Anonymous
04/30/2015 21:13
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Really? You approve of a mother beating her son? I understand why she did, given the context, but I abhor it. The son is engaging in violence so she...treats him with violence. And the cycle goes on. If this child had been a white boy from Bethesda and his mom was caught on tape beating him on the street she would be charged with abuse. But a black boy in the middle of a protest and everyone claps. Its bizarre. You can find hundreds of pages of threads on DCUM arguing about whether spanking is right, but all seem to agree that it should stop, if it is ever right at all, once the child can be reasoned with. I think the subtext to the approval of the beating of this boy is that because he is a poor black boy in West Baltimore he can't be reasoned with, can't be treated like other teens.
Did you watch the video? I wouldn't call that a beating. I'm white, middle class and was spanked as a child. Not often, but there were a few times and I'm sure it was warranted. Guess what? I'm a normal and productive member of society.
Fwiw....I'd feel exactly the same if this happened to a "white boy from Bethesda".
If a teacher did that to your child, you would call it a beating.
What an absurd comment. She isn't his teacher, she is his mother. As Jeff pointed out, she did what she felt was necessary at that moment and in that situation.
Agree
Anonymous
04/30/2015 21:12
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.
Is it mostly White people who do not get this?
This white woman gets it. She was doing what she needed to do to get her kid out of a potential deadly situation. I think it is easy for people to judge. I can tell you that if that were my son, he would have gotten the same (if not worse) treatment. And, I am not a proponent of spanking or hitting.
This white woman gets it too. My parents disciplined with spanking and the occasional belt when were real bad. We stopped what we were doing and learned very quickly. This in comparison to a good friend of mine who reasons with her child and now that child is an absolute monster that needs a whack on her head. FWIW, I have NEVER hit my child. She has never given me a reason to. And you better believe if she does something stupid like throw rocks at police or damage property, I am not going to it her down and discuss it with her - she will deserve what she gets from me.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 21:05
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Did anyone notice the 16 year old was much bigger than her? She did her job as a mom to get him out of there. More parents need to follow her lead.
Exactly. That Mama did good. Consistency is key, but better late than never.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 21:02
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Did anyone notice the 16 year old was much bigger than her? She did her job as a mom to get him out of there. More parents need to follow her lead.
Not only that but he did not hit her. And in interviews he was very complimentary of his mother. She apparently has earned his respect and that means a lot to me.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 20:33
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Did anyone notice the 16 year old was much bigger than her? She did her job as a mom to get him out of there. More parents need to follow her lead.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 20:30
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think she did what she had to do in the moment to protect her son. I do not think of it as violence. I imagine she was terrifird and wsnted to knock sense into her son. Should she have hugged it out, put him in time out, counted one two three...
Yeah, what what she going to do? "Come over here and let's sit and talk." No. She wanted to get him out of there. And she did. This was not a "beating." I'm not so sure she needed to smack him in the head but hey, it got him out of there. His actions unleashed mama bear.. I wish we could have seen his face when he saw her. "OH F##K... MOM WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE??"
She slapped him upside the head. If that's not "smacking the sense into someone" I don't know what is. I'm a white lady. I don't spank. But if my kid were in the middle of a riot, doing something idiotic that might get him hurt or killed, I would totally slaps some sense into him. He's not a toddler that she can just pick up and take with her kicking and screaming. She had to get him to come along. She did. You think you could do better? Hah.
+1
Anonymous
04/30/2015 19:55
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.
Is it mostly White people who do not get this?
Uh, no . LOTS of white people get this. (I'd say MOST white people get this. IT's just the "hitting is never okay" people who don't. They'd probably allow someone to beat them and never hit back.)
Anonymous
04/30/2015 19:54
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think she did what she had to do in the moment to protect her son. I do not think of it as violence. I imagine she was terrifird and wsnted to knock sense into her son. Should she have hugged it out, put him in time out, counted one two three...
Yeah, what what she going to do? "Come over here and let's sit and talk." No. She wanted to get him out of there. And she did. This was not a "beating." I'm not so sure she needed to smack him in the head but hey, it got him out of there. His actions unleashed mama bear.. I wish we could have seen his face when he saw her. "OH F##K... MOM WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE??"
She slapped him upside the head. If that's not "smacking the sense into someone" I don't know what is. I'm a white lady. I don't spank. But if my kid were in the middle of a riot, doing something idiotic that might get him hurt or killed, I would totally slaps some sense into him. He's not a toddler that she can just pick up and take with her kicking and screaming. She had to get him to come along. She did. You think you could do better? Hah.
I'm the PP above, didn't mean to respond as if I were disagreeing with you. I totally agree with you. Just was saying "and another thing" basically.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 19:53
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I think she did what she had to do in the moment to protect her son. I do not think of it as violence. I imagine she was terrifird and wsnted to knock sense into her son. Should she have hugged it out, put him in time out, counted one two three...
Yeah, what what she going to do? "Come over here and let's sit and talk." No. She wanted to get him out of there. And she did. This was not a "beating." I'm not so sure she needed to smack him in the head but hey, it got him out of there. His actions unleashed mama bear.. I wish we could have seen his face when he saw her. "OH F##K... MOM WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE??"
She slapped him upside the head. If that's not "smacking the sense into someone" I don't know what is. I'm a white lady. I don't spank. But if my kid were in the middle of a riot, doing something idiotic that might get him hurt or killed, I would totally slaps some sense into him. He's not a toddler that she can just pick up and take with her kicking and screaming. She had to get him to come along. She did. You think you could do better? Hah.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 19:52
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
He's basically a grown man. I guarantee he's taken worse beatings in the streets.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 19:51
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
^^ I'm white and completely support her. I'm not saying more people need to give their kids a smack because that starts a whole new 567 page debate.. but more people need to take action when their kids are acting like complete morons.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 19:49
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:I think she did what she had to do in the moment to protect her son. I do not think of it as violence. I imagine she was terrifird and wsnted to knock sense into her son. Should she have hugged it out, put him in time out, counted one two three...
Yeah, what what she going to do? "Come over here and let's sit and talk." No. She wanted to get him out of there. And she did. This was not a "beating." I'm not so sure she needed to smack him in the head but hey, it got him out of there. His actions unleashed mama bear.. I wish we could have seen his face when he saw her. "OH F##K... MOM WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE??"
Anonymous
04/30/2015 18:40
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.
Is it mostly White people who do not get this?
So Italians are not white?
My entire family supported her.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 18:39
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:This didn't take long. I fully support this mother and how she handled her son. I'd hardly say she beat him or that this was abuse.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/posteverything/wp/2015/04/29/why-is-america-celebrating-the-beating-of-a-black-child/
I personally applaud her as a mother being so outraged by what her son was about to do however there is no mistaking the back but she definitely beat her son
That is not beating. He's 16. She needed his attention and that is all that worked.
Anonymous
04/30/2015 18:38
Subject: Mom that "beat" son in Baltimore riots now
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I am Asian. I fully support how this mom was parenting her son. Sometimes tough love is required and she gave that tough love to him. She did this out of concern for his safety and morality.
Is it mostly White people who do not get this?
This white woman gets it. She was doing what she needed to do to get her kid out of a potential deadly situation. I think it is easy for people to judge. I can tell you that if that were my son, he would have gotten the same (if not worse) treatment. And, I am not a proponent of spanking or hitting.
The kid is 16, not 6. Its a very different situation and its not spanking. She got her kid to move and get back home. She did well. I don't care if she had to physically drag him, scream, threaten... at that point he wasn't in a safe situation and she did what she had to do to get him out. (I'm white too).