Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just need to vent...

Why are playdates so annoying? I feel like I'm always arranging playdates for my kids, but its rarely reciprocated. I don't want to hear "we're busy" because I'm busy, too. I work and my kids have activities 6 out of 7 days a week. We have a lot going on all of the time, but I manage to find pockets of time for playdates.

Then, I scheduled a playdate and specifically told the parent that they needed to pick at a 4pm because we had a violin lesson at 4:30. The playdate started at 1:30, so it was plenty of time for the kids to play. The parent shows up late. WTF... complete disregard for my schedule. And to top it off the playdate comes over at 1:30 and asks "what's for lunch." My DD says that she already ate lunch. She said she didn't eat lunch yet and her dad was going to "kill her if she didn't eat lunch here." We gave her a sandwich, but who sends a kid over to someone else's house at 1:30 without feeding them first?

And, on the flip, my DD goes to her friends house for a playdate which her mom scheduled from 11am to 2pm. I assumed they would feed my DD lunch, since that is the typical time for lunch. Nope. I should never assume anything. My DD came home cranky and starving. She had a popsicle in all of 3 hours. Next time I will surely ask if lunch will be offered otherwise I will need to pick up.

Its just all of these inconsiderate parents that make playdates so annoying!! I'm so sick of it. I will be taking a break from hosting playdates for awhile.

I don't even care that much that I am always hosting because at least I am monitoring what my kids are doing and who they are hanging out with. And I know where they are. But it would be nice for my kids to get invited sometimes, too.

So annoying!!!

Im already seeing some of this too. We have hosted every single play date. The parents seems happy to drop their kids off, they always tell us the kids have fun, we run into kids and they always ask to come over and play. But never has anyone reciprocated.

Anonymous wrote:I just need to vent...

Why are playdates so annoying? I feel like I'm always arranging playdates for my kids, but its rarely reciprocated. I don't want to hear "we're busy" because I'm busy, too. I work and my kids have activities 6 out of 7 days a week. We have a lot going on all of the time, but I manage to find pockets of time for playdates.

Then, I scheduled a playdate and specifically told the parent that they needed to pick at a 4pm because we had a violin lesson at 4:30. The playdate started at 1:30, so it was plenty of time for the kids to play. The parent shows up late. WTF... complete disregard for my schedule. And to top it off the playdate comes over at 1:30 and asks "what's for lunch." My DD says that she already ate lunch. She said she didn't eat lunch yet and her dad was going to "kill her if she didn't eat lunch here." We gave her a sandwich, but who sends a kid over to someone else's house at 1:30 without feeding them first?

And, on the flip, my DD goes to her friends house for a playdate which her mom scheduled from 11am to 2pm. I assumed they would feed my DD lunch, since that is the typical time for lunch. Nope. I should never assume anything. My DD came home cranky and starving. She had a popsicle in all of 3 hours. Next time I will surely ask if lunch will be offered otherwise I will need to pick up.

Its just all of these inconsiderate parents that make playdates so annoying!! I'm so sick of it. I will be taking a break from hosting playdates for awhile.

I don't even care that much that I am always hosting because at least I am monitoring what my kids are doing and who they are hanging out with. And I know where they are. But it would be nice for my kids to get invited sometimes, too.

So annoying!!!

Anonymous wrote:

I would never ASSUME that a playdate would include lunch. I would pack a lunch to send with my child and then him or her eat it at the friend's home when the friend eats their lunch.

I think it is highly RUDE of a parent to pick up their child later than agreed upon. That would be the end of that person's playdates.

And yes, it is inconsiderate to never host a playdate, however perhaps the other child's home is not clean, large enough, not safe, etc.

You just never ever know.


I would think it was pretty weird if a child shows up at my house for a scheduled play date with a lunch in a lunch box. I mean, please. I can feed the kids lunch if the scheduled time includes the lunch hour.

Eh, I'm happy to feed kids that come for play dates, but if a kid is a really picky eater, then I'd rather the parent send a lunch then me have to keep asking to find one of the few things a kid might actually eat. It's fine.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would never ASSUME that a playdate would include lunch. I would pack a lunch to send with my child and then him or her eat it at the friend's home when the friend eats their lunch.

I think it is highly RUDE of a parent to pick up their child later than agreed upon. That would be the end of that person's playdates.

And yes, it is inconsiderate to never host a playdate, however perhaps the other child's home is not clean, large enough, not safe, etc.

You just never ever know.

I would think it was pretty weird if a child shows up at my house for a scheduled play date with a lunch in a lunch box. I mean, please. I can feed the kids lunch if the scheduled time includes the lunch hour.