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Anonymous wrote:Goody bags are the worst, and if I had a child who expressed disappointment at the lack of one after having two hours of fun at a party to which someone else was kind enough to invite them, I'd feel like a failure as a parent.

They had better keep any emotions buttoned up. Mommy doesn't want to hear it.

They can express it all they want, and they'll be told to get over it. Not every emotion has to be indulged. It's not my job to give my child a disappointment-free life.

It's a little like vaccinations, though. You not providing gift bags has no effect on YOUR child since your birthday kid gets presents.

Parents who don't want them should start telling the host beforehand so they don't make one for you and then you should manage your own kid's emotions. Put your own kid's disappointment where your mouth is for a year before you lecture anyone else.

Does your kid REALLY need comforting and hand-holding on account of no goody bag? Really?

Anonymous wrote:So all you parents who don't believe in giving kids a goody bag full of cheap plastic crap from China, you also tell all the people you invited "no gifts", right? Because when they give your kid a gift, that's just more cheap plastic crap from China that's going to clutter up your house. And poison them with toxic fumes, and stuff.

And no doubt all your kids toys are hand-made by American artisans, too, right? Because you care too much to buy your children cheap plastic crap from China?

I have no issues with plastic made in China. But what goes into the goody bags is invariably useless and clearly just stuffed there to check a box. We honestly don't need another whistle or pack of sprinkles or whatever. I'd feel the same way over the useless wooden stuff hand-made by virgins under the Himalayan moonlight. It's just silly trinkets. Don't need'em.

So all you parents who don't believe in giving kids a goody bag full of cheap plastic crap from China, you also tell all the people you invited "no gifts", right? Because when they give your kid a gift, that's just more cheap plastic crap from China that's going to clutter up your house. And poison them with toxic fumes, and stuff.

And no doubt all your kids toys are hand-made by American artisans, too, right? Because you care too much to buy your children cheap plastic crap from China?

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Anonymous wrote:Goody bags are the worst, and if I had a child who expressed disappointment at the lack of one after having two hours of fun at a party to which someone else was kind enough to invite them, I'd feel like a failure as a parent.

They had better keep any emotions buttoned up. Mommy doesn't want to hear it.

They can express it all they want, and they'll be told to get over it. Not every emotion has to be indulged. It's not my job to give my child a disappointment-free life.

It's a little like vaccinations, though. You not providing gift bags has no effect on YOUR child since your birthday kid gets presents.

Parents who don't want them should start telling the host beforehand so they don't make one for you and then you should manage your own kid's emotions. Put your own kid's disappointment where your mouth is for a year before you lecture anyone else.

Only on DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:Ha! I guess I'm the same way, then! I hate putting together goodie bags, especially when I have upwards of 15-22 kids coming (you never really know, do you, so you also have to have several extras just in case it's a full house and then some)! And I'm not really all that excited to be on the receiving end, either, of a bunch of plastic junk that's going to break in 5 minutes and make my kids boo-hoo, or have to worry about the toxic smells that some of this crap emits. I try to throw it out before my kids get invested in it, so that, mm-mm, we can all enjoy the delicious plastic toxins later when they enter our bloodstream through the food chain.

This is the stupidest nonsense I've heard in DCUM in a long time. You really went full retard on that one.

But I guess you had to push the envelope to find a way to avoid admitting the obvious truth that you are a bitter, miserly, joyless person.

She sounds fun. Lots of people in this thread agree with her. I'd rather spend more time enjoying the party than stuffing stupid plastic bags with stupid plastic stuff.

I think it's great to skip the goody bags. Esp. if you're giving them tickets.
But if you are going to give goody bags, it doesn't have to be crap. You can give good, real things. One year i gave each kid a tape measure. A real one. It was a party for four year olds, so they loved that. Another year I gave everyone a seedling in a pot.

Anonymous wrote:Ha! I guess I'm the same way, then! I hate putting together goodie bags, especially when I have upwards of 15-22 kids coming (you never really know, do you, so you also have to have several extras just in case it's a full house and then some)! And I'm not really all that excited to be on the receiving end, either, of a bunch of plastic junk that's going to break in 5 minutes and make my kids boo-hoo, or have to worry about the toxic smells that some of this crap emits. I try to throw it out before my kids get invested in it, so that, mm-mm, we can all enjoy the delicious plastic toxins later when they enter our bloodstream through the food chain.

This is the stupidest nonsense I've heard in DCUM in a long time. You really went full retard on that one.

But I guess you had to push the envelope to find a way to avoid admitting the obvious truth that you are a bitter, miserly, joyless person.

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Anonymous wrote:Goody bags are the worst, and if I had a child who expressed disappointment at the lack of one after having two hours of fun at a party to which someone else was kind enough to invite them, I'd feel like a failure as a parent.

They had better keep any emotions buttoned up. Mommy doesn't want to hear it.

They can express it all they want, and they'll be told to get over it. Not every emotion has to be indulged. It's not my job to give my child a disappointment-free life.

It's a little like vaccinations, though. You not providing gift bags has no effect on YOUR child since your birthday kid gets presents.

Parents who don't want them should start telling the host beforehand so they don't make one for you and then you should manage your own kid's emotions. Put your own kid's disappointment where your mouth is for a year before you lecture anyone else.

