.

Repost illegally breached data? Umm, no thanks. Try doing a simple search for yourself as it's widely published.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree cheating is not ideal. HOWEVER, some people cheat because of ongoing abuse in their relationships, or because they're seeking intimacy, friendship, affection, and closeness NOT AVAILABLE TO THEM IN THEIR MARRIAGE. So please stop judging.

Then get a divorce!

WHY?