Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 00:52     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
You sound very unhappy with this guy and from the looks of it, things are not going to get any better.

Since you are stuck on a lease for another nine months, I would try my very best to get a roommate to split the cost of rent.

Regarding the animals, I say you should just keep them. I don't know how courts deal with the logistics of mutual pets when couples separate however.

I feel for you OP and am sorry you are going through this now, nothing sucks more in this life than being with a schmuck and feeling trapped.

I have faith that you will make it however! Keep your chin up.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2015 00:36     Subject: Re:Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Get out NOW no matter what you have to leave behind.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 22:45     Subject: Re:Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Anonymous wrote:stop living with men you date. This is #2 and you already are bouncing between break ups and counseling.


+1

WTH is up with shacking up with these losers?
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 22:44     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This morning, as I was still sleeping and my boyfriend was getting ready for work, he took a shirt off and immediately threw it in my face. He said "that's not mine, it must be your other boyfriend's". Confused, I say "excuse me?" and follow him out our bedroom door. "I say are you serious?" and he says I guess so and leaves.

We've been living together for three months, and no I've never had another guy over or been with anyone else while we were dating.

However, I lived with someone before we started dating, and the man has left behind socks and that shirt very well could've been left behind as well. That happens, I get i should've thrown it out but once my current boyfriend started staying over he left his own white shirts everywhere so when we started packing to move in together I assume it was mixed in with both our things (assuming it was current bf's).

I am constantly feeling like i'm being disrespected. Just last night we went out together (apps, dinner, drinks) and he more or less ignored me the whole time, staring off at everything and everyone but me. When we got home he went straight to bed.

He apologized, because I told him i'm sick of his disrespect and won't tolerate it anymore and told him he is making me feel like he wants me to break up with him.
However, he apologized for throwing the shirt NEAR my face, when he threw it at it.

I want to break up with him. So badly. But we have a lease that ends in April, a cat and a dog together.

Am I right in feeling this way?


Mistake #1 was intertwining yourself with him financially. That's over and done.

Don't make mistake #2, which would be staying with him for financial reasons. If you want to break up with him badly, then break up with him. If you take a financial hit, learn from that and don't get yourself in that position again.


+1m
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 22:34     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Anonymous wrote:This thread would be so much mroe interesting if OP's bf threw shit at her face. As in feces.


Would skidded underwear count? It should since she would still be at risk for pink eye.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 21:42     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
This thread would be so much mroe interesting if OP's bf threw shit at her face. As in feces.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 20:39     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Honestly, I wouldn't move in with someone whom I met for 3 months for fear of such attitudes surfacing and yoU have nowhere to run. If he is a bad ass, move out now. No point investing in the guy who treats you with disrespect.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 20:34     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
OP I was 25 once and I had terrible relationships. never moved in with anyone..but I can see how that can easily happen. I am happily married now with a great husband and three kids. I remember talking to my friends about relationship problems and perhaps going to therapy and they would always be stunned and say it's not worth it!

Are you attractive? unfortunately that is the biggest deal at this age. After that it's your personality and of course life values. I highly recommend individual counseling to get yourself together. I can't comment on who is right or wrong in your relationship but the relationship itself sounds wrong. Get out and deal with yourself for awhile.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 19:22     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't jump on the OP for living with these guys, she was with them at least a year, which is enough time. I know someone that moved in with a guy 3 months after dating, they are still together (not engaged/married), but still together years later.


And, this applies to the OP how? She's 25 and about to leave her 2nd bad live-in relationship. Let's cut to the chase. OP is making poor choices, and the fact that your sample of one turned out OK is irrelevant to the OP's situation.


It matters because she isn't rushing to live with a guy she is dating. I was using it as a comparison point to someone I know.


Except, it sounds like she is since she's three months into #2 and on the verge of counseling. That suggests to me she rushed into this too soon.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 19:20     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't jump on the OP for living with these guys, she was with them at least a year, which is enough time. I know someone that moved in with a guy 3 months after dating, they are still together (not engaged/married), but still together years later.


And, this applies to the OP how? She's 25 and about to leave her 2nd bad live-in relationship. Let's cut to the chase. OP is making poor choices, and the fact that your sample of one turned out OK is irrelevant to the OP's situation.


It matters because she isn't rushing to live with a guy she is dating. I was using it as a comparison point to someone I know.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 18:26     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't jump on the OP for living with these guys, she was with them at least a year, which is enough time. I know someone that moved in with a guy 3 months after dating, they are still together (not engaged/married), but still together years later.


And, this applies to the OP how? She's 25 and about to leave her 2nd bad live-in relationship. Let's cut to the chase. OP is making poor choices, and the fact that your sample of one turned out OK is irrelevant to the OP's situation.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 17:38     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't jump on the OP for living with these guys, she was with them at least a year, which is enough time. I know someone that moved in with a guy 3 months after dating, they are still together (not engaged/married), but still together years later.


The first guy was a drug addict, and this one appears to be an abuser. It seems like her ability to detect whether a relationship is healthy and should move forward is broken.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 17:34     Subject: Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
I wouldn't jump on the OP for living with these guys, she was with them at least a year, which is enough time. I know someone that moved in with a guy 3 months after dating, they are still together (not engaged/married), but still together years later.
Anonymous
Post 07/13/2015 16:41     Subject: Re:Boyfriend threw shirt in my face
stop living with men you date. This is #2 and you already are bouncing between break ups and counseling.