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Anonymous wrote:OP here.

My mother is toxic and has been for years. Some days she is more human than others. So no, this isn't a case of me overreacting, it was more of the last straw this week.

We never stormed out. We left calmly And, the fact she knew it was about the previous morning proves she knows she was hateful and expects me to just put up with it.

And again. 240 calories, people. My husband was running with the car keys or I'd have had other options, but we were nearing the end and groceries were scarce (I'd have preferred eggs myself).

Don't be so literal. You left the house and changed your plans because your mother called you fat (which you are).

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

My mother is toxic and has been for years. Some days she is more human than others. So no, this isn't a case of me overreacting, it was more of the last straw this week.

We never stormed out. We left calmly And, the fact she knew it was about the previous morning proves she knows she was hateful and expects me to just put up with it.

And again. 240 calories, people. My husband was running with the car keys or I'd have had other options, but we were nearing the end and groceries were scarce (I'd have preferred eggs myself).

Don't be so literal. You left the house and changed your plans because your mother called you fat (which you are).

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

My mother is toxic and has been for years. Some days she is more human than others. So no, this isn't a case of me overreacting, it was more of the last straw this week.

We never stormed out. We left calmly And, the fact she knew it was about the previous morning proves she knows she was hateful and expects me to just put up with it.

And again. 240 calories, people. My husband was running with the car keys or I'd have had other options, but we were nearing the end and groceries were scarce (I'd have preferred eggs myself).

Anonymous wrote:We left. She called me a selfish bitch and said I was ruining things for everyone else.

And to the waffle police: 3 Vans waffles have 240 calories and 45 grams of carbs. I admit the carbs are really high, but it's what was around and 240 calories for breakfast won't kill anyone.

Anonymous wrote:PP here..I now read all comments and see that the OP left the house.

I think OP's reaction (after consulting all the overly sensitive DCUMers) was way over the top and OP has ruined the vacation for everyone.

Why does no one see that OP's mother/the Grandmother was probably under a lot of stress being the host to a lot of children and grandchildren? of course she was a bit rude, but OP should have called her out on it right then and there and the whole thing would have been over and done.

also, it is silly that people are recommending that OP should have gotten her husband involved. this is a mother-daughter issue and OP's DH should stay far away.

Anonymous wrote:I agree the mother is rude but not eating for 12 hrs when nursing is not ok, and 3 waffles at once is too much for anyone but a training athlete.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow what an overreaction.

Who do you mean? OP or her mom?

well, mother was rude and overreacted in her own way, but leaving vacation because of that? i don't get it. i always thought these scene in american movies where people storm out of the room felt fake but i guess you people really do act like that. everyone is so sensitive.

PP, who notes that 'everyone is so sensitive': I am inferring that you have never had a parent or a partner/spouse call you fat or selfish or make a hurtful judgmental statement from which no good could possibly come....I am also inferring that you have what we might call a 'normal' relationship with your parents and significant others -- insofar as normal means avoiding deliberately hurtful comments or actions. I am happy for you.

Those who have grown up with other circumstances and who've not had support from parents or others can perhaps more easily understand why someone would leave (whether 'storming' or 'walking') a toxic situation.

As someone who is currently 'vacationing' with my parents, who have called me every name under the sun and consistently criticized my weight (this in spite of the fact that I was hospitalized four times for eating disorders as a late teen -- many of the comments and prods to 'go back on a diet' were after I had finally put anorexia behind me), I have three words for OP: good. for. you. PP, it's not everyone being 'sensitive'; it's an individual starting to take steps towards self efficacy and self preservation.