How come nobody values the work ethic for their kids by having them get a job when they're 16?

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Anonymous wrote:My experience. The Ivy League grads had good but not the top jobs in the several places I've worked. The state school or similar with driven personalities and good people skills had the very top jobs and almost always the CEO job. True in my own family. I'm a reasonably successful now SAHM from top schools, my husband went to a school no one has heard of, no grad school, is very smart in his own way and personable and makes 1.5m a year. Go figure.

Well, a saying that the B and C students say. If you actually look at the numbers, ivy or similar level degrees correlate strongly with organization ownership and senior leadership. It's just that there are so many more people who went to the big state schools and similar institutions.

Not everybody's definition of success involves organization ownership or senior leadership.

Anonymous wrote:My experience. The Ivy League grads had good but not the top jobs in the several places I've worked. The state school or similar with driven personalities and good people skills had the very top jobs and almost always the CEO job. True in my own family. I'm a reasonably successful now SAHM from top schools, my husband went to a school no one has heard of, no grad school, is very smart in his own way and personable and makes 1.5m a year. Go figure.

Well, a saying that the B and C students say. If you actually look at the numbers, ivy or similar level degrees correlate strongly with organization ownership and senior leadership. It's just that there are so many more people who went to the big state schools and similar institutions.

1. Avoid talking about children/parenting issues as much as possible with this person

2. If you're asked what you did over the weekend and you say "sports event", just say it was fun etc. and then immediately inquire about your friend's family's interest without skipping a beat. It will give her the opportunity to talk about her kids accomplishments etc. Show interest in them.

3. She's obviously insecure/defensive about her approach - this will be disarming and she will have the opportunity to "brag" about what they're doing etc.

It's not about you - it's about her.

Good luck.

"Oxygen comes first in our family. Then water. Then food. Then shelter. After that, we try to strike a balance."

Ridiculous. The dads I know, including my Dh, are quite successful and fit- play tennis, golf, work out with a train we, eat well, etc. as are their wives and children. It's a certain demographic I guess but I'm not going to apologize for it and yes our kids attend a top private school, play competitive level sports, play violin and one is a great artist and one is in all the musicals , above average students.