Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 20:26     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:Wow. Lots of MIL contributions to this thread.

Why are you so mean?
Why do poster on dcum jump to the wrong conclusion that anyone who disagrees with the hateful mil posts has to be a mil. Are you really that self-absorbed to think that a contemporary cannot see things differently?
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 17:36     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Pp here. Accidentally embedded my post in the quote. Damn iphone.


I am the PP to whom you responded. The MIL said she would buy a glider, and said the one that was chosen was too expensive. So, the choices are to pick a cheaper one, or the couple buy it themselves. To complain because the MIL didn't want to spend what the DIL wanted her to spend is entitled, in my opinion. Maybe I'm wrong. If it were my MIL, I would have started a dialogue about what she wanted to spend/ how much is acceptable, and worked with that. It could be that MIL doesn't have current info about what these things cost. The DIL could always supplement some of her own money to buy the glider she wants, while still appreciating the gift rather than complaining about things not going exactly her way.


+1. This! I have a dear friend who just had a baby. For her baby shower, I was planning to spend $60-100 on a gift. Most of the things on her registry were well out of my price range. I have since splurged on other items that I don't need. Point is, the glider was more than the MIL was comfortable spending. Either find a cheaper one or buy it yourself. NBD.



I agree, but why wait till the baby is almost here to say that? She's obviously known for sometime that it wasn't in Her price range. The mom to be has other shit to worry about right now. Rude timing.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 16:41     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm fat. My MIL sent me a gift subscription to a running magazine. No, I don't run nor have I ever expressed an interest in running.




Perhaps you can get her a subscription to a magazine for menopausal women?
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 16:34     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Pp here. Accidentally embedded my post in the quote. Damn iphone.


I am the PP to whom you responded. The MIL said she would buy a glider, and said the one that was chosen was too expensive. So, the choices are to pick a cheaper one, or the couple buy it themselves. To complain because the MIL didn't want to spend what the DIL wanted her to spend is entitled, in my opinion. Maybe I'm wrong. If it were my MIL, I would have started a dialogue about what she wanted to spend/ how much is acceptable, and worked with that. It could be that MIL doesn't have current info about what these things cost. The DIL could always supplement some of her own money to buy the glider she wants, while still appreciating the gift rather than complaining about things not going exactly her way.


+1. This! I have a dear friend who just had a baby. For her baby shower, I was planning to spend $60-100 on a gift. Most of the things on her registry were well out of my price range. I have since splurged on other items that I don't need. Point is, the glider was more than the MIL was comfortable spending. Either find a cheaper one or buy it yourself. NBD.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 16:20     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:MIL just doesn't generally acknowledge my presence. For example, it was my first Mother's Day this year and I didn't hear from her. Thought that was a little inconsiderate.


Did you reach out to her? It was Mother's Day for her too.

I think some of you have petty MILs and some of you aren't giving your MILs a fair shake.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 15:31     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'm fat. My MIL sent me a gift subscription to a running magazine. No, I don't run nor have I ever expressed an interest in running.




My SIL basically did this to me, not a running magazine but offered to watch the baby for an hour "so I could go running and start losing the baby weight, men don't like it if you let yourself go". My baby was four weeks old and I had a fourth degree tear and could bearly sit on the couch. Not to mention I peed myself if I sneezed at that point. I went to my room and cried on the phone with my mom. I still kind of hate her.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 15:03     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:I'm fat. My MIL sent me a gift subscription to a running magazine. No, I don't run nor have I ever expressed an interest in running.


Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 14:12     Subject: Re:Rude things your MIL has said
Mine frequently starts sentences with "If you were smart you would..." and then end the sentence with the opposite of my stated intention.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 10:38     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL just doesn't generally acknowledge my presence. For example, it was my first Mother's Day this year and I didn't hear from her. Thought that was a little inconsiderate.


Really? Most people don't call all the mothers they know on Mother's day. They just call their own moms.


Exactly! Why would your MIL be calling YOU on Mother's Day? Your DH should be calling HER.


+1
Did your DH call her? Maybe she feels slighted.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 07:37     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:MIL just doesn't generally acknowledge my presence. For example, it was my first Mother's Day this year and I didn't hear from her. Thought that was a little inconsiderate.


Really? Most people don't call all the mothers they know on Mother's day. They just call their own moms.


Exactly! Why would your MIL be calling YOU on Mother's Day? Your DH should be calling HER.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 02:36     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:MIL just doesn't generally acknowledge my presence. For example, it was my first Mother's Day this year and I didn't hear from her. Thought that was a little inconsiderate.


Really? Most people don't call all the mothers they know on Mother's day. They just call their own moms.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 01:13     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am due with my MILs first grandchild any day now. She has offered since thanksgiving to buy us a glider. She waits until today to tell me the one I picked out was too expensive while in the same breath asking if I think I'll have the baby this weekend because she and FIL want to travel to tysons to go to the Nordstrom sale to "stock up on stuff we don't need."


Why do you care if they stock up on stuff they don't need?


She doesn't. I think you've missed the point that PP was trying to make. Try reading it again and think about the concept of irony as you read it.


She said they want to stock up on stuff they don't need, and her glider was too expensive. Why would she care then if they aren't there for the birth?


Ha, you don't get it and that's funny!


I am so glad I gave you a laugh today!
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 00:54     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I am due with my MILs first grandchild any day now. She has offered since thanksgiving to buy us a glider. She waits until today to tell me the one I picked out was too expensive while in the same breath asking if I think I'll have the baby this weekend because she and FIL want to travel to tysons to go to the Nordstrom sale to "stock up on stuff we don't need."


Why do you care if they stock up on stuff they don't need?


She doesn't. I think you've missed the point that PP was trying to make. Try reading it again and think about the concept of irony as you read it.


She said they want to stock up on stuff they don't need, and her glider was too expensive. Why would she care then if they aren't there for the birth?


Ha, you don't get it and that's funny!
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 00:17     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Anonymous wrote:Pp here. Accidentally embedded my post in the quote. Damn iphone.


I am the PP to whom you responded. The MIL said she would buy a glider, and said the one that was chosen was too expensive. So, the choices are to pick a cheaper one, or the couple buy it themselves. To complain because the MIL didn't want to spend what the DIL wanted her to spend is entitled, in my opinion. Maybe I'm wrong. If it were my MIL, I would have started a dialogue about what she wanted to spend/ how much is acceptable, and worked with that. It could be that MIL doesn't have current info about what these things cost. The DIL could always supplement some of her own money to buy the glider she wants, while still appreciating the gift rather than complaining about things not going exactly her way.
Anonymous
Post 07/19/2015 00:06     Subject: Rude things your MIL has said
Pp here. Accidentally embedded my post in the quote. Damn iphone.