Anonymous wrote:It is illegal to discriminate in employment based on gender, which is what OP is suggesting doing.

Not even close, she isn't suggesting she shouldn't hire a female nanny.

Anonymous wrote:I don't have the time or desire to wage through the pages and pages of insecure scorned women who invariable have been posting screeching of the dangers of a fox in the hen house.

However, we currently have a beautiful French AuPair who lives with us. I'm not losing sleep.

How convenient.

It is illegal to discriminate in employment based on gender, which is what OP is suggesting doing.

DH here - not sure which way I'd want to go. On the one hand, having a pretty young thing around all the time might exacerbate my wife's body-image issues, making sex less likely. On the other hand, if the PYT showed interest in me (even that faux-waitress-looking-for-a-tip interest) might spark some competitive spirit in my wife, making sex more likely.

I would not. Men can be weak, and why invite trouble to come live with you?

I don't have the time or desire to wage through the pages and pages of insecure scorned women who invariable have been posting screeching of the dangers of a fox in the hen house.

However, we currently have a beautiful French AuPair who lives with us. I'm not losing sleep.

Nope. And not because I think DH would cheat, but because I think it would make him want to and I'd be compared to her. Also, I always think it's a red flag when people don't dress professionally.

If you absolutely think your children would thrive under her care, I would consider the hire. However, I would very closely check her references, at least 4-5, via phone calls as I would be a little suspicious of someone that attractive and young settling into a nanny position. My hunch would be that she either slacked off somewhere along the line or is dealing with other struggles in her life and neither would be a good fit for your family.

Honestly, no I wouldn't.

Anonymous wrote:I don't think I'd be comfortable with a young, hot nanny. My husband works at home. Yikes!

Based on my experience, I don't think you should be comfortable with an older, not so hot nanny, either.

Either get him out of the house, or get yourself a home office, as well.

I don't think I'd be comfortable with a young, hot nanny. My husband works at home. Yikes!

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Anonymous wrote:I once worked with a lady who was a former nanny. The parents divorced and she married the father of the kids.

Men can develop feelings for (non-familial) women who look after their kids.... don't hire her.

Nanny here. I will never again interview with a family if the father works out of a home office, and is home all the time.

It's a very weird thing to have him watch you love and care for his baby... the way the wife "typically" would, IF she were there?
He eventually started to make passes at me, so I left them. I don't think the mother was ever concerned that her husband was "that" type of guy. I still feel horrible about leaving that child.

I don't understand why mothers do this kind of setup. Don't people understand how different things are in the man's own home, when his wife is far away? Complete privacy with the nanny/au pair while kid is napping.

The nanny here again. I should probably mention, I'm older, so definitely not some hot little thing. Also, I dress super conservatively for my work.

From these posts it sounds like having a very sexually attractive nanny there in the home could be uncomfortable for the DH as well as for the DW, even if nothing would ever actually happen. Sadly the pool of potential employers for the extremely attractive nanny may be limited based on her looks, even though she is probably an excellent nanny. She may want to consider other types of employment where her attractiveness would be an asset rather than a liability.

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Anonymous wrote:Fu&k no! Are you kidding me? DH is a man and that's just way too much temptation. Sorry but the nanny should be ugly compared to you.

I doubt that a cute, young nanny with a serious boyfriend is dying to jump into bed with some middle-aged dude with a Dad body. Y'all seriously overestimate the appeal of your husbands.

Older, well off men are attractive to some younger women. Can think of three or four divorces I have personal knowledge of where husband cheated with au pair or nanny, one even married her.

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Anonymous wrote:I once worked with a lady who was a former nanny. The parents divorced and she married the father of the kids.

Men can develop feelings for (non-familial) women who look after their kids.... don't hire her.

Nanny here. I will never again interview with a family if the father works out of a home office, and is home all the time.

It's a very weird thing to have him watch you love and care for his baby... the way the wife "typically" would, IF she were there?
He eventually started to make passes at me, so I left them. I don't think the mother was ever concerned that her husband was "that" type of guy. I still feel horrible about leaving that child.

I don't understand why mothers do this kind of setup. Don't people understand how different things are in the man's own home, when his wife is far away? Complete privacy with the nanny/au pair while kid is napping.

Do none of you trust your husbands?

You seem not to understand. Sorry.