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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought you weren't supposed to send printed announcements for a third child? Maybe not even a second? It's like having an extra shower-- asking for gifts?

Why would you be supposed to only announce the birth of the first child?

According to DCUM you are basically supposed to hide your third "selfish" child away And feel shame for having them.

No, because that doesn't explain why you would not be supposed to announce the birth of the second child.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought you weren't supposed to send printed announcements for a third child? Maybe not even a second? It's like having an extra shower-- asking for gifts?

Why would you be supposed to only announce the birth of the first child?

According to DCUM you are basically supposed to hide your third "selfish" child away And feel shame for having them.

Anonymous wrote:I thought you weren't supposed to send printed announcements for a third child? Maybe not even a second? It's like having an extra shower-- asking for gifts?

Why would you be supposed to only announce the birth of the first child?

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Anonymous wrote:OP- I hear you! Except this exact thing happened with my first! We had a few close friends send cards/gifts but got complete silence from everyone else. Traditionally, announcements were acknowledged with a card or gift, but I think that tradition is dying (and I think people are getting lazy).

It has never even occurred to me to send either a card or a gift in response.

Me neither, unless it's a very close friend or family member in which case I'm sending a gift without a birth announcement.

+1

Oh, I love getting birth announcements! That said if we are close I've already brought you a meal or sent you a gift, if we aren't I always shoot off a text or send you a FB message ~ "BEAUTIFUL announcement! (If it was), if it was super tacky like one we recently received from DH's friend with the baby with football memorabilia staged around the poor newborn I keep my mouth shut) and hang it on my fridge and feel happy for you.

I don't in any way see them as gift grabs, nor do they prompt me to send a gift or a card. I did one for my first, so I did them for all of my kids. I figure that babies make (most, normal) people have a moment of joy for someone else. If they chuck it or hang it for a time, great. I expected absolutely nothing in return.

Nobody cares, OP. That's life. Truly loving and caring relationships are rare and far between.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought you weren't supposed to send printed announcements for a third child? Maybe not even a second? It's like having an extra shower-- asking for gifts?

No, there are no "rules" like that for birth announcements. It is not a request for gifts.

It is.

Anonymous wrote:I thought you weren't supposed to send printed announcements for a third child? Maybe not even a second? It's like having an extra shower-- asking for gifts?

No, there are no "rules" like that for birth announcements. It is not a request for gifts.

I thought you weren't supposed to send printed announcements for a third child? Maybe not even a second? It's like having an extra shower-- asking for gifts?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- I hear you! Except this exact thing happened with my first! We had a few close friends send cards/gifts but got complete silence from everyone else. Traditionally, announcements were acknowledged with a card or gift, but I think that tradition is dying (and I think people are getting lazy).

It has never even occurred to me to send either a card or a gift in response.

Me neither, unless it's a very close friend or family member in which case I'm sending a gift without a birth announcement.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- I hear you! Except this exact thing happened with my first! We had a few close friends send cards/gifts but got complete silence from everyone else. Traditionally, announcements were acknowledged with a card or gift, but I think that tradition is dying (and I think people are getting lazy).

It has never even occurred to me to send either a card or a gift in response.

+1 I just put it on my fridge. If I am close to the person I already know they had a baby by the time the little postcard thing comes. I thought that was just to share pictures with everyone?

If not and you're sending me a piece of paper expecting me to then have to go through of sending you a piece of paper acknowledging your piece of paper then just leave me off your distro list please!

Agreed. If you need attention from me, pick up the phone and call me.

Exactly. People are getting lazy.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- I hear you! Except this exact thing happened with my first! We had a few close friends send cards/gifts but got complete silence from everyone else. Traditionally, announcements were acknowledged with a card or gift, but I think that tradition is dying (and I think people are getting lazy).

It has never even occurred to me to send either a card or a gift in response.

+1 I just put it on my fridge. If I am close to the person I already know they had a baby by the time the little postcard thing comes. I thought that was just to share pictures with everyone?

If not and you're sending me a piece of paper expecting me to then have to go through of sending you a piece of paper acknowledging your piece of paper then just leave me off your distro list please!

Agreed. If you need attention from me, pick up the phone and call me.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- I hear you! Except this exact thing happened with my first! We had a few close friends send cards/gifts but got complete silence from everyone else. Traditionally, announcements were acknowledged with a card or gift, but I think that tradition is dying (and I think people are getting lazy).

It has never even occurred to me to send either a card or a gift in response.

+1 I just put it on my fridge. If I am close to the person I already know they had a baby by the time the little postcard thing comes. I thought that was just to share pictures with everyone?

If not and you're sending me a piece of paper expecting me to then have to go through of sending you a piece of paper acknowledging your piece of paper then just leave me off your distro list please!

Anonymous wrote:OP- I hear you! Except this exact thing happened with my first! We had a few close friends send cards/gifts but got complete silence from everyone else. Traditionally, announcements were acknowledged with a card or gift, but I think that tradition is dying (and I think people are getting lazy).

It has never even occurred to me to send either a card or a gift in response.

OP- I hear you! Except this exact thing happened with my first! We had a few close friends send cards/gifts but got complete silence from everyone else. Traditionally, announcements were acknowledged with a card or gift, but I think that tradition is dying (and I think people are getting lazy).