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Anonymous wrote:Looks like the MD route may not be the best fit for me. Definitely upsetting. I have been applying to a few nonclinical positions at hospitals, so we'll see how it goes.

How about becoming a PA?

Education and training are a fraction of what is required to become a surgeon.

Hospital administration may not be bad if you already have a business background.

PA could be a possibility as long as I am able to accumulate at least 1,000 observation hours of patient care. I am contacting someone who is in a similar situation tomorrow. Granted, she's five years younger, but any piece of advice helps.

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Anonymous wrote:Looks like the MD route may not be the best fit for me. Definitely upsetting. I have been applying to a few nonclinical positions at hospitals, so we'll see how it goes.

How about becoming a PA?

Education and training are a fraction of what is required to become a surgeon.

Hospital administration may not be bad if you already have a business background.

Anonymous wrote:Looks like the MD route may not be the best fit for me. Definitely upsetting. I have been applying to a few nonclinical positions at hospitals, so we'll see how it goes.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also married to doctor, he did a surgical residency than a two year fellowship. Unlike pp dr's wife, I'd encourage you to follow your dream. yes, it was be an hour intensive (but no where close to what it was like before the mandated hours restrictions for residency), but I have seen my husband's peers who are women and younger residents and fellows complete their training and have children. Once the training is complete, many of the woman surgeons and medical doctors I know are able to work p/t schedules that I'm completely envious of, and can't think of a single other professional occupation which comes close in terms of flexibility. Go for it!

Perhaps you are referring to me when you refer to the pp dr's wife. We know plenty of female surgeons. Best case scenario, OP will finish med school at 35 and will start residency then. You don't know what you are talking about if you think OP will be able to have kids during surgical residency.

Ok, I'll be sure to tell that to my friends that had kids during their surgical,residency.

PP here. It was hard enough having DH be a surgical resident while I gave birth to our first child while he was a resident. I could not imagine being the mother giving birth and taking care of a baby during surgical residency. I am not saying it is impossible. of course it is possible. I have met female surgeons who send their babies to live with the grandparents. My best friend's parents are surgeons. She has bad memories of her childhood when her parents would leave her with her grandparents. She has a lot of issues with that as an adult. Her younger sister, currently a surgical resident and engaged to a fellow surgeon, was born after residency and does not harbor the same ill feelings towards their parents. Also know many female ortho surgeons who graduated med school in their 20's, finished training in their early-mid 30's and had babies then. OP's timeline is off for childbearing.

Anonymous wrote:Looks like the MD route may not be the best fit for me. Definitely upsetting. I have been applying to a few nonclinical positions at hospitals, so we'll see how it goes.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also married to doctor, he did a surgical residency than a two year fellowship. Unlike pp dr's wife, I'd encourage you to follow your dream. yes, it was be an hour intensive (but no where close to what it was like before the mandated hours restrictions for residency), but I have seen my husband's peers who are women and younger residents and fellows complete their training and have children. Once the training is complete, many of the woman surgeons and medical doctors I know are able to work p/t schedules that I'm completely envious of, and can't think of a single other professional occupation which comes close in terms of flexibility. Go for it!

Perhaps you are referring to me when you refer to the pp dr's wife. We know plenty of female surgeons. Best case scenario, OP will finish med school at 35 and will start residency then. You don't know what you are talking about if you think OP will be able to have kids during surgical residency.

Ok, I'll be sure to tell that to my friends that had kids during their surgical,residency.

NP here, yes I am a female physician in a surgical sub specialty and had a child at the mid-point of my residency. Having local family and a flexible nanny were key parts of making this work.

OP here, did you go to med school after undergrad or a few years later? From what I've read here, I'd have to have a kid during med school if I want to accomplish it by 35.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also married to doctor, he did a surgical residency than a two year fellowship. Unlike pp dr's wife, I'd encourage you to follow your dream. yes, it was be an hour intensive (but no where close to what it was like before the mandated hours restrictions for residency), but I have seen my husband's peers who are women and younger residents and fellows complete their training and have children. Once the training is complete, many of the woman surgeons and medical doctors I know are able to work p/t schedules that I'm completely envious of, and can't think of a single other professional occupation which comes close in terms of flexibility. Go for it!

Perhaps you are referring to me when you refer to the pp dr's wife. We know plenty of female surgeons. Best case scenario, OP will finish med school at 35 and will start residency then. You don't know what you are talking about if you think OP will be able to have kids during surgical residency.

Ok, I'll be sure to tell that to my friends that had kids during their surgical,residency.

PP here. It was hard enough having DH be a surgical resident while I gave birth to our first child while he was a resident. I could not imagine being the mother giving birth and taking care of a baby during surgical residency. I am not saying it is impossible. of course it is possible. I have met female surgeons who send their babies to live with the grandparents. My best friend's parents are surgeons. She has bad memories of her childhood when her parents would leave her with her grandparents. She has a lot of issues with that as an adult. Her younger sister, currently a surgical resident and engaged to a fellow surgeon, was born after residency and does not harbor the same ill feelings towards their parents. Also know many female ortho surgeons who graduated med school in their 20's, finished training in their early-mid 30's and had babies then. OP's timeline is off for childbearing.

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I am also married to doctor, he did a surgical residency than a two year fellowship. Unlike pp dr's wife, I'd encourage you to follow your dream. yes, it was be an hour intensive (but no where close to what it was like before the mandated hours restrictions for residency), but I have seen my husband's peers who are women and younger residents and fellows complete their training and have children. Once the training is complete, many of the woman surgeons and medical doctors I know are able to work p/t schedules that I'm completely envious of, and can't think of a single other professional occupation which comes close in terms of flexibility. Go for it!

Perhaps you are referring to me when you refer to the pp dr's wife. We know plenty of female surgeons. Best case scenario, OP will finish med school at 35 and will start residency then. You don't know what you are talking about if you think OP will be able to have kids during surgical residency.

Ok, I'll be sure to tell that to my friends that had kids during their surgical,residency.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am also married to doctor, he did a surgical residency than a two year fellowship. Unlike pp dr's wife, I'd encourage you to follow your dream. yes, it was be an hour intensive (but no where close to what it was like before the mandated hours restrictions for residency), but I have seen my husband's peers who are women and younger residents and fellows complete their training and have children. Once the training is complete, many of the woman surgeons and medical doctors I know are able to work p/t schedules that I'm completely envious of, and can't think of a single other professional occupation which comes close in terms of flexibility. Go for it!

Perhaps you are referring to me when you refer to the pp dr's wife. We know plenty of female surgeons. Best case scenario, OP will finish med school at 35 and will start residency then. You don't know what you are talking about if you think OP will be able to have kids during surgical residency.

Ok, I'll be sure to tell that to my friends that had kids during their surgical,residency.

NP here, yes I am a female physician in a surgical sub specialty and had a child at the mid-point of my residency. Having local family and a flexible nanny were key parts of making this work.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am also married to doctor, he did a surgical residency than a two year fellowship. Unlike pp dr's wife, I'd encourage you to follow your dream. yes, it was be an hour intensive (but no where close to what it was like before the mandated hours restrictions for residency), but I have seen my husband's peers who are women and younger residents and fellows complete their training and have children. Once the training is complete, many of the woman surgeons and medical doctors I know are able to work p/t schedules that I'm completely envious of, and can't think of a single other professional occupation which comes close in terms of flexibility. Go for it!

Perhaps you are referring to me when you refer to the pp dr's wife. We know plenty of female surgeons. Best case scenario, OP will finish med school at 35 and will start residency then. You don't know what you are talking about if you think OP will be able to have kids during surgical residency.

Ok, I'll be sure to tell that to my friends that had kids during their surgical,residency.

Anonymous wrote:NP here. Thank you to everyone who posted. My dh has been considering med school but would need two years of science in the evening classes prior to sitting the mcat. Then a year of applying before starting so we too are looking at a long road. We have 1 child and 1 on the way in the fall. I love the idea of. A large family but don't know how realistic it would be to continue on in the baby preschool years as basically a single parent. For those that went through medachool or had a spouse do it with young children was it doable? Was medschool harder or residency? I Was thinking if we could be done with babies by residency it might not kill me. Any other advise would be awesome too.

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Anonymous wrote:I am also married to doctor, he did a surgical residency than a two year fellowship. Unlike pp dr's wife, I'd encourage you to follow your dream. yes, it was be an hour intensive (but no where close to what it was like before the mandated hours restrictions for residency), but I have seen my husband's peers who are women and younger residents and fellows complete their training and have children. Once the training is complete, many of the woman surgeons and medical doctors I know are able to work p/t schedules that I'm completely envious of, and can't think of a single other professional occupation which comes close in terms of flexibility. Go for it!

Perhaps you are referring to me when you refer to the pp dr's wife. We know plenty of female surgeons. Best case scenario, OP will finish med school at 35 and will start residency then. You don't know what you are talking about if you think OP will be able to have kids during surgical residency.