And to the point that you accommodates them- their change of plans benefitted you by making your portion of the rental cheaper. It's easy to accommodate that switch. Your switch puts them out ~$1000+. Much tougher to swallow especially only 2 weeks out when they probably budgeted other summer plans accordingly. Don't do that to your friends. I would go and make the best of it but if you're unwilling, that burden shouldn't be theirs to carry financially. It's your choice.

I cannot imagine DH's response if somebody implied they wanted a refund in this situation.


Just go and make the best of it - if you choose not to go, I would not ask for a refund. Just because you cannot make it, doesn't make it their problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Do the other families a favor and don't go. I can't imagine a more miserable person to spend vacation with than OP. If she goes, she'll just complain the whole time and act like it the worst thing ever.

And yet I have friends that I go with every year.

You probably vacation alone because they can't stand your judgmental attitude and accusatory tone. You must be a scream to live with.

OP you asked for advice and what people thought was fair. They disagreed with you and now you are attacking them. In the end it only matters what your friends think not DCUM. Stop being so defensive and also dramatic. I'm sorry about your son's broken arm. But I'm guessing i will heal and the most loss you will endure is 1/3 of a house for a week in Florida.

A six year old is old enough to enjoy wading and splashing in the surf without soaking her cast. She can also play games, explore the beach, build sand castles, go for nature walks, etc. If it is Florida surely there is some sort of cheap boardwalk touristy kind of area nearby.

This! I have a six-year-old and an 11-year-old. We have been to the Jersey shore three weekends in a row. The water is still too cold to really get in above the waist but they have had a fantastic time anyway.

Tell them you can't go. If they can refund they might but don't bring it up.

You totally still could go but like someone else said your attitude about it is so crappy you shouldn't bother.

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Then teach your child to enjoy the nature! WTF? Is it so difficult to hang out with your kid for the week? Go for walks, wade in, look for sea glass, set up an umbrella and play games. The possibilities are endless.

The possibilities are NOT endless. If you have to fill 8 hours with a 6 year old in 100 degree heat. If you've been there you'd know that walks on a beach under a burning sun in 95+ degrees are not fun. Staying in the house defeats the purpose of traveling.

And I'm not going to put myself in a position where I have to entertain a kid all day every day for a week - make up activities and games to fill time. I have a life too, you know.

So the only possibility is if the child can be in the water. I'll order a waterproof cover and wait and see what the doctor will tell us.

Have you been to the beach with young kids? If most of the kids are under 6, you aren't going to spend 8 hours on the beach. I would plan for a max of 2 -3 hours at a time. The first couple of days plan to be only at the beach and the pool but subsequent days realize that some of the kids will tire of both and you will need to find something else to do anyway. Options are usually mini golf, local amusement park, water park if there is one in the area, game room if your are staying in a hotel, playground if you are lucky enough to be near one, bike riding, movie (if you really desperate)

The waterproof cast covers work well. Also, the cast won't degrade if it gets wet (well unless it gets sopping wet over and over ) but it can get itchy and smelly. If it gets wet, you can always try drying it with a hair dryer on a low setting.

Lastly, if you really don't want to go, find a family to take your place.

I'm reading this as OP is pissed the kid broke his arm and wants to punish HIM. She clearly expected to enjoy a week at the beach with zero responsibility while her friends watched over her 6 y/o all day long as he plays in the water.

The fact that she still won't see a waterproof cast as a solution proves that she either doesn't want to go or wants to punish someone (most likely DC since she doesn't mention feeling like someone else, i.e. DH, should have prevented the arm break) for "ruining" her trip.

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Anonymous wrote:
Then teach your child to enjoy the nature! WTF? Is it so difficult to hang out with your kid for the week? Go for walks, wade in, look for sea glass, set up an umbrella and play games. The possibilities are endless.

The possibilities are NOT endless. If you have to fill 8 hours with a 6 year old in 100 degree heat. If you've been there you'd know that walks on a beach under a burning sun in 95+ degrees are not fun. Staying in the house defeats the purpose of traveling.

And I'm not going to put myself in a position where I have to entertain a kid all day every day for a week - make up activities and games to fill time. I have a life too, you know.

So the only possibility is if the child can be in the water. I'll order a waterproof cover and wait and see what the doctor will tell us.

Well, as the responses are showing you, this is an optional cancellation, not a true emergency. Because you are electing to avoid going rather than having an actual emergency that bars you from going, there is no way that you should ask for a refund or ask the other families to cover the costs because you don't want to be bothered to find alternative ways to entertain your child. Frankly, if I was one of the other families and you asked for a refund, not only would I not cover for you, but I would probably not want to include you on vacation plans in the future as you seem like a difficult person to deal with.

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Take your child to the beach. He can wade in the shallow water, collect seashells, watch for dolphins, read. He can eat ice cream, shop for trinkets, play mini-golf one-handed, and go to the movies.

It's not an emergency. It is a PITA, but not an emergency.

Don't arrange trips with other people if determining exactly "what's fair" is important to you.

You will only be unhappy or preoccupied with the wrong thing. Best you can do is hope you choose your friends well. that they are reasonable people and would generally do the right thing (be in agreement of the right thing)

Your recourse: you get to choose you who to vacation with - certainly next year.

OP is you can't handle the answers you get here, don't ask the question. Grow some balls.

Anonymous wrote:Do the other families a favor and don't go. I can't imagine a more miserable person to spend vacation with than OP. If she goes, she'll just complain the whole time and act like it the worst thing ever.

This. You sound awful, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Do the other families a favor and don't go. I can't imagine a more miserable person to spend vacation with than OP. If she goes, she'll just complain the whole time and act like it the worst thing ever.

And yet I have friends that I go with every year.

You probably vacation alone because they can't stand your judgmental attitude and accusatory tone. You must be a scream to live with.

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Anonymous wrote:. Frankly, if I was one of the other families and you asked for a refund, not only would I not cover for you, but I would probably not want to include you on vacation plans in the future as you seem like a difficult person to deal with.

Can you contain yourself and not make personal insults and labels? It's just a discussion.

Hopefully, my friends are more understanding than you. When the other family decided to join us we could have said "no" too. Because we already booked a house and it's a little tight for so many people. We could have said they were "difficult" because twice before they said they would not be going. But yet we agreed. Because this is what friends do for each other. And because things happen.

so talk to your friends - maybe they'll refund your money

Do the other families a favor and don't go. I can't imagine a more miserable person to spend vacation with than OP. If she goes, she'll just complain the whole time and act like it the worst thing ever.

Clearly you're not going to enjoy it, so don't go, but don't ask for a refund.