We never pick up goody bags unless pressed so my 5-year old doesn't even know what they are, much less to expect them. So I'd say I am managing his emotions just fine.

You seem weirdly invested in throwaway bags of plastic crap.

I posted in another thread that I once did a craft flowerpot party activity which became the thing to take home at the end of the party.
2 boys asked me indignantly where the goody bags were and I told him that the flowerpot and seeds was their thing to take home. several parents thanked me for the alternative to a goody bag.
If my son were to respond so negatively about not getting a goodie bag, I would teach him some manners, so that he's not acting entitled. I would be very happy for my DC to Be a guest of op and not get any goodie bag at all.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. The party was today, and a grand time was had by all. All the kids had a blast. They had pizza, cake, and lots and lots of tokens to play all the games they could play. No one was emotionally damaged by not getting a goody bag at the end. I have not been shunned by the other parents as far as I can tell. I'm pretty sure life will go on and the earth will continue to rotate.

You are still a cheapskate, a killjoy, and a generally lame person though.

It would suck to be related to you.

Oh stop with the dramatics. I'm a very nice person who gave my kid and his friends a very nice, fun party. Just because they didn't get a bag of Chinese plastic garbage to take home does not make me all those things. You people are ridiculous. It's a stupid goody bag FFS.

You are a miserable, bitter shrew who lacks even the tiny amount of generosity required to make kids happy with goody bags. All for the sake of some stupid "principles" that make no sense at all.

You have no friends, and all the other parents think you are totally lame.

Ha! I guess I'm the same way, then! I hate putting together goodie bags, especially when I have upwards of 15-22 kids coming (you never really know, do you, so you also have to have several extras just in case it's a full house and then some)! And I'm not really all that excited to be on the receiving end, either, of a bunch of plastic junk that's going to break in 5 minutes and make my kids boo-hoo, or have to worry about the toxic smells that some of this crap emits. I try to throw it out before my kids get invested in it, so that, mm-mm, we can all enjoy the delicious plastic toxins later when they enter our bloodstream through the food chain.

And yet we do seem to continue to draw big crowds at these "totally lame" birthday parties.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. The party was today, and a grand time was had by all. All the kids had a blast. They had pizza, cake, and lots and lots of tokens to play all the games they could play. No one was emotionally damaged by not getting a goody bag at the end. I have not been shunned by the other parents as far as I can tell. I'm pretty sure life will go on and the earth will continue to rotate.

You are still a cheapskate, a killjoy, and a generally lame person though.

It would suck to be related to you.

Oh stop with the dramatics. I'm a very nice person who gave my kid and his friends a very nice, fun party. Just because they didn't get a bag of Chinese plastic garbage to take home does not make me all those things. You people are ridiculous. It's a stupid goody bag FFS.

You are a miserable, bitter shrew who lacks even the tiny amount of generosity required to make kids happy with goody bags. All for the sake of some stupid "principles" that make no sense at all.

You have no friends, and all the other parents think you are totally lame.

Nope my circle of friends decided no goodie bags years ago. Any outsiders or new invites always thank me for no goodie bag. I think you are a troll because there is no way a grown woman gets this worked up about their spoiled little brat not getting a fucking goodie bag.

Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. The party was today, and a grand time was had by all. All the kids had a blast. They had pizza, cake, and lots and lots of tokens to play all the games they could play. No one was emotionally damaged by not getting a goody bag at the end. I have not been shunned by the other parents as far as I can tell. I'm pretty sure life will go on and the earth will continue to rotate.

You go mamma!!!!

Ignore the haters OP. I have 3 kids and feel like we have at least one birthday party per week. Some have goody bags and some don't. My kids have never expressed disappointment about not getting them. Some of my children's friends don't host birthday parties at all. Guess what: my kids still like them too!

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Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. The party was today, and a grand time was had by all. All the kids had a blast. They had pizza, cake, and lots and lots of tokens to play all the games they could play. No one was emotionally damaged by not getting a goody bag at the end. I have not been shunned by the other parents as far as I can tell. I'm pretty sure life will go on and the earth will continue to rotate.

You are still a cheapskate, a killjoy, and a generally lame person though.

It would suck to be related to you.

Oh stop with the dramatics. I'm a very nice person who gave my kid and his friends a very nice, fun party. Just because they didn't get a bag of Chinese plastic garbage to take home does not make me all those things. You people are ridiculous. It's a stupid goody bag FFS.

You are a miserable, bitter shrew who lacks even the tiny amount of generosity required to make kids happy with goody bags. All for the sake of some stupid "principles" that make no sense at all.

You have no friends, and all the other parents think you are totally lame.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the OP. The party was today, and a grand time was had by all. All the kids had a blast. They had pizza, cake, and lots and lots of tokens to play all the games they could play. No one was emotionally damaged by not getting a goody bag at the end. I have not been shunned by the other parents as far as I can tell. I'm pretty sure life will go on and the earth will continue to rotate.

I'm glad to hear the world has not ended. That's a relief.

Did you expect the children to express their disappointment to you? Or their parents to express their sentiments publicly?

I didn't expect anyone to express any disappointment. They all had a great time. What's to be disappointed about